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Q: Am I Preg? Help Please Worried Sick

asked by: amino65 on April 10th, 2006

Experienced User

Okay, here goes. I just lost my virginity so I might be very paranoid, but here's the story

i have been having protected sex (condom) with my boyfriend, and we both check for breaks everytime we are done, and we have never found one. The day of my last period was the 2nd of march. I usually have a 30 day cycle, so I should have started again on the 31st of march. It's april 10th and I have yet to get my period. I have taken 2 preg tests (once 2 days late, and again 6 days late, both morning urine), and both came back clearly negative, and I have no symptoms. The only thing I can think of why i'm late because i'm 1) stressing over school and work, and 2) worrying about being pregnant.

On the 6th of march my bf and I had protected sex but weren't sure if it leaked, so I took the morning after pill the next day.

My question is, if you usually start your period when you normally would when you take that pill, when would I start, if i'm already over a week late???

I really need some advice please.

Replies(17)

Mabel

replied on April 10th, 2006

Supporter

The morning after pill may very well have messed up your cycle, as it has been known to do. Maybe you could go to planned parenthood and discuss additional methods of birth control. Condoms are a must but there are also other things to use in addition to them (spermicide, cervical caps, birth control pills, etc).

Good luck!

amino65

replied on April 10th, 2006

Experienced User

Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately, this experience has been so traumatic :( , that I have vowed not to have sex anymore until i'm either married or can get the pill or the patch.

So by what you have said, the morning after pill can mess up my cycle (i am aware that it does not abort an established pregnancy), but as I am unsure whether I am pregnant or not (despite 2 negative tests) I will take another [test] in a couple of days. By now, I should have enough of the hormone because if I were pregnant I would be about 5 weeks now. So we'll see. :cry:

i have been cramping as if I am about to start my period and have been having a clear discharge, but I don't, maybe it's just wishful thinking.

n0rthernbelle

replied on April 11th, 2006

Experienced User

No need to scare the poor girl - yes, pregnancy is always a possibility, but considering the type of contraception she used, it's an .E.X.T.R.E.M.E.L.Y remote one. Shasta, based on what you told us, i'm 99.99999% sure you are not pregnant. You used condoms and the morning-after pill, sweetheart! And had two clearly negative pregnancy tests with no symptoms! I know it's easy to feel paranoid until your period comes, but i'm almost positive you're not pregnant based on what you told us. The morning after pill can screw up your cycle, making your period a week late. You can take another test but I personally wouldn't waste my money.

Mabel

replied on April 11th, 2006

Supporter

You should still look into other methods of birth control to use with condoms. This will help you feel more at ease in the future.

Sex is way better when you don't have to worry about getting pregnant.

Good luck. You'll be fine.

amino65

replied on April 11th, 2006

Experienced User

Thank you all so much you guys, i've steadily been feeling better. And thank you all for your concern, don't worry I wasn't being scared, I know I messed up. I talked with my boyfriend and told him that if we weren't ready for the possible consequences of sex then maybe we should reconsider. And the thing about birth control is... Well, my parents would never go for it (i'm an extremely overprotected catholic who is the youngest and is the only girl.), so I wouldn't know how to go about it without my parents knowing, because (shamefully) i'm kinda naive about the whole thing.

As my period hasn't started yet (but I am starting to get cramps), i'll wait a few more days before I take another test. If this one comes back negative too, i'll stop worrying.

Again, thank you very much, I really needed feedback on this. Hopefully the next time I write back is when i've started my period.

amino65

replied on April 11th, 2006

Experienced User

For clarity's sake, I know what the repercussions of my actions are, I wasn't born yesterday, and haven't lived under a rock. I know reality isn't all nice and good. I was simply asking for input, not a moral lecture. I already knew beforehand what I shouldn't have done, just because I didn't say it on here doesn't mean I wasn't thinking it.

I know there can be some bashing on these forums, and I wasn't trying to offend, I was simply asking for help. As for me waiting till I get married, that's what I meant by starting a family. Marriage in my mind is the union of two people who are emotinally and financially able, and if two are in this situation, then we should be ready for any child we would have.

Anyway, thank you again, it was a relief to here input from an outsiders point of view instead of worrying alone.

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on April 11th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

shasta205 wrote:

for clarity's sake, I know what the repercussions of my actions are, I wasn't born yesterday, and haven't lived under a rock. I know reality isn't all nice and good. I was simply asking for input, not a moral lecture. I already knew beforehand what I shouldn't have done, just because I didn't say it on here doesn't mean I wasn't thinking it.

I know there can be some bashing on these forums, and I wasn't trying to offend, I was simply asking for help. As for me waiting till I get married, that's what I meant by starting a family. Marriage in my mind is the union of two people who are emotinally and financially able, and if two are in this situation, then we should be ready for any child we would have.

Anyway, thank you again, it was a relief to here input from an outsiders point of view instead of worrying alone.

hey I bow to you...Because most the time girls that are worried about pregnancy that come here usually dont use any kind of protection...So atleast you are using condoms..And taking the right steps to get put on birth control..You seem really smart about the whole deal..Just be more careful--start taking bc soon!

Mabel

replied on April 12th, 2006

Supporter

shasta205 wrote:

thank you all so much you guys, i've steadily been feeling better. And thank you all for your concern, don't worry I wasn't being scared, I know I messed up. I talked with my boyfriend and told him that if we weren't ready for the possible consequences of sex then maybe we should reconsider. And the thing about birth control is... Well, my parents would never go for it (i'm an extremely overprotected catholic who is the youngest and is the only girl.), so I wouldn't know how to go about it without my parents knowing, because (shamefully) i'm kinda naive about the whole thing.

As my period hasn't started yet (but I am starting to get cramps), i'll wait a few more days before I take another test. If this one comes back negative too, i'll stop worrying.

Again, thank you very much, I really needed feedback on this. Hopefully the next time I write back is when i've started my period.

if you are in the states, you can go to planned parenthood. They do not tell your parents and you can get free birth control. They can discuss various methods of birth control with you.

Good luck!

amino65

replied on April 14th, 2006

Experienced User

Whew ok, here's the story.

So I was exactly 2 weeks late today, and I had decided to take a pregnancy test in the morning. So I took it, and literally 5 seconds later I just start laughing, because my situation was so ironic. Right after I took the test, I started my period. My boyfriend was like "really??" and I was just laughing...

Thank god. But if I were pregnant, I was considering abortion, but I don't think I could ever bring myself to do it. So in a way, i'm glad I wasn't. I definately will be more careful in the future.

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on April 14th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Yea, you might wanna be a little more careful. Taking a baby's life because of your bad judgment is just not something i'd take lightly. I'm glad you're not pregnant to and i'm glad you realize what you did was irresponsible.

If you were to get pregnant, consider adoption over abortion. There are thousands, maybe millions of couples who would literally .D.I.E to have a baby....

Sarah

Mabel

replied on April 14th, 2006

Supporter

shasta205 wrote:

whew ok, here's the story.

So I was exactly 2 weeks late today, and I had decided to take a pregnancy test in the morning. So I took it, and literally 5 seconds later I just start laughing, because my situation was so ironic. Right after I took the test, I started my period. My boyfriend was like "really??" and I was just laughing...

Thank god. But if I were pregnant, I was considering abortion, but I don't think I could ever bring myself to do it. So in a way, i'm glad I wasn't. I definately will be more careful in the future.

yay. Funny how a negative pregnancy test can start your period right up, huh? Glad everything worked out. Now go get some birth control, girl!

amino65

replied on April 15th, 2006

Experienced User

Thanx again to everyone who provided input and support. Lol, and ingi, I think i'm too traumatized to think of sex for awhile. I'll def get birth control when I start having sex again though.

I did have a question though.
I have heard that living with other women or working alot with women can influence when you start your period. I.E, if ur sis starts her period you will soon start yours.
I wonder if this is true? Cuuz my mom and I used to start our periods around the same time, but then hers got all funny (she's in her mid 40's). Just a thought.

Carrie-Lucie

replied on April 15th, 2006

Experienced User

I don't know - I think it can happen...

I know what you're going through with the whole "overprotected catholic thing" things. I have five older brothers and am the only girl but my parents said that they would really rather that I ended up on birth control than pregnant again... Over here though you don't have to have permission. How old are you ~ because if you are over the legal age for sex then you can get it without permission anywhere I think!

Hope this helps - it really is better to go on birth control cos your views on sex might change. :)

ElsaSchultz

replied on April 15th, 2006

Experienced User

shasta205 wrote:

thanx again to everyone who provided input and support. Lol, and ingi, I think i'm too traumatized to think of sex for awhile. I'll def get birth control when I start having sex again though.

I did have a question though.

I have heard that living with other women or working alot with women can influence when you start your period. I.E, if ur sis starts her period you will soon start yours.
I wonder if this is true? Cuuz my mom and I used to start our periods around the same time, but then hers got all funny (she's in her mid 40's). Just a thought.

yes, that's definitely true. It happens to me a lot. Everytime I start working with a new group of women we do this. It's embarrassing, but funny ("did you start yet?" "yeah, yesterday." "me, too." etc).

I honestly really doubt that you're pregnant. I suppose it is possible, but I would be very surprised if you were.

amino65

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

Lol, i'm not pregnant. I took a test and right after I did, I started my period. And if it is true that other women can influence when you start your period, I guess I could see why I hadn't started mine... My boss was 3 weeks late (wasn't preggo) and my co-worker is on depo, so she's all over the place (never regular).

I'm 19, so i'm able to get birth control without my parents knowing, but the thing is, I know that no birth control is 100%... So I think i'd rather just abstain for awhile until i'm not so traumatized. I agree that if I don't think I can handle a baby, I shouldn't be having sex, even with birth control, cuz things can still happen.

Thanx again everyone.

Tylanas

replied on April 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

shasta205 wrote:

lol, i'm not pregnant. I took a test and right after I did, I started my period. And if it is true that other women can influence when you start your period, I guess I could see why I hadn't started mine... My boss was 3 weeks late (wasn't preggo) and my co-worker is on depo, so she's all over the place (never regular).

I'm 19, so i'm able to get birth control without my parents knowing, but the thing is, I know that no birth control is 100%... So I think i'd rather just abstain for awhile until i'm not so traumatized. I agree that if I don't think I can handle a baby, I shouldn't be having sex, even with birth control, cuz things can still happen.

Thanx again everyone.

no birth control is 100%...

However, I do suggest birth control pills for not only protection from pregnancy, but also because they regulate your period, they lessen any cramps ou might have during your period, and they even reduce acne :)

and honestly... Using bcp's and a condom is basically 100% effective... If I heard of a woman getting pregnant who was correctly using birth control pills and used a condom that didn't break, i'd be amazed. Actually, i'd be amazed to hear of a woman getting pregnant with an unbroken condom, period. (no pun intended)

amino65

replied on April 17th, 2006

Experienced User

Hey guys :)
i realize that there is a very remote chance that I would get preg with bcp and condoms, but there is still that chance. And I wouldn't be able to deal with it now, should something happen. So I think i'll just wait. Thank you all so much for your input and concern for me, this site is awesome.

As for the bcp, I know it is nice to take to regulate periods and reduce acne and cramps, but as I have none of these problems, I think i'll forego the pills. (this was the first time in years that I was ever late for more than 2 days). But i'll definately start taking em when I think about sex again. I don't ever want to go through this again.

Lol so I guess sandralynn was right, I scared myself straight o_o!

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