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Q: Adressing Him... And Need to Vent

asked by: Carrie-Lucie on April 6th, 2006

Experienced User

When people on here ask you to introduce yourself, I generally don't reply any more because I don't know how to phrase it. Any ideas on how I could say "i have a son called .Dylan who died" without it sounding like a play for sympathy (which as you all know I don't want)

maybe i'm being completely stupid and it doesn't sound like a play for sympathy, but it seems a bit blunt - however I don't want to have to launch into a whole medical thing and be like "my son .Dil died because of this on this date", they don't wanna know that.

Could I just say I have a son called .Dylan? I don't know - because even though he .I.S my son, he isn't here, and that sound like he is.

Sorry, today has been tough - my mate just had a baby and brought him round to see me - she was complaining about the lack of sleep and I was like "i would do anything for that."

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Melissa_20

replied on April 6th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Well if they just ask you to introduce yourself that doesn't necessarily mean you have to bring him up.Just introduce yourself and if they ask further questions then answer in a way you think will sound appropriate.Did that help at all?

diamondsz

replied on April 6th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Even though he passed carrie he will always be your son just say it the way you feel most comfortable saying it!!

Carrie-Lucie

replied on April 6th, 2006

Experienced User

Thanks guys :)

melissa, I feel awkward 'cos people generally say i'm pregnant, I have a baby or I am not pregnant and have no intention of being so for a long while. I guess I just feel like I don't fit any category.

Yeah you both helped.

hunterjumper

replied on April 6th, 2006

Experienced User

I would just say "i have a son dil." because you do. You don't need to elaborate unless they ask and you feel comfortable doing so. :-)

Melissa_20

replied on April 6th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

carrie-lucie wrote:

thanks guys :)

melissa, I feel awkward 'cos people generally say i'm pregnant, I have a baby or I am not pregnant and have no intention of being so for a long while. I guess I just feel like I don't fit any category.

Yeah you both helped.

ok,i understand a little more now.I have never had anyone ask me if I was preg or had a kid so had no idea.Diamondsz is right,answer in a way that you are comfy with.Dil is still your son and you still love him! <3

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on April 6th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Re: Adressing Him... And Need to Vent

carrie-lucie wrote:

when people on here ask you to introduce yourself, I generally don't reply any more because I don't know how to phrase it. Any ideas on how I could say "i have a son called .Dylan who died" without it sounding like a play for sympathy (which as you all know I don't want)

maybe i'm being completely stupid and it doesn't sound like a play for sympathy, but it seems a bit blunt - however I don't want to have to launch into a whole medical thing and be like "my son .Dil died because of this on this date", they don't wanna know that.

Could I just say I have a son called .Dylan? I don't know - because even though he .I.S my son, he isn't here, and that sound like he is.

Sorry, today has been tough - my mate just had a baby and brought him round to see me - she was complaining about the lack of sleep and I was like "i would do anything for that."

aww I know exactly how you feel..Everytime anyone ask me who my parents are ...Or like what they do for work..I am always lost for words..Because I feel like if I just come out and say well "they are dead"...That I put that person on the spot and they are like omg..Im so so sorry..But really and truely im okay with explaining the whole deal..But I know that your situation is a little different...I think it would be fine just to say ...I have a son named dylan..Because yes he is your son ..Regardless if he is alive or dead...Just like I always tell my friends..My parents are my parents in heaven or on earth..I know you will always miss your son ...Because heck my parents have been gone since 04 and I still pick the phone up to call them sometimes...But just to assure you things will get better as time goes by..

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