So heres the problem, me and my girlfriend have a great relationship and sex life but I cant seem to ejaculate, we've tried all kinds of different condoms and lubricant,even birth control for her. So I was wondering what was the next step? Any advice at all would help. :?
Please someone, I have read about others that have this problem, and nothing that they suggests works. Most people would suggest mental problems, or something like that but my girl and I dont see it or feel that way. We have lots of fun together in or out of bed. We've tried oral, handjobs, and anything else you could think of. We even went as far as not having sex for days and even a month. Thinking it might help but still no ejaculation.
Help me please!!!!!!!!!!
Could it be more of a psychological issue. You obviously don't have a physical problem with ejaculation if you can do it when you are by yourself. Maybe you get so worried and tense that you won't be able to ejaculate when you are with her that you don't "allow" yourself to do so.
Or your gf gives up too easily without working you til you just can't stand it any longer.
If its a psychological issue and you just need to relax and enjoy yourself, try doing it someplace totally dark with her. Where you have to feel each other's bodies to know you are there kind of dark. Have her give you a hand job in that setting and see if you don't get more relaxed under that condition.
Well the whole dark room thing is probably a god idea but my gf probably wants me to ejaculate more than I do even though she tells me that its not that big of a deal. She tells me not to worry and that she loves me. We have talked about it and she is the one who suggested that I come here to get some advice. And maby it is the fact that I want to so bad that I scare myself into not ejaculating.
Now here is what bothers me about the whole thing, my gf wont orgasim enless I do and she wont do the job by herself, she says she dont feel right, like she is depriving me of my manly needs. She wants me to feel like im the only one who can please her. And that she can wait for me no matter how long it takes, shes trying to be patiant but I know that shes probably frusterated, so do you have any other suggestions? And thank you for all your imput and if youhave anything to add please do
It sounds as if she really loves you, but I think she is causing unnecessary pressure on you ejaculating. Even though she can please herself, she wants you to be the only one and that is a really nice gesture, but that would be a lot of pressure for me to ejaculate knowing that my gf's satisfaction depends on it. Does that make sense? Just be open and honest and talk to her. Good luck!!
Oh I forgot one little detail, me gf doesnt live with me, infact she doesnt live in the state and shes in another country, shes in the army and in iraq, maby you can find something there, she coming home on leave soon, so I would like to have the issue kind of resolved by then
have you tried doing anything standing up?if you get a blowjob or handjob, hell exactly even have sex standing up againsnt a wall or something, more blood should rush to your penis(no homo) and should help.
Iam 46. I have had this problem my hold life. I even lost gf's because of it. Iam very fearful i will lose me curent gf;who wouldnt mind having my baby. I dont think i will ever enjoy having sex and ejaclulating
I had this problem I couldn''t ejaculate via masterbation or sex. Though I would have wet dreams. This went on until I was 21 when one day it just happened, I have no idea how but it did, strangely on my last day if uni!
No problems ever since, it was extremely frustrating in the prior years, I can only assume it was a mental thing.
A frequent cause of anorgasmia (inability to orgasm or only after a long time) is an atypical masturbatory style, particularly masturbating in the prone (face down) position. This is a troublesome condition called Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, or TMS.
HERE IS THE ANSWER. I suffered from this problem. But used to self stimulate. Dudes. It's simple. You know how to get yourself off. Not good. Then only you can get yourself off. It's simple. ZERO PORN. ZERO, and I mean ZERO, masturbation. LOVE YOUR WOMAN and make sure she's the MOST ATTRACTIVE and SEXY person you will ever want.
The, you can cum all you want. Forget the psychobabble. IT WORKS, PERIOD. THere is nothing wrong with you, just what you've been doing.
@ the 11 year old, the clear stuff is normal, its called "Precum" ,Basically natures lube give it a year or two and you will have normal ejaculations, but anyways to the 12 year old, go faster, and use lotion or something. And to the original person, your most likely not going fast enough, or hard enough.
@ the 11 year old, the clear stuff is normal, its called "Precum" Basically natures lube give it a year or two and you will have normal ejaculations, but anyways to the 12 year old, go faster, and use lotion or something. And to the original person, your most likely not going fast enough, or hard enough.
im 14 i just started to grow pubes and armpit hair recently but i still cant ejaculate i havent been able too ever i am a virgin and masturbation doesnt do anything except i feel the feeling of an orgasm and then i pee all over the place, my scrotum hasent "dropped" yet is this normal or is there a problem?