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AshBoBash
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Young Moms
Posted: 03-31-06 22:08pm
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I know i'm gonna be a young mom. But I
was raised in a very respectful family.
One of the only times I heard my mom say a
cuss word was when I told her I was
pregnant. My familys very affectionate.
We have dinners at the table and talk
about what we did during the day. I help
my mom cook too~ speaking of that i'm
getting hungry lol
i still coddle to my dad when we watch tv
at night. When I have a problem, or
anyone in my family does, its discussed
calmly. Everyone gets to put thier side
in it then all sides are discussed until
we come up wit h a solution. Like when it
came up that i'm pregnant.
I'm gonna be a young mom, yeh, but my baby
is gonna be coming into a nitch-close damn
good family that loves and cares about
each other.
I'm not gonna skip out on school or
college, I already have the money for
college in a savings account. When next
school year starts, i'm gonna start right
along with everyone else like I hadn't
missed half this year.
I have been wild in the past, yeh maybe I
got wild at a younger age than some, but
so what. I've realized my mistakes now
and now I accept whats been served to me.
So whenever dalicia or whoever on here
says what a terrible life my baby is gonna
have its just proving thier ignorance to
the situation. I dont have to say cuss
words at them or insult them. And I think
its pretty dumb thats the only way she can
try and get her point across, is tossing
insults to the extent where the reason for
whatever she was saying in the first place
is lost. Thats what I see 7 and 8 year
olds do. Disagree on somethng then calls
names back and forth until they forget
what they were arguing about in the first
place. I'm not on that level.
Sure i'm gonna be a 14 year old mom. But
im a overcomer, and I have learned and am
still learning for this. I hope one day
that i'll be able to reach out to young
girls in similar situations and share my
experience and show them that taking
responsibilites for your mistakes doesnt
mean giving up everything in life and just
spiraling downward from there. It means
being strong and coming out stronger.
Maybe dalicia dont feel she learned
anything she could share in a productive
way. But I have.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:12pm
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I've always felt that you're being strong,
like telling your mom right after you
found out, I don't know where you got the
guts for that lol but even though you are
young i'm glad you're taking
responsibility, good luck with baby
.Teagan! (or teegan :p)
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:26pm
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I never said you're baby is going to have
an awful life, I just know you don't know
what's coming when you have the baby.
You're almost 14, it makes me wonder if
you're mom is going to help you take care
of the baby because you're going to
school, i'm sorry ash but I have no
respect for any woman that gets pregnant,
even on accident and doesn't take full
responsibility for their actions.
You don't have a job, because you're only
14. So who's paying for diapers &
such? You're babies dad? Where would he
get the money, from his mom?
I have nothing against you, as i've been
there before, but I have to be hard on
you, and you'll know why after you have
the baby.
I just hope you get it the easy way out,
because I can't begin to explain to you
how hard taking care of a baby actually
is.
Sure, maybe you can do you're schoolwork
when the baby has naps, but i'll tell you
what. The naps aren't all that long!!
Not everybody has a family like you do,
some of the girls on here have it hard, as
in getting kicked out while they're
pregnant & such. I just think you
shouldn't talk about how you're life with
the baby will be until she actually gets
here.
Again, I don't have anything against you,
I think you're really mature for you're
age, but it's easy to talk about her and
what you'll do, how you'll finish school
but the hard part is actually doing it.
And I really hope you do.
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AshBoBash
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:26pm
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Lol I wouldn't of been able to keep it a
secret anyways. As soon as I got out of
the bathroom and met her in the grocery
line I guess I just looked sick or
something cause she asked if I was feeling
ok
for me its harder to imagine keeping a
secret like that I know some girls say
they don't tell thier parents for like
weeks and weeks!! I told my mom on the
way home from the store lol
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:28pm
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My mom sat in the bathroom with me while I
peed on the stick!!
Talk about sharing an experience.
Haha!
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AshBoBash
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:39pm
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| Quote: | | you don't have a
job, because you're only 14. So who's
paying for diapers & such? You're
babies dad? Where would he get the money,
from his mom?
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no he's 15 and he's been going to work
some with his dad on the weekends and one
weekday. So he's been giving my parents
most of his money
that was one of the things we talked about
when my family and his family got together
to talk about whats gonna happen
i can't get a job till i'm 15. He turned
15 in december. I mean I know it wont pay
for everything but thats what we've bought
the babies stuff with so far. And some of
its saved.
Not all moms work and thier husbands pay
for everything. I know thats a different
situation but in a way its the same, I
don't work and he is paying for the babies
things and there is a 15 dollar co-pay
when I go for prenatal appointments. But
I dont know how much of the hospital its
gonna cover. Iknow his money isn't gonna
cover everything. But he is doing his
part. Or to the best of his ability.
Both of my parents work during the day so
neither one of them will watch the baby
when i'm in school. So far the plan is a
nanny from our church is gonna be the
nanny for when i'm in school and they are
at work.
There are women who are parents who go to
work and have a daycare or a nanny that
watches thier baby during the day. It'll
be kinda the same for me except i'll be
going to school instead of work.
The baby is gonna be in my room theres
already a spot where the crib is gonna be
at. So I will be up at night.
I know its easy for me to say that i'll
keep up good marks in school and taking
care of my baby and etc. But i'd rather
be positive abotu it than be like 'oh man
this is gonna be terrible i'm only 14 and
I gotta raise a baby and go to school oh
god plz pity me'. So i'd rather be
positive about it. I mean I do freak out
some nights wondering how i'm gonna do it.
But I feel a lot better when I remind
myself that im gonna have to keep my head
up and just take it for what it is and as
it comes. You know.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-31-06 22:48pm
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See! Like I said, really strong, that's
why I respect you. You're young so of
course you're going to have to have some
help, even adults need help sometimes and
I don't think theres anything wrong with
asking for help when you absolutely need
it, I think you're going to do a good job
and i'm not trying to kiss ass or anything
lol
wow d sounds like you two are close :p
i'm a freak, I can't go to the bathroom
when people are in there with me, never
have been able to. I don't even go to the
bathroom at school because I worry someone
will walk in and I won't be able to pee
haha I told you i'm a freak.
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hunterjumper
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Location: British Columbia, Canada
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Posted: 03-31-06 23:16pm
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You know what, you have a good family ash,
use it. Not all of us are so lucky and
those that aren't are often bitter about
it and think that everyone should be so
unfortunate. They cover their jealousy
with bravado about independence and
self-respect. It sounds like you have
both. Just because you have your family
helping out does not mean you lack either
of those traits. It is very unlikely for
any 14 year old in any situation to be
100% independent and having a child is no
different. Why shouldn't you have people
helping you out? I think we all would
have that same help if we could.
You go girl. It's great to hear what a
loving family your babe is going to come
in to. It will more then make up for
whatever problems your age may bring,
though you sound far more mature for your
age then I was. :d
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little_woman
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Posted: 03-31-06 23:21pm
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It sounds like you are doing what you can.
Good for you, hope it works out. :)
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prettygirlygirl
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Posted: 03-31-06 23:31pm
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I don't think anyone, at any age, ever
knows how hard a baby is until they have
one.
Ash, I was very close to your age when I
conceived my daughter. I also came from a
good family and they have done everything
to support me through this. None of us
want to see my daughter suffer a lower
standard of living because at an early age
I was irresponsible.
I posted a thread earlier asking about how
others deal with finances and the new
baby. Maybe you should work out a similar
plan I did. I didn't want to live solely
off my parents, but I can't afford to live
on my own... So I worked out
rent/food/childcare based on percentages I
could afford, ie I give my mom 60% of
everything I make, keep 30% in savings so
I can move out when I am old enough, and
put 10% away for adelaide. It doesn't
really add up to much every week, but I am
working several jobs, fit school in where
I can, and have plenty of time for my
daughter.
You will figure something out ash. You
sound way too level headed to let one bout
of irresponsibility keep you down and
out... And it sounds like your parents
are too good to let you. When my parents
found out I was pregnant they made good
and sure I knew what life was all about
and how I was going to participate in it.
I take cues and guidance from them and
feel like I am going to be fine going
through life as a single mother... Even
if I have to put a few things on hold
until she is a little older.
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AshBoBash
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Re
Posted: 04-01-06 00:16am
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Thanks you guys :)
i know i'm very lucky to have my family
like how I do. I have a lot of support
and I know my baby will have a lot of
love. My baby is gonna have a good life.
I cant wait for her to get here!
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Carrie-Lucie
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Posted: 04-01-06 05:42am
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Wow ash, I wish I was as mature as you are
- your baby is very lucky to have you as a
mum you're gonna super at it. :)
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Tayzia
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Posted: 04-01-06 20:48pm
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Ash, when you first came to this forum, I
have to admit, I was worried about you.
The second I saw "thirteen and pregnant",
I was rolling my eyes. But you have
proved that you are totally strong and
mature, and i'm very proud of you. You're
standing up for yourself, and you're
proving that you're ready for this. Your
baby is going to be very lucky to have you
for a mom, and good luck, honey. :)
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AshBoBash
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Posted: 04-02-06 11:48am
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| Quote: | | ash, when you
first came to this forum, I have to admit,
I was worried about you. The second I saw
"thirteen and pregnant", I was rolling my
eyes |
i'm just wondering, if you roll your eyes
at younger pregnant teens then why did you
pretend to be one 3 times?
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Tayzia
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Posted: 04-02-06 13:04pm
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Http://ehealthforum.Com/health/viewtopic.
Php?T=38122&start=0
there are a lot of stupid little kids on
this forum. I was hoping you wouldn't be
one. And you weren't.
When is everyone going to stop jumping
down my throat about that? Holy caca,
what more can I say?? I thought that was
closed. Honestly - I tell you seriously
how impressed I am with you, and you bring
that up again.
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Rodge
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Posted: 04-02-06 13:19pm
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| tayzia
wrote: | http://ehealthforum.Com/heal
th/viewtopic.Php?T=38122&start=0
there are a lot of stupid little kids on
this forum. I was hoping you wouldn't
be one. And you weren't.
When is everyone going to stop jumping
down my throat about that? Holy caca,
what more can I say?? I thought that
was closed. Honestly - I tell you
seriously how impressed I am with you, and
you bring that up
again. |
because you did it, and you hurt a lot of
feelings. You can't honestly expect to
be able to have a go at anyone without
someone bringing up the 'lying for
months' thing in their defence. It's
like the ultimate trump card.
Besides, it's only been out for a little
while. Give it a year.
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whyte_kissez
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Posted: 04-02-06 13:26pm
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| dalicialynn
wrote: | my mom sat in the bathroom
with me while I peed on the stick!!
Talk about sharing an experience.
Haha! |
so did my mom! :\ haha.. She looks at
the pregnancy test and wanted to believe I
wasnt pregnant but sure enough the next
day going to the doctor I was! Good luck
hun with ur baby! :d
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Jennifer2069
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Hello
Posted: 04-02-06 13:26pm
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:) hello umm I think that other people
should just stay oput of the 14 yrs old
business how she raises her kid and I am
supportive to you all the way...Just
because others know what it like to raise
lkids
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Tayzia
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Posted: 04-02-06 15:24pm
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Yeah, rodge, I understand that. But why
did she need to defend herself? I was
praising her for her maturity and
capability! I understand people like
jillian bringing it up, but, god.
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 04-02-06 17:00pm
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I don't care that you did it honestly,
it's the internet and it's sad people are
still tripping about it.
Oh yeah, i'm gonna be cool and hold a
grudge over the net.
Get over it, b*tching about it isn't going
to do anything but cause more fights.
So let's all agree to disagree and shut
the f*ck up.
Deal?
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