I have two- tobias (toby)- nearly 4 and rose- just turned 2.
Jemmy-pops will be 5 calender months old on the 12th.
Her mum does love her- loves her enough to give her the best chance of a happy and"normal" life in a loving family home
she has done a much better job than any of us expected. But she is completely emotionly , mentally and physiclly worn out. She does not have the ability to dedicate herself to anyone, or anything for any amount of time- no matter how much she wants to. I know it sounds like an excuse, but that's just the way it is. She and my husband did not have the greatest e4xample in terms of parenting- or relationships- or anything really- i'm suprised my husband turned out so ok.
She is great with the kids- they love her, and she loves them, she is a fantastic, loving, and belo0ved aunt, but she can only do short bursts.
This is probably the most sensible and un-selfish thing she has ever done.
Jemma's father has never met her. He was only on the scene for a coupl e of weeks- didn't even know christine was pregnant- niether did she until about 3 months. She was finally able to contact him when she was almost 7 months gone, and he told her he thought she should give the baby up for adoption as soon as it was born- for the baby's sake- and give her to a family.
So christine didn't bother putting his name on the birth certificate. She has told us that she got in touch with him and let him know what was going on with jems now- but we just have her word for that.Whether or not he even believes he's her father, is also unknown to us.
Jemma will always have two loving parents who think the sun rises and sets with her, a big brother and sister to play and fight with, and a very special "aunt" too. My children and my husband are blood relatives, don't forget- so she really is with her "real" family.
I hope she'll never feel that she missed out on anything.