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LindyMananana
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15 (almost 16) And I Fear For My Sanity
Posted: 03-25-06 16:56pm
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Hi everybody. I'm 15, almost 16, and I
have this strong desire to become
pregnant. Please don't yell at me. I
don't know what's gotten into me, i've
felt this way for a few months.
I know i'm probably not ready, but I yearn
for it. I have no boyfriend (only an
admirer), i'm a virgin, and i'm christian.
The baby isn't even necessarily what I
want to get pregnant for (although I know
i'll become excited waiting for him/her,
and i'll love him/her when she/he comes),
I just want to be pregnant. To have
something growing in my belly, to lay
around without being considered lazy, to
care for something besides myself, to have
people pay attention to me. This all
sounds like stupid crap, I know.
I'm also severely depressed. I don't know
what to do about how I feel about wanting
to get pregnant. My mind is telling me to
remain how I am, work hard in school, go
to college, etc, but it is also telling me
to get pregnant. I can't see my self
having sex, but I don't know...
What do I do?
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abbyroad
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Posted: 03-25-06 17:04pm
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Please dont have a baby for those reasons
its not fare on the child you really need
to think things through
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-25-06 17:10pm
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What you need to do is go to a therapist
and get on some meds. It sounds to me
like you are wanting to be pregnant for
attention. Being a pregnant 15 year old
isn't going to get the kind of attention
you want. And trust me, being pregnant is
not all about laying around all the time.
If you are so depressed you need to talk
to someone about it. I know what can
happen if you don't...And it's not fun.
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 03-25-06 18:00pm
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I think you want to become pregnant to get
attention, which is pretty sad.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-25-06 18:38pm
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I don't think you should want to become
pregnant just so you have an excuse to lay
around and be lazy, or to have people pay
attention to you.
I think you should wait until you find the
right guy, and when you can actually
afford a child, just because you want one
doesn't mean you can give it everything it
needs. If you wait for the right guy, and
right time, i'm sure you'll be thankful in
the end.
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hunterjumper
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Posted: 03-25-06 21:35pm
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You have a very distorted view of what
pregnancy is. Not to be rude or anything.
A lot of young mothers don't get to just
lay around and be lazy. It's not a free
excuse. If you're a pregnant 16 year old,
you're still a 16 year old and that means
you still have school to finish. You
don't get an automatica a-grade graduation
for getting knocked up. So you often have
to continue to go to school while
pregnant, while you'll be miserable and
trying to finish as much school before the
baby is born as possible. And you'll have
to keep doing makeup classes and getting
homework from others becaue you're
constantly at doctors appointments.
On top of that, many young mothers have to
work full-time (or at least part-time)
jobs to save money for the baby. Where
would the money come from? Your parents?
Not their baby, not their job to support
it.
Pregnancy isn't nearly the wonderful,
pain-free, discomfort free pass to be
beautiful and lazy you think it is.
Some things to think about.
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Lucy_16
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Posted: 03-25-06 23:13pm
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Ok hunny I am 16 turning 17 and im
pregnant was no planned tho... Its not a
mistake im so excited but you are doing
it for all the rong reasons? So u able to
be lazy.. Once u have a baby you will not
be relaxing you will be on your feet
24/7...It will not be easy work.. You
have a lot to think of and your future
dont do this cause its the cool thing to
do... Do it cause u want to.. And in my
opinion you are way to young
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 03-27-06 17:49pm
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Make some changes so you're happier, do
things you enjoy, or find something new.
A baby wont fill in that empty feeling you
have inside. A baby wont make you feel
better if you're depressed, only the idea
of it does.
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-27-06 17:52pm
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You know what's awesome? Counselling.
Have you been diagnosed with depression by
a doctor?
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LindyMananana
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Posted: 03-27-06 18:57pm
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| rodge
wrote: | you know what's awesome?
Counselling.
Have you been diagnosed with depression by
a doctor? |
yes I have, but it seems hopeless. I'm on
meds but they're not helping me.
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LindyMananana
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Posted: 03-27-06 18:58pm
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| allie_18
wrote: | | make some changes so you're
happier, do things you enjoy, or find
something new. A baby wont fill in that
empty feeling you have inside. A baby
wont make you feel better if you're
depressed, only the idea of it
does. |
how do you know that for sure?
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 03-27-06 19:13pm
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Because I know some girls offline who
wanted a baby because they felt how you
do, planned it and they got pregnant for
those reasons. Now they wish they had
waited. Having a baby doesnt solve your
problems, it creates more of them. And if
you're young with no partner to support
you, no money you need to think through
the serious issues about it and stop
fantasizing. Go back to the docs if your
meds arent working, and you should be
getting counselling if they gave you drugs
for it. Thats how it works here anyway.
Im 17 and my son is only a few weeks old,
he wasnt planned. You will be tied down,
you cant go do whatever you want, you have
to find a babysitter if you want to go
out, then all your money is spent on baby
stuff so you cant afford to go out anyway.
I want to go to this huge party next
weekend just hang out with my mates have
some fun and I cant even do that, im going
to have no mates left soon. It sucks that
way. And you might want to travel at some
point, and you cant because you have a
child tied to you 24/7. Enjoy your youth!
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Tayzia
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Posted: 03-27-06 19:36pm
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I know how you feel, honey. I've always
loved babies, and i've always been good
with them - I speciaize in babysitting
very young babies, which just adds to it.
I'm fourteen, just finishing up ninth
grade, and in a new relationship with a
great guy. When I turned fourteen in
december, I had *kind of* the same
feelings as you did. I didn't think about
the fact that I could lie around and be
lazy (i don't even believe that is true),
but I loved the idea of having someone to
care for 24/7 and who would love me
unconditionally. My longest babysitting
gig was almost thirty four hours for a
five month old and an eighteen month old -
after surviving that, I thought
(subconsciously) that motherhood couldn't
be much harder than that. I still wasn't
that serious about pregnancy, though.
I grew out of this phase. So will you.
Give it time. :)
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-27-06 20:33pm
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| lindymananana
wrote: | | rodge
wrote: | you know what's awesome?
Counselling.
Have you been diagnosed with depression by
a doctor? |
yes I have, but it seems hopeless. I'm
on meds but they're not helping
me. |
then either you don't really have
depression, or you need a different
medicine. And rodge, counseling sucks!
:d
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LindyMananana
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LindyMananana
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Posted: 03-27-06 22:32pm
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Yes.
And i'm scared that I might actually be
serious about this pregnancy thing. No
matter what everybody's saying, my eyes
are reading it but my mind isn't
listening.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 03-27-06 22:41pm
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Just don't act on it, don't have sex.
Say no to the peen :p
but really, if you're really worried just
don't have sex. You've got a lot of years
to have babies hun.
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