You have every right to be concerned. I don't know how i'd be in the situation your in either. Sorry i'm not much help. Just be there for your sister when she needs you.

Oops I guess I wasn't logged in when I posted that.

Yeah, it's hard to be there for her when I live in fl and she's in upstate ny. It just feels awkward on the phone, since it's one of those things where you really don't know what to say.

I am 24 and 3 yrs ago I had a stillborn ( found out on my exact due date as well). So, I have a few suggestions for you. One thing you could do is be a good listener (goes without saying ) , never make comments like " it happened for a reason" "you can always have another one" . That just made me feel bad, like there was a silver lining to what happened. Maybe when you visit her at some point you could see pics of the baby (if she had any taken ) . Even though that might be very hard for you to look at. I had pics of my baby boy and they brought me to tears of course , and his appearance was difficult to look at, but I still liked it when family and friends wanted to see the pics. It made me feel like even though he had passed over he wasn't gone. And he was still important to the family. Another thing I did was attend a support group at the hospital, maybe suggest that to her. Maybe give her a book on grief and stillbirth. That helped me a little. Send her "thinking of you" cards since your far away. On the anniversary, send a card. ( I wish my family did this) on special holidays , like christmas you could send an engraved ornament or make one with the babies name on it. Every year to come , she'll be thinking of her little baby, so it would be nice if you remembered him too on special days. I know she would really appreciate that. If she got the baby cremated(we did) I got a special heart necklace ordered from the mortuary , where they enclose some of the ashes inside the heart. I never take off mine. Eventually I went on zoloft for about a yr. Which helped me tremendously. Really though , there is nothing anyone can do to take her grief away. I still think about my baby every day, even though I had another baby and I have a supportive family. It still was the worst experience of my life. Luckily , for me time did heal somewhat. So hopefully things will get better for your sister too. I know I rattled off a lot there, but I sort of wish my family would have got a message like this.

Hi
I have been there too. I know how horrible this is. On April 14th 2009,I lost my angel just two weeks to the due date. She died and spend one week in my womb before i knew she was dead. I am still grieving at this loss as she was my first born. I lost my faith in God and I felt like it was the end of the world for me. Luckily, my husband, family and friends were there for me. I regained my hope after. I got testimonies from other women who had gone through the same experience and somehow, i got the strenght to move on. People called me on a daily basis and sent me flowers and cards, just to show that My Angel-Carla, was not only loved, bust she was missed-even if it was only me that knew her. I have a picture album of Carla when i was still carrying her and on her burrial-which was well attended. I got soncolation that Carla was gone but she got all the love and care from our family and friends-even though she never got a chance to meet them. AM now back to work. I still womder if i will ever know what it feels like to give birth and hold a live baby. Am kind of confused on whether i should immediately try to have another one-am told its the quickest way to get over the grief. All i can tell your Sister is that, she should not lose hope. If whe was able to conceive, she definately will get another baby. She should put her trust in God,I am alsoo hoping to conceive again- it was the best experience in my life