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Q: 43 With a Much Younger Boyfriend, Could This Be Premen.

asked by: tanji on January 5th, 2004

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I am 43 years old and I think I am going through a lot of changes. I first started wanting to go to clubs and just doing things that I know if I don't do now, I will soon be too old to do. I started flirting with younger guys. I have been with 3 much younger guys.....20, 28 and 31 until my last one came along which has moved in with me now. He is 21 years old. My son is 2 years younger than him. Both of my children like him and everyone gets along fine. We have a really good relationship and I love him to death but sometimes I feel like a pervert. When I am with him, I feel normal, I don't think about my age we just have fun together but when i'm alone I start thinking about the way it looks to others and it really seems wierd. Could this be a premenopause symtom or maybe just some kind of emotional problem know that I am getting older. I still look young everyone thinks i'm around 32 or so but I know that it won't be long before i'll start showing my age and I want to have all the fun now while I can. I'm not interested in anyone my age. If I was, I wouldn't worry as much about showing my age.

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JUJU

replied on September 24th, 2005

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Me to

I can understand that, I am also with a younger man, and I also think about these things when I am alone. People have said to me that I am with someone younger because I refuse to grow old. Sorry I have not been much help, but if you are happy then try not to worry too much at least your family have accepted him, mine have not.
Hugs
juju :roll:

Dark_Allies

replied on January 8th, 2006

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I think age differences (as long as some adult isn't with a child!!!) should be a non issue. My bf is 22 years younger than me -- so what? It all depends on how one thinks and acts. Some men my age act as immature as 12-year-olds and some 20-year-old men are mature, fun, all that good stuff. You just can't judge whether or not people are good for each other by how old or young they are.

If two people get along, enjoy being together and are in love or even just good friends, more power to them! Compatibility is the issue, not age! Plus, it's nobody else's damn business.

fortyoner

replied on September 2nd, 2009

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younger married boyfriend

also with a guy 10 years younger Smile

, big but though, he is my boss, very influential where i live and married, He has a very strong hold on me, i have now been with him 8 years and our love is really strong.
i'm fine with the situation as it is, but he now wants to leave his wife, and that I cannot do. loads of reasons, main one being that he has a family with her!!! and he says he doesn't love her, but i know he does, in a different way that he does me.

i won't leave a job that support me, so how can i break it off? i do love him.

Dark_Allies

replied on September 12th, 2009

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I am still with my boyfriend, ever since 1997 and it is late into 2009 now. If other people can't, don't or won't understand something like that, then it is really more their problem than mine. It also means they just haven't been lucky enough to have a relationship that strong and deep. If they had ever found a love like that, then they wouldn't be so disapproving or assume you are suffering from some psychological flaw. If you are happy and your boyfriend is happy, just enjoy your life together. There's nothing wrong with you OR your age difference.

42yearsold

replied on October 25th, 2009

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Much young boyfriend

I had a sex first time when I was 16. My boyfriend was 14. After him, in age of 17-19 I was in love with 2, 3 years younger boys so I have accustomed to younger boyfriends.
Now I'm 42 and my current boyfriend is 19. It's third serious love in my life. First was when I was 30, I was in reliatonship with six years younger guy, it lasted two years. Second serious love was when I was 35, he was twelve years younger, it lasts one and half year. And now, I'm with my boyfriend since August.
Ending, I had thirty-eight sex partners with my life and only one of them was older (I was 29, he was 32.) Sorry for my English, but I`m Pole.

rotfl

replied on October 27th, 2009

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42yearsold, all Polish woman are bit*hes?

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