im 18 and have been seeing my girlfriend
for a couple of weeks now and a couple of
nights ago we tried to have sex. Only
problem is, I couldn't get an erection.
I've had sex before with my ex girlfriend
but I occasionally suffered the same
problem. It really is strange because
when I am at home i'm so horny it's never
a problem, but as soon as I was faced with
having sex it didn't happen. Even when
we are cuddling and it's not going
anywhere, I notice that i'm becoming
aroused, but when we start getting mroe
intimate it jsut goes. It's very
embarrasing, especially as it was gunna be
our first time. As I said, I experienced
some problems with getting/sustaining and
erection with my last girlfriend which I
think might be the reason for
anxiety/nervousness, possibly the cause of
the problem.
Can anyone give me an idea of whats wrong?
Thanks
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babycake18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Mar 2006 Posts: 8 Location: ct
Hey Understndin Posted: 03-31-06 08:52am
Hey, I know how you feel.
I am a female, but my boyfriend is also
just turned 19 and we have been dating for
a few years now and he has the same
problem. We talked about it to other
people and doctors, because he thought
something was wrong, but they all just
told him that it was just he got too
worried to perform and the anxiety from
the firt time he couldnt get it up spread
to other times because hes worried he
couldnt perform...Or as far as we were
told...I think you should try to relax
more, just think in your head I am gonna
give it to her real good! Lol dont worry
or even think as much as screwing up or
something. I mean it happend to alotta
people, your not the only person in the
world...If the problem continues (which I
think it wont I think its mental becuase
you have been able to have sex other
times) see a doctor. But it is probably
just occuring from stress or something
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StringSkipper
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2006 Posts: 4
Re: Hey Understndin Posted: 03-31-06 13:22pm
babycake18
wrote:
just think in your head I am
gonna give it to her real good!
hehe :d
thanks for the advice. Im' tyring not to
worry but it makes me worry more! The
girl i'm seeing is 20 as well so is
blatantly more experienced than I am,
which also puts on the pressure, but
thanks for the advice. I will give it to
her good! :wink:
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babycake18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Mar 2006 Posts: 8 Location: ct
Hey Posted: 03-31-06 16:02pm
Hey thats what I mean you start to worry
more you wont perform I read in a cosmo
actually. I am more experienced that my
bf cause he was a virgin before me
although I was still with only one more
person. But he even said its hard not to
think about it you just have to find
somethign that will take your mind off it
