I have been with my fiance for almost 3
years, we have been living together for
most of that time. We didn't have sex for
just over a year of our relationship
although we did other things and our sex
life was great. We started having sex but
it was always slightly painful for me, it
felt as though he was just too big.
Anyway we don't really have that much sex
because it is painful to do so for me. He
doesn't care that we don't have sex which
is nice but I care, and I would like him
to have more of an interest in sex. We
can do other things like we use to in the
begining of our relationship but he just
doesn't seem to have a sex drive. He
wants to fool around about 1 time a month
at best! I'll admit I don't have a big
sex drive either but it isn't that low and
furthermore I need that intimacy and
connection. He is, after all, suppose to
be my lover. It just feels like there is
no chemistry between us at all. That use
to not be the case but it has been almost
a year since I feel like we have had a
normal sex life. There is just no sparks
or chemistry. We are getting married in a
few months, I have no doubts about it I
know I want to be with him but I am really
concerned that this could become a big
issue. What normal couples don't have a
sex life? I don't want to end up in a
marraige where we are sleeping in separate
bedrooms. Is this a red flag? I don't
want to be looking back divorced 10 years
from now thinking "well, the signs were
there that it wasn't right". We have so
much between us and I would do anything to
make it work but he just seems like he
doesn't want sex (or any fooling around)
and he doesn't care that we dont' have sex
(or any fooling around). It is truly like
he is indifferent to sex and whether or
not he gets it. Could this be a hormonal
imbalance? Should I ask him to see a dr?
Is that rude to ask someone? Could it be
something else? What could be the
problem?
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asher
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Apr 2006 Posts: 32 Location: pakistan
Re: Sex Drive Posted: 04-09-06 18:46pm
questions101
wrote:
i have been with my fiance
for almost 3 years, we have been living
together for most of that time. We
didn't have sex for just over a year of
our relationship although we did other
things and our sex life was great. We
started having sex but it was always
slightly painful for me, it felt as though
he was just too big. Anyway we don't
really have that much sex because it is
painful to do so for me. He doesn't care
that we don't have sex which is nice but I
care, and I would like him to have more of
an interest in sex. We can do other
things like we use to in the begining of
our relationship but he just doesn't seem
to have a sex drive. He wants to fool
around about 1 time a month at best!
I'll admit I don't have a big sex drive
either but it isn't that low and
furthermore I need that intimacy and
connection. He is, after all, suppose to
be my lover. It just feels like there is
no chemistry between us at all. That use
to not be the case but it has been almost
a year since I feel like we have had a
normal sex life. There is just no sparks
or chemistry. We are getting married in
a few months, I have no doubts about it I
know I want to be with him but I am really
concerned that this could become a big
issue. What normal couples don't have a
sex life? I don't want to end up in a
marraige where we are sleeping in separate
bedrooms. Is this a red flag? I don't
want to be looking back divorced 10 years
from now thinking "well, the signs were
there that it wasn't right". We have so
much between us and I would do anything to
make it work but he just seems like he
doesn't want sex (or any fooling around)
and he doesn't care that we dont' have sex
(or any fooling around). It is truly
like he is indifferent to sex and whether
or not he gets it. Could this be a
hormonal imbalance? Should I ask him to
see a dr? Is that rude to ask someone?
Could it be something else? What could
be the
problem?
hi its important to know b4 u get into it
becas in married lif sex built a bound
between two partner 4 more discussions I
sent u personnal mesg & gave u my id
contact me on that
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Human
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 89
Posted: 04-11-06 11:46am
Well if your concerned a hormonal
inmbalance would cause loss of sex drive
but you said it wasn't like that before so
its not likely. Does he masterbate?
Frankly i'm not even sure how its possible
to have sex once a month.
Honestly though if having sex with my
girlfriend just caused her pain it would
probably be a huge turn off for me.
Initially I wouldn't care but then after
awhile i'm sure it'll make me want to have
a lot less sex with her.
Have you guys tried lubrication?
