Erection Firmness And Size Problem? Posted: 04-09-06 17:58pm
I've been in the a relationship with a
fantastic girl for the past two months.
But it seems that there's a problem that
may prevent us from staying together(at
least from her pov). She seems quite
sexual experienced, much more so than me.
It appears that she is not enjoying sex
with me very much. The first few times
were great, she was on top and really in
control, couldn't believe I lasted so
long, I didn't even orgasm the first few
times. Then the past few times, i've
been having trouble getting a firm
erection right away and staying firm.
She said she was disappointed because she
took it as a sign that I wasn't sexually
attracted to her, which is not the case.
Now, she's admitted to me that it just
doesn't feel good. She's had prior long
relationships where the sex was great.
I couldn't get her to specify but I think
it's because I haven't been getting hard
enough to stimulated her gspot, which she
is really in touch with. She tells me
that there's nothing I can do about this
problem and that it is important to her to
have a good sexual relationship. I can
make her orgasm manually, but she says
that's just masturbating using my finger.
Apparently, i've had success making her
orgasm thru intercourse earlier on, but
she thinks I was just lucky(huh?).
It seems that she tries to stimulate it
with her on top, grinding with her hips or
doggie style either up or down against the
bed. I don't know what's happened most
recently, but I can't seem to have a firm
enough erection. I like her being on
top because it seems that I don't get too
excited too quickly that way yet stay
somewhat hard. Doggie style with her on
her knees I know is good to get to her
gspot but I don't seem to enjoy it too
much. I really enjoy but orgasm too
quickly when I enter her from behind with
her lying on her stomach.
My past experience is that I don't enjoy
using condoms. Erection goes away
quickly if there's difficulty getting it
on fast enough. She apparently is
allergic to it, so we don't use it. I
tend to get too excited this way. I do
masturbate, about every other day or so.
Perhaps that is causing trouble and I
should stop.
Any suggestions? I'm tempted to resort
to ed pills like viagra.
Thanks
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Human
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 89
Posted: 04-11-06 11:57am
Yeah obviously masterbating and being in a
relationship is too much. Stop
masterbating and your erection firmness
should get back to normal.
Quick question though do you feel like you
have a regular erection when your
masterbating by yourself?
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tony3595
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 68 Location: IL
Posted: 04-11-06 12:34pm
Here's another thought. Do you have the
feeling everytime you make love that you
must perform extremely well to meet her
expectations? Once this thought hits your
mind do you lose the hardness? I do know
and can attest to the fact the more
pressure you are under to do it all, the
less effective you can be.
Masturbation was never really a cause for
my problem, as a matter of fact it
enhanced my stamina, things lasted
longer.
Fill us in.
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hull22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Apr 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 04-11-06 18:42pm
Oh, i'm not masturbating much anymore. I
guess it's true that my erections aren't
as hard while masturbating.
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charlie5021
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Apr 2006 Posts: 3 Location: sydney, australia
I have the same problem. I have had a
vasectomy many years ago, and I have
difficulty using a condom-ie-limp +++
i have a suspicion that the vasectomy may
be part / whole of the problem, though I
have never seen any reports on this
fact.
Can any subscriber help out on this
question.
Cheers!
