I am a 21 year old male and I have recently been having some concerns regarding my sexuality. I am still a virgin, both because I am shy and as I want wait for the right woman, rather than going out purely to get laid. I masturbate regularly (generally once a day, occasionally twice), and used to regularly look at porn, generally most of the times that I masturbated. I recently read some information about sex addiction, and now it has made me scared. I find myself obsessing now about whether my sexual behaviour is normal and how it will effect future relationships, as some of the things that the articles say are quite scary. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
For those of you who have made the transition from single to being in a relationship, how hard is it to give up porn once you are getting real sex?
Dont know how intense your love of porn is, I mean I look at it occasionally but I have a good imagination so I dont really need porn to rub a few out, but you may be pleasantly surprised like I was when my girlfriend suggested we watch porn together and bought us like 30 hours worth of dvd porn to watch in bed. I think we are both learning from it and we are like, hey, that looks like fun, lets try that. She said she never watched porn before really so its kinda cool.
When you find that someone that you can be comfortable with then you can open up and tell her what u like and like he said she might be ok with it. But untill then dont worry about it making things different when you get a girl untill she tells you otherwise.
I forgot which magazine I read it in but on average males ejaculate about 5 times a week at that age so your absolutley fine. Personally I think this number is low but this statistic includes the guys that do it once a week as well as the dudes that do it 5 times a day so it's an average with a very high variance.
I have exactly the same sex drive as you and trust me your fine your not addicted to porn/sex. In fact you'll meet some women in your life that'll def want a lot more !**@! than that.