Medical Abortion Forum - Is This 'support' Forum a Joke???

shellyuk wrote:

from out of the blue, I suddenly find myself at a crossroads in life. I desperately need support and advice in making the most difficult decision of my life and dealing with it. I found this forum and felt so relieved that I could discuss my concerns and fears with people who would understand and wouldnt judge me. After reading several topics, I now dissappointingly realise this is just another place to be attacked and judged. why cant a mediator stop posts from people who are here to just upset and confuse people. I have wasted several precious hours on here, I could have been trying to find other sources of support instead.

I am not a moderator and so cannot answer for them. Though I have not checked this board very recently, it is still much, much better than it was in the past. There is real support here and I apologize that you did not see it or receive it.

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to all those those people who feel it is their duty to make people who are here seeking support, feel bad and guilty, I ask you politely to just be more open minded and compassionate. Let us talk, unjudged and in peace so we can come to terms with what is happening in our lives. We may have made mistakes in your eyes, but tell me the name of one person who has never made a mistake! I still may or may not continue my pregnancy, you will not help me decide, but what you have have made me realise is this world still contains heartless, selfish people, whos only method of making themselves happy is to knowingly hurt and upset others. I am sorry for your children, who will probably grow up to be just like you.

whatever decision you make at this most difficult time is for you and you alone to make. No matter who responds to you or what they say, the final decision rests with you. I will support whatever decision you make as it is your life and you are the only one who has to live it. My only advice is to make the decision that you know you can. That may seem quite vague to you but it has to be because if it weren't, then I would just be handing my opinion to you. You can accept or reject my advice just as you can accept or reject anyone elses "advice."

this is your decision and yours alone to make. You can ask other people what they think but in the end what they think/believe/feel will not matter to you.

If you would still like to talk to a supportive person on here, you can pm me. I do not pass judgement on any .Woman since i've been where you currently are and made my own decisions as well. I can only hope that some people's behavior's on this board do not turn you away from visiting with us. Remember, there is true support here between the condemnation and childish name calling. I am sorry that you have to dig to find it.
Peace and much love,
jenn