Hey leo...In my own personal experience, I can't really help. But my best friend of over 15 years was a virgin till he was 22. And he's still with the very first girl he slept with.

The simple fact is, virginity is not embarassing, and you shouldn't allow it to become so. Next time you're down on yourself for not having had sex yet, think of being in your exact shoes right now, with a kid or two....

The time will come for you, as it does for pretty much everyone. Instead of talking to a girl and thinking "what's she gonna think about me being a virgin?" ask yourself "what would I think of this girl if i'd slept with 20 people already?"

a lot of it is psychological, and the more you outcast yourself for being a virgin, the more you will think others are outcasting you. If you find a girl you truly like, and truly likes you back...Virginity won't be a big factor.

Thanks for the reply. I guess my main concern is that a girl won't like me for who I am, but instead will judge me on how bad I am in bed. I know it's psychological, but its tough when you go out with some guys and they are picking up and i'm not. I guess my greatest fear is telling a girl that I really like, that I am a virgin and then she turns around and laughs in my face.

Hey don't feel bad.I'm a 36 year old virgin female.There are good women like myself.These women will love you for yourself.

I would much prefer someone like you to a guy who has gone with anything and everything on offer. I'd hate to be with a guy who thinks like that! Honestly, I would. It is only embarassing if someone makes fun, and if they do then they are not worth worrying about because they have an attitude problem.
I am encouraged to hear that not all men are out there "getting what they can" its quite refreshing for a woman to hear that.
And you might meet a girl who hasn't either, in which case she will feel releved that you haven't and find that a positive thing. So don't worry, ok? Many people will respect it, yes even for a man.

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why do you think you are going to suck in bed?? Just because a man is not virgin doesn't mean he won't suck in bed. As long as you don't have erectile dysfunction you won't suck in bed trust me.

I'm exactly the same man. I'm 20 and i'm still a virgin and your situation is exactly the same as mine. One or two brief sexual encounters have made me really nervous about sex and now iv lost all my confidence with the opposite sex. I feel like its always gonna be like that aswel, which deep down I know is not true but at the moment I dont see things changing. I wish sex wasnt such a major thing in modern society. All my friends have girlfriend too which makes things even worse. Most of them probably think i'm gay, when in fact i'm just useless. I get really embarrassed when they all start talking about sexual partners aswel because I dont want to tell them that i'm still a virgin. Help me please!

Don't assume that you'll be terrible in bed because of lack of experience. Granted, there are some women out there who will judge you based on your sexual experience, and those who will are not worth your time and probably will not be all that interested in a long-term relationship. However, there are some wonderful, understanding women out there who won't care how experienced you are and they'll love you for who you are, not what you do to please them.

Don't let these feelings of anxiety get you down - I know that's easier said than done, but don't feel like a total failure because you still retain your virginity. There are virgins out there that are your age and much older, so try not to feel like your the world's last living virgin. I know it can be psychologically tolling to think that you're a virgin in such a sexualized world as the one we live in, but don't let that take control of your love life. If you really want to be with someone, keep your eyes open - remember that relationships are a matter of trials and errors.

I think that's the most important thing when you will meet your future partner, because hopefully you will, is to be totally sincere and clear with her about your virginity, about why you feel like you would be bad in bed ( and by the way, being virgin has nothing to do with beinn g bad in bed, i know some experienced men who are still bad in bed inspite of verious partners and experiences). But the most important is to be in a trustful relationship where the girl will reassure you.

Honestly man, there are probably a lot of guys out there that are virgins, I'm a very attractive guy but I have issues being outgoing and meeting people, I was 25 when I lost my virginity and it turned out to be nothing of what I expected it to be, because it meant nothing. You should focus on meeting a cool girl that you get along with and that you really like. If the girl really likes you as a friend and the person you are, she won't care, and neither will you as far as how she performs. I think the biggest thing you're struggling with is the lack of love in your life not getting laid, if you take time to get to know each other I'm sure a girl would rather be with you, because they aren't being used, and will feel a stronger spiritual and emotional connection with you than someone else.