It's her choice whether to keep the baby or not. You don't have to have anything to do with it. If you really don't want to be involved, i'd get it in writing so she can't come after you for maintenance later.

By the way, you cheated with a just-barely-legal teenager? Hope you're wearing a flame-retardant internet suit. :wink:

To be sure the baby is yours, have a dna test done.

Your mother is acting quite childish! If my son came home saying he slept with a girl and now she's pregnant, I wouldn't shrug it off like it's no sweat off my back! How would she have felt if that was her? What if .Y.O.U.R father turned his back on you before giving you any chance of having a father in your life? How would you feel?

This child is innocent! Don't make him suffer because .Y.O.U don't feel like being a father! Don't have sex then!!!

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I do have to say, for your bet interest keep your mother out of it. It is okay to ask her opinion but really its your opinion that matters no one elses, I think she is just concerned for your life from here on out. But the truth remains that no matter what if yuo are proven indeed to be the father you will always have some sort of responsiblitly to this child. No matter how much the mother says you dont have to be involved trust me you will get involved then especially if she is only 16.

i'd say it's better to have no father at all than one who didn't want you in the first place.
I'm speaking from experience, by the way.

I understand what you mean my mother abandoned me when I was an infant too, but what I meant is that he is going to have responisbility no matter what, becuase she would have every right to ask child support etc. I think he is still in shock right now, I think he'll learn that it will happen no matter what he wants.

so am i.

cool. Don't men like that suck?

lol

my father's there, but i'm invisible to him......... If that makes sense lol

Well you have a hard choice there.

If you don't want anything to do with the child, and the 16 year old mother says you don't have to do anything, get that in writing. You don't want 5 years down the road and her coming back saying you owe her 5 years of back child support.

But just remember if you say you don't want to be part of the child's life, you will always have that in the back of your mind (you don't seem like the father that just wouldn't care, and never want to see your child again).

You never know, you just might enjoy having a little son or daughter around.

Why is everyone worried about covering his butt by getting it in writing???? He slept with her! Whether or not she said she was on b/c, if he didn't want a child then he should have worn a condom--period!

Is anyone thinking of this innocent child? Put yourself in that childs position...... Would you be more concerned about your father covering his own butt, or you having a father in life??????

Yes, we all make mistakes and he's only human, but now it's time to own up to his!!!

i totally agree with you michelle, if he is man enough to have sex without a condom, then he should be man enough to take some responsability.

You have a very good point there! I agree,think about the baby!!! You did have sex,you didn't have to and you didn't have to believe her when she told you she was on birth control.You should just face it,your going to be a father for the rest of your life whether you want it or not.Does your g/f know?. . .

Good point, if my man told me he got a 16 year old pregnant and does not know what to do, i'd screw.

Sorry, I know that you don't like 'pro-lifers' but I am one and if you didn't want a baby you wouldn't have had sex with her in the first place. If you read posts here people get pregnant on while on the pill. Did you know this girl well enough to trust that she was on the pill at all. Because you didn't use an extra precaution you got her pregnant.

.Y.O.U need to take responcibility for your actions and your sorry excuse for not wanting the baby is not going to fly well in this forum. You can't force this poor girl to have an abortion and now that she told you what she is going to do you need to be a man and take care of your 'mistake'

you are a cheater and I think that because of the mistake you made with a young 16yo girl, you should tell your current girlfrend. I am sure that she will want to know that when you knock her up that you will just have her get an abortion.....Because you aren't ready.

You are a sorry excuse for a man. I am glad that you aren't my man. I wouldn't be with a guy like you who runs to his mommy when he makes a mistake.

The only reason why I said about getting it in writing is because he has expressed that he doesn't want to keep the baby and the mother agreed to that. And is it fair for the mother to say " you don't have to do anything, I am not expecting anything from you" then when she needs money or changes her mind years down the road, nail him for years of money not paid?

Now if she said she wants help right away, then yes, tooscared, you have to own up to what happened. You say you are only 21, but she is only 16 (you choosed to sleep with her).Like sunflower said... The pill is not 100% (close but there is still that chance). This stuff happens and people have to deal with it.

I am not saying that abortion is the awsner !! But adoption could be.. There is sooo many loving couples out there that can't have babies, and are trying soo hard.

You don't get pregnant from being in love or from being in a serious relationship that is ready for a baby. You get pregnant from having sex. Period.

Your mother and brother are wrong and I think you know that or you wouldn't be here. You need to support this woman and after the baby is born, take a paternity test to see if you need to continue supporting it financially.

woah, I missed that part. Yeah, that's pretty scummy.

makes sense to me. I lived with my father from the time I was like 5 until I was about 10, then I moved with my mom. That was almost 9 years ago and I haven't talked to him most of that time. Last time I did was to tell him I was getting married and having a baby. Other than that he acts like I don't exist, and I return the favor.

i agree. If you didnt want to have a baby you should have used protection. Its your own fault as well. Either way this will always be your child unless proven otherwise. How could you turn your back on your own child? Thats what I say about the father of my baby everyday.. Just be the better person and help out with this child.