Adressing Him... And Need to Vent Posted: 04-06-06 03:30am
When people on here ask you to introduce
yourself, I generally don't reply any more
because I don't know how to phrase it.
Any ideas on how I could say "i have a son
called .Dylan who died" without it
sounding like a play for sympathy (which
as you all know I don't want)
maybe i'm being completely stupid and it
doesn't sound like a play for sympathy,
but it seems a bit blunt - however I don't
want to have to launch into a whole
medical thing and be like "my son .Dil
died because of this on this date", they
don't wanna know that.
Could I just say I have a son called
.Dylan? I don't know - because even
though he .I.S my son, he isn't here, and
that sound like he is.
Sorry, today has been tough - my mate just
had a baby and brought him round to see me
- she was complaining about the lack of
sleep and I was like "i would do anything
for that."
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-06-06 09:11am
Well if they just ask you to introduce
yourself that doesn't necessarily mean you
have to bring him up.Just introduce
yourself and if they ask further questions
then answer in a way you think will sound
appropriate.Did that help at all?
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diamondsz
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Posted: 04-06-06 09:15am
Even though he passed carrie he will
always be your son just say it the way you
feel most comfortable saying it!!
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Carrie-Lucie
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Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 188
Posted: 04-06-06 09:18am
Thanks guys :)
melissa, I feel awkward 'cos people
generally say i'm pregnant, I have a baby
or I am not pregnant and have no intention
of being so for a long while. I guess I
just feel like I don't fit any category.
Yeah you both helped.
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hunterjumper
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Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 203 Location: British Columbia, Canada
Posted: 04-06-06 09:35am
I would just say "i have a son dil."
because you do. You don't need to
elaborate unless they ask and you feel
comfortable doing so. :-)
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-06-06 09:38am
carrie-lucie
wrote:
thanks guys :)
melissa, I feel awkward 'cos people
generally say i'm pregnant, I have a baby
or I am not pregnant and have no intention
of being so for a long while. I guess I
just feel like I don't fit any category.
Yeah you both
helped.
ok,i understand a little more now.I have
never had anyone ask me if I was preg or
had a kid so had no idea.Diamondsz is
right,answer in a way that you are comfy
with.Dil is still your son and you still
love him! <3
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: Adressing Him... And Need to Vent Posted: 04-06-06 12:27pm
carrie-lucie
wrote:
when people on here ask you
to introduce yourself, I generally don't
reply any more because I don't know how to
phrase it. Any ideas on how I could say
"i have a son called .Dylan who died"
without it sounding like a play for
sympathy (which as you all know I don't
want)
maybe i'm being completely stupid and it
doesn't sound like a play for sympathy,
but it seems a bit blunt - however I don't
want to have to launch into a whole
medical thing and be like "my son .Dil
died because of this on this date", they
don't wanna know that.
Could I just say I have a son called
.Dylan? I don't know - because even
though he .I.S my son, he isn't here, and
that sound like he is.
Sorry, today has been tough - my mate just
had a baby and brought him round to see me
- she was complaining about the lack of
sleep and I was like "i would do anything
for that."
aww I know exactly how you feel..Everytime
anyone ask me who my parents are ...Or
like what they do for work..I am always
lost for words..Because I feel like if I
just come out and say well "they are
dead"...That I put that person on the spot
and they are like omg..Im so so sorry..But
really and truely im okay with explaining
the whole deal..But I know that your
situation is a little different...I think
it would be fine just to say ...I have a
son named dylan..Because yes he is your
son ..Regardless if he is alive or
dead...Just like I always tell my
friends..My parents are my parents in
heaven or on earth..I know you will always
miss your son ...Because heck my parents
have been gone since 04 and I still pick
the phone up to call them sometimes...But
just to assure you things will get better
as time goes by..
