haliparot
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Is Virginity Check Legal In the Us?
Posted: 03-25-06 01:06am
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Hello my mom wants to go with me in an
ob-gyne to get a virginity check...And
she's forcing me? Is that legal here in
the us? Becuase I guess it's not
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Carrie-Lucie
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Posted: 03-25-06 04:05am
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I don't know about it being legal to have
them done if that's what you're asking as
I live in the uk, but no-one can force you
to have anything done which you don't want
to. You have to consent to it.
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-25-06 05:36am
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The feck is a virginity check? Is that
when they see if your hymen's still
intact? Because the hymen breaking can
come from a million other things than
having sex- riding a bike, using tampons,
etc. In short, it's useless.
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haliparot
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Posted: 03-25-06 12:44pm
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Yeah I know so do gynecologist still
practice the virginity check here in the
us
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Lalee
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Posted: 03-25-06 12:52pm
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I have no idea, really.
Just curious: are you against it because
of general principle (i.E. You're a
virgin and hate that your mom doesn't
trust you), or have you been having sex
and just don't want her to know?
Believe it or not, parents aren't
completely clueless. And if you're
worried about her knowing you have sex, it
might just be easier to tell her.
Legality/morality of a virginity check
aside, if you tell her she can at least
help you get on birth control or whatever.
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haliparot
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Posted: 03-25-06 13:00pm
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Well i'm not a virgin and I don't want my
mom to know coz she would kill me..
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AshBoBash
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Posted: 03-25-06 13:15pm
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Uhhhh I have never heard of anyone going
to get that done or heard it mentioned in
gynecologist practices. I mean like when
you look at an advertisemetn for gyns I
don't see "virginity checks" under
'services we offer'
lol
plus, I dont think a doctor would be
allowed to tell your mom anyways cause of
doctor/patient privacy... Like even if
you go to a gyn and find out your pregnant
he cant tell your mom without your
permission... So no I dont think it'd be
legal.. And plus any gyn would know there
are many things that could make your hyman
rip
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diamondsz
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Posted: 03-25-06 13:23pm
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| haliparot
wrote: | | well i'm not a virgin and I
don't want my mom to know coz she would
kill me.. |
your mom is trying to scare you and second
I know what your talking about, how old
are you?? Down here over the age of 16
they dont have to reveal any info to your
parents at all and like someone else said
you can loose your hymen from almost
anything!!
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mum???
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Posted: 03-25-06 16:53pm
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Sorry to say this honey but ur mum is a
doing it wierdo and she has no right what
so ever to do this...Tell her to medical
question off,i'm sorry but I would so put
that down as abuse...She is intruding on
your body...Tell her to grow up and get a
life of her own.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 03-25-06 17:12pm
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There is really no way to tell if you are
a virgin or not! The hymen can break or
tear from a variety of different things.
Ask any doctor...They will tell you the
same.
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haliparot
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Posted: 03-26-06 12:59pm
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You guyz are the best...I know gynes don't
have services like virginity
check...Lol..That made me laugh...And
there's no way that she can tell..Anyway
i'm planning to call the doctor ahead of
time and try to talk to her about the
virginity check stuffs? Do you think
that's a good idea?
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 03-26-06 22:44pm
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I'm not to sure that they don't. Many
women,lets say of arab descent, who live
in the .U.S are forced by there parents to
go to the gyno or .E.R to be checked for
breakage of the hymen.
But like the other poster said, if you as
much as use a tampon, there goes your
hymen. Or ride a bike, or just being
active in general could cause it to
break!
Sarah
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Carifairy
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Posted: 03-26-06 22:48pm
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Yes, if she does make you go to an ob
gyn... Just secretly call ahead of time
and speak with soemone about patient
confidentiality. But I suspect as I work
for planned parenthood that she is trying
to trick you into saying something, or she
wnats to give you an std test.. Etc..
They can tell if your hymen is broken, but
lets face it, mine broke from dance class
and gymnastics.
Virginity checks in other countires tell
if the hymen is broken , that' s
all....Which is pretty sorry because many
women are beheaded and killed because they
have no hymen, when anyhting can cause it
to break.
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Posted: 03-27-06 12:46pm
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I wouldn't worry too much about it, unless
your mother is actually that weird to have
you checked out. I don't think that your
doctor can actually tell your mum about it
if you ask him not too. You should be
having your yearly check anyway if you are
sexualy active. Just call ahead and talk
to the staff to see what their policy is
on stuff like that.
I know that my doctor didnt' tell my mum
when I went there to get checked out, I
had told him that I didn't want my mom
knowing that I had been raped and that I
wasn't a ".V." anymore. He never said
anything. I knwo that the .H.I.P.P.A
laws prevent them saying anything to your
'rents' about anything unless you sign the
waver. Just talk to the doctor and
express your concerns to him.
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Tayzia
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Posted: 03-27-06 14:51pm
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You need to tell your mom to take a few
deep breaths and calm down. I don't think
she's serious, and anyway, virginity
checks don't do anything! As about
fifteen people already said, your hymen
can break from anything.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 03-27-06 17:26pm
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You could be honest with her about it,
tell her you're having sex but being
responsible about it and using some form
of birth control...Which hopefully you
are. Even if you're under the legal age
to be having sex, im sure she'd appreciate
your honesty. She knows she cant stop
you, but knowing you're being safe about
it will help.
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Tayzia
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Posted: 03-27-06 18:36pm
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As much as you may think so, your mom
isn't your enemy. :)
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prettygirlygirl
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Posted: 03-28-06 14:18pm
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It would be a breach of patient-doctor
confidentiality. Your mom could take you
to the doctor and pay for the appointment
but the doctor is not legally allowed to
tell your mom a damn thing.
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Jolie_3110
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Posted: 03-28-06 14:30pm
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What the heck is a virginity check???!!
Glad my mum didnt try that one!
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 03-28-06 14:49pm
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Lol crazyness would have to be america eh
jolie!
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