I've been seeing a guy for nearly two years and although we've been through hell and high water, somehow we managed to come through it because of our love for each other. We're the closest people in the world to each other.However...
.Last week we had an arguement (as usual), which got out of hand (as usual). He has never hit me but in the past (with a fair amount of provokation on my part) he has pushed me around. Anyway, he ended up kicking down my front door in a moment of rage and after much emotion and explanation and apology to my mom (her house) the situation died down. We decided to take an indefinite break and just be friends.
A couple of days ago my brother found out what he did to the door and went mad. We had a meeting at my house with both sides of the family in order to sort things out rationally and calmly. When my brother arrived everything escalated and to cut a long story short he took my byf outside to chat and ended up attacking him with about ten other guys. Thankfully my byf wasn't hurt - I got in the way before anyone could be seriously hurt. Now though i'm stuck in the middle. I feel betrayed by my family for turning on me and I love my byf but he's scared to speak to me since my bro said that he'd kill him if we had contact. I feel really lonely and depressed without him and he wants me to tell my brother that i'm going to carry on contacting him even though I know that this whole situation was caused by me. What am I supposed to do?
Just be careful, if he hit you and physically abused you, he might do it again. Do not do nothing to start it as you realize now, it can grt out of hand, no one wins and someone always gets hurt, I learned this from experience!
Obviously, this is a bad situation and I hate that you are stuck in the middle of it. However, to be honest with you, I really don't blame your brother at all for what he did. If it had been me, I probably would have done the same. I'm sure your brother understands that you love this guy, but you have to realize that your brother loves you too. This is why he done what he did. He was only protecting you and the rest of his family. In his mind, he was probaly thinking that if your boyfriend could knock down your parents door to their house, there's no telling what else he could/would do. Therefore, your brother had to put the fear of god in your boyfriend to make him realize that if he did anything to hurt you or anyone else in his family, he would be there to "get" him. Do you see what I mean? I know fighting isn't the answer to all problems, but sometimes that's the only way some people know how to handle certain situations. Especially, when it involves the ones that you love the most and you want to protect them. If I were you, I would give this relationship a break for awhile. See if your boyfriend is really what you want right now. You may find out later on down the road that you may be happier without him. Love is not supposed to hurt. So, if it does, something isn't right with that relationship. It usually only gets worst unfortunately. Just try to be a little understanding to why your brother done what he did. I'm sure he was only trying to do what he felt was the right thing to do at that time.
hi there, i know this post was a long while ago but i am in a similar situation at the moment and i want to know how it ended? as i feel completely stuck right now and i can''t see a way out ... is there hope? does it get better?