I have just recently learned of BPD, however it is the condition my now Ex Wife suffers from. After 7 years of the eggshell thing, each explosive episode & attacks both verbal & physical, grew in intensity.
Total loss of reality, begins with long term intense negativity, constant argument with someone ( always in hate mode to someone) rotating between her parents, then her children (grown) then to me, crisis after crisis. The intense & loving person I came to love, migrated into a demon consumed with fits of anger.
I attempted to passively yet agressively limit her destructive behavior, yet the "black hole" of her world soon consumed me & all around her, causing emotional, financial & trust damage to where suicide, or more became dailyconversation.
As attempts to reason issues in conversation, facing fact we may not make it as a couple were discussed, or threatened by her, things became worse..until for safety reasons had to leave.
My actual process of moving out, created total mental breakdown, suicide attempt & destruction of all household items.
This is a woman I love, but through long, painfull & destructive decline, lives in abject misery, desperate for stability, love & normal life, who with every word & every action, causes the exact opposite to occur.
She is 55, so the articles I have read who state this declines in age, are very wrong..
Had I known of the existance of BPD,I may have understood the problem more..however it appears little can be done to remedy, as it is a chronic, lifetime affliction....
I fear for her safety & happiness.. though therapy is the stated most effective treatment, those who are in her real, everyday life suffer a great deal, just by association.
Is there anything more that can be done, to be involved in a solution?