Joined: 13 Mar 2006 Posts: 30 Location: Ontario Canada
Am I Just Weird... Posted: 04-01-06 19:54pm
So I went out with this woman whom I have
absolutely no attraction to...
Physically, mentally, or emotionally. We
have nothing in common either. There's
just nothing there.
I have tried before to date people that I
wasn't attracted to at all. It has never
gone well... After only two weeks or so I
get bored/frustrated and leave the
relationship. But I know that people date
people they're not attracted to all the
time, some have told me they do it... So
is it just me that can't make it work out?
Is wanting someone you feel an attraction
for too much to ask for?
I've never had the experience of mutual
attraction - meeting someone I like to
also liked me. So I figure at this age
i'm going to have to learn to deal with
less. But I just can't seem to do it.
My friends want me to let this girl go
because it's not fair to her if i'm not
attracted to her, but they're all people
who don't have problems getting dates. I
do, so I want to try to make it work. I
just don't know how.
|
Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 04-01-06 20:46pm
If you have no attraction to her
whatsoever, I think you should spare her
the heartache that could come months or
years down the road when she finds out
that you're not attracted to her at all
and never have been.
I think you should try to find a woman
that you are attracted to physically,
mentally or emotionally (if not all of
them). If you try to stay in a
relationship where there is no chemistry
whatsoever, you're doomed from the get-go.
Why sell yourself short and be unhappy??
Why make someone else unhappy when they
have a chance of being happy with someone
else?? There's a woman out there for
you, you just haven't found her yet.
I think you should keep looking. You'll
find your mrs. Right! Probably when you
least expect it. Good luck! :-)
|
oneofthesun
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Mar 2006 Posts: 30 Location: Ontario Canada
Posted: 04-01-06 21:08pm
But lots of people do that is what i'm
saying. At least that's the impression I
get.
|
Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 04-02-06 08:36am
From my experience ... A lot of people
were interested in the person they're with
and as time went by, it all just kinda
died. The keyword being "were". I've
been in relationships where I felt an
emotional connection to a man, but I
didn't feel a physical or mental
connection to them. I stayed with them
because of the emotional connection I had
... But once that was gone, it was time
to end it because neither one of us were
happy. People, also, stay with their
mate because they're afraid they're not
gonna be able to find someone else. I
went through that, too. So, you're
right! People stay with their
significant others even though there is no
connection whatsoever. But, why make
yourself unhappy for the rest of your life
when there's probably someone else out
there looking for someone like you??
I've (finally) learned not to settle for
someone i'm gonna be completely unhappy
and unsatisfied with.
|
raziel1687
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2006 Posts: 33 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-11-06 06:49am
If you aren't attracted to them or have
any connection or anything in common,
there is no point in dating them. The
whole point of being in a relationship is
being with a person you have an attraction
to and a connection with. No, wanting
someone who you are attracted too is not
too much to ask for, that's what you
should get and be looking for, of course
getting someone like that might be harder
to find though. You shouldn't get in a
relationship just to be in one, but
because you like the person and are
attracted and connected to them.
