I Really Need Help!!!

I know you said you don't want to hear this, but really, you should say no.

A) no method of birth control is 100% reliable. None.
B) if he doesn't want to wear a condom, he's immature. And if he thinks pulling out will do the trick, he's an fool. It does not work.
C) if you're not willing to accep being pregnant, you shouldn't have sex. Period.

That said, if you insist on having sex anyway, then insist on him wearing a condom. I don't care what his reasons for not wanting to are; if he cares about you at all, he will do it. And no matter what you think, if you believe you are going to have sex in the near future, you better seriously start thinking about a visit to the clinic for some bc pills.

I admire you for at least coming here and looking for advice... At least you just aren't saying "screw it" and running out to have sex anyway. But, seriously, please think about this before you do it. And .D.O.N'.T let him pressure you into .A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christ, I was busy playing with my barbie dolls at 12.

Some advice though...If he doesnt want to wear a condom ask him if he is ready to be a father...That is the reality of it.

Ok first off are yall dating? As in a few months or one of those "ok your my boyfriend for a few days". Im not being mean but when I was your age a steady boyfriend lasted till the next school dance. A lot has changed since then so explain... Do you really trust this guy? Are your fellings strong for each other? You have to have trust in someone now days. For pregnacy, std's, rumors, I could go on and on. Plus if he said he know's how to "pull out" think about it.....How did he get so good at it? And being good at unprotected sex isn't a very good thing sweetie. Honestly if your a smart girl tell him to wait a while because if he waits then he really likes you and if he doesn't your nothing but another piece a*s. Sorry that sounds harsh but welcome to the teen years. I have a little sister your age so don't take this the wrong way im just imaging her having sex and then imagine myself in jail for killing a little punk. Pm me if you want to talk.

Not to be rude or anything, but why not wait? I'm not saying wait until marriage or wait until you're 25. But why not wait until you're a little older? You're 12. You've likely just barely gone through puberty yet. Why would you want to look back and say that you lost your virginity before you even had a chance to date a bit first? That you lost your virginity to basically the first guy you thought was "ok"??

If you can't even stand up for yourself, you're not ready to have sex.

If you're just going to be a pushover for any guy who comes along and says "let's do it without a condom." you're going to end up with a couple kids and some stds to boot by the time your my age.

Haha how true is that jillian, i'm expecting it at least by monday.

Haha..Yeah maybe not even that long!!

She's gonna come back and cry because "this forum is for support, and answers not for people to judge others" haha I can just see it, i've seen it a million times. But people don't understand that if they wouldn't ask stupid questions we wouldn't be rude. Get a freaking clue already lol

Lol exactly. But I kinda like telling people how it is (sometimes) just because I don't do much of it in real life lol its fuuuuuun

You're only 12 so I don't think you have any business having sex. You're still a damn kid. But no matter what anyone says you're going to do it anyway. So be smart and make him wear a condom. The pull out method isn't a form of birth control so you can still get pregnant. And it's not just pregnancy you have to worry about. If this guy is willing to have unprotected sex with you just like that then what makes you think he hasn't with anyone else also. You could end up with a sexual disease.

And no you can't get the pill or patch or any type of birth control like that just from the store. And even if you could you wouldn't be able to rely on it as soon as you took it. It takes a month for the hormone in the birth control to start to work.

Obviously there's a lot you need to learn before you even think about having sex.

Ur still a kid!!!! Shouldnt u wait till u meet a proper guy, like bf sumet, I mean I never ever even thought about sex at 12..... I was playing with barbies, n hanging with my mates.... You should make him wear a condom, u dont know where he hasbeen, he isnt a trustworthy guy if he dosnt, he might have hiv, aids anything..... I mean my bf wore one untill I got know him better... I been him 3yr now, and im on the pill. Is this guy worth haveing sex with???? If he wasnts to put u in danger, I mean he might slept around alot... If u do have sex, get tested afterwards n get morning after pill from doctors..... Quote="pot_player_69"]omg!I really dont know what to do!!!!!This guy who is 16 now and I am 12 , we want to have sex , but he keeps telling me he doesnt want to ware a condom...I dont know what to do!I mean I know if we dont I will get pregnant and I really dont want that!Is there any other way for me to have sex w/ him w/out useing a condom? But not letting my parents find out about us having sex???? :oops: ???I feel preshured and need help!Please let me know if you have any ideas!But it has to be parent proof!And is there anything at stores that kids can get w/out a perscription besides condoms??? Or...He says also that he knows how to pull out? Can I trust that? I mean im not sure....Does this really work? I realy dont want to say no though...So please dont msg me saying I need to just tell him no.Thank you for reading and if you have anything that might help...Please tell me:) thaks soooooo much....Peace![/quote]