Here's some advice: never trust a guy who gets you pregnant at 15 yrs old.

Patrick

Poor thing

u know ur life is never gonna be the same as before now. U have a new life, a little life is inside of you and growing everyday. It is a beautiful thing!

So now, be possitive! U know that everything will be all right!

It's perfectly fine to be a single mom nowadays, talk to your boyfriend to compromise. Tell him that pregnancy makes a woman emotional, tell him to just be patient and listen to you more, talk more, because if he loves you, he will try to make things better and at least easier.

True that u two are so young, most likely he does not know a thing about being a dad or even a boyfriend, but he will learn if he wants to.

If he does not want to work with u to make things better, honey, dump him! Seriously it is ok to be a single mom, and u said it urself, u have ur friends and family, ur mom is being so supportive which is a great thing, be grateful, tell her how much u love her.

Good luck to you, and just relax, worry too much is not good for you and the baby.

Hey girl my name is jessica and I was in your shoes at one time I was 15 and pregnant, I decided to have an abortion, I regreated it right after I did it, I know if I would of kept that baby id be ok and yeh life would of been hard but I know with god helping me id of been jsut fine, but no I went ahead and did what my bf wanted me to do, and honey I say to u dont do it, its gonna be ok!! At least u got your mom backin u up and bein there for u my mom wasent she wanted me to abord it, but anyways u will be fine dont let him tell u what to do with your baby, u make your own mind up, that kid might be somebody someday, im now 19 and pregnant and happyer than ever ima keep this baby no mater what my guys says, I cant do that again and even though im not to well off I will make my way and raise this baby we will be happy and live happlie ever after, so take it easy and dont stress, dont fight with your guy just blow it off u are preg stress is not good for that baby, im a week farther along than u are and we got to take it easy, im 8 weeks, so keep it kool girl rest and dont stress, I hope this is good advice your friend jessica

Hey, i'm about 7 weeks pregnant too! Im here for you girl! Never trust guys mine left me too!! Hit me back best of luck!!!! ~misty

Hey you'll get through it and when you finally do you'll look into your babies eyes and realize that you made the right choice, hang in there I did and it's the best feeling in the world when I sit down and play with my son.

Concerning the boyfriend he'll come around.

I can empathize with you as I was pregnant unexpectedly when I was young. I am now also seven weeks pregnant with my fourth baby. I kept my first daughter and she is a wonderful help with my two young daughters. I would like to suggest that you find someone who has a young baby and spend some time babysitting to see if you are ready to handle parenting. There are a lot of joys that children bring but they also demand a lot more than someone your age is probably ready to give. I know that I am still more impatient with my oldest than my young girls. If you aren't really sure that you are ready to give up life as you know it forever then I would suggest that you look into giving your baby up for adoption. There are so many women out there who cannot have their own baby and many agencies now will let you interview and pick your baby's parents. Many girls say they couldn't hold a baby then give it away but it takes a lot more courage to do just that than to have a baby and neglect it. Many women who have open adoptions can set up an agreement to receive pictures and updates on the baby and can make a journal/photo album for the child to have letters/pictures of you and your family members. It is a tough decision to make and i'm not saying that you definitely wouldn't be a good mom but I would hope that you don't just blow off my opinion. One last piece of advice: don't hold your breath that your boyfriend will stick around...He might be forced to pay child support but that doesn't mean he has to spend any time with his child. I don't mean to be negative but sixteen year old boys aren't known for their reliablity and responsiblity. Take great care of yourself, eat well, stay away from bad stuff and don't forget to exercise=it will make labor much easier on you. Good luck, karen

I am a 16 year old girl who has a 4 month old son. Well he is almost 4 months. I know exactly what you mean and what you are going through. I read what you had to say and I feel like I was reading the story of my life. I got pregnant on july 17, 2002 (that is what the doctors paper said!)...Anyway I have been with my boyfriend, larry for 4 years. When I told him I was pregnant he was all for it. Both of us are strong believers that abortion is wrong. I am not saying that you would have a been a bad person if you considered it though.Anyway, me and my boyfriend fought a lot. My mom kicked me out. We never really got along anyway though. Anyhow , now that I have had my son I am still moody a little bit because of my weight and because I lost my body but that is about it. When you see your son or daughter that all this crap that you are going through now will come around. And I hope for your sake your boyfriend comes around too. If you have a son or a daughter it would be nice for them to know there father. But promise me, if the father doesn't come around, do not turn the child against there father! That is wrong my mother did that to me and that made me hate her everymore. "two wrong dont make a right.." remember that!

You know you love me-
stacie

I want to thank u.....This means so much that all you people understand were im coming from....I cant thank you all enough it feels good to have a little support with out being critisized....Its real hard for me right now...My boyfriend happens to be 18 and iv been talking to him about how I feel...And he told me some sweet things but I cant ever beileve a guy iv been hurt so much in my past...So young and so depressed....I guess im those lucky ones they try to teach you about in health class huh? But even though im going threw this pain its good to have all of your ideas and posotive opinions...Thanks again and pl ease dont stop writing!

that's a pretty darn good advice there stacie.

Confused: really, guys that age really cannot be trusted 9 out of 10! Even my boyfriend is 21, a supposedly grown man, no, cannot be trusted yet!

He seemed sweet when u told him ur feelings? Well of course he does, any guy would or they are just plain jacka55es!!! Haha, but sweet talks cant be trusted either, action says more than words, just remember that we are all here for you, and anytime u have more news and wanna share, we are right here!

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:d I am glad that your second message seemed a little more optimistic. I suppose you have decided to keep the baby, that is a brave , and selfless thing to do. I know your mother is proud of you. I hope that you are eating right, I know that some people dont really think all the prenatel care is that important but you haven't seen a problem yet if you have to face an unhealthy baby. This little life is depending on you. As for the boyfriend, he is young but that doesnt mean he is a different breed. Just like this is confusing for you, it is even more confusing for him be patient but dont let him disrespect you, as long as you can both be as supportive to each other as possiable and let your families help you with the good lord as your savior you can accomplish all of this, congratulations on your new bundle of joy!

there is nothing wrong with beening pregnant , but just remember that it will change your life for ever. I was 23 when I had my first daughter and I thought that the was young and I had no father for my daughter so I thought that the right thing to do was find someone and marry them for my daughter sake, but I was only married 1 yaer and 6months I couldn't handle it . Now i'm 26 pregnant with my son and I a with a man that loves me and I love him and he loves my daughter just like she was his own. So make the right choice. I made an abortion choice once with my husband child and there was nothing wrong with my choice so you still have time so that you can had your teenaged years and have fun. I hope that I could help you a bit. Just remember whatever choice you make it is your choice. Good luck

Yes you r too yung to have a baby and u wish everything b back to normal , but honey this is sorry to say too late ! You should have thought bout that before u did what u did. Butt enough ! U are jung and your mom is there even if your stupid boyfriend can't make up hes mind I do think that u can do this , this days you get all kinds of help even from the state. The bad side is that you will not enjoy going out too much or at all and you prob. Need a part time job and school is there tooo...... But u know what? A lot of jung women can do this and hey the brite side of this is you are 15, 16, your child will make you smile belive that there's not only bad things , of course it is a loooooot of rspblts.

Hello, well im not that young as you. But I know how it is to become pregnant when u less expect it. Im 26 and im 3 weeks from my due date. But trust me never in my mind did the option of abortion cross my mind. The baby's father left me when I was little more then 2 months pregant, and I had to deal with the pain of that and stress of my family. But I knew I could make it with him or with out him, that this baby was going to be my world. The baby isn't born yet, but im very excited. I have met a wonderful man who loves me and this baby like it was his own. Things happen in our lives we can not help. But there is always a reason why they happen. Follow your heart no matter how dark some days get, there is always sunshine in the end.

Take care!

Hey I know a girl who had a baby at 15 and her boyfriend is 18 and he is my ex........ But anyway, u have a life in you and it is the best feeling in the world when you first start to feel it move and kick, and it is really great when you hear it and see it for the first time... Trust me when you see this baby for the first time you will completly fall in love with it... When you find out what you are having let me know ok....

I was 16 and in my last year of high school when I found out that I was pregnant with my son. My boyfriend (and the father of my child) left me before he knew that I was pregnant. He wasn't there my whole pregnancy but he came back after I had our son. It's now been a year since i've had my son and boy is he a lot of work. My boyfriend is still with me and he proposed to me. So if ever need anyone to talk to i'm hear to listen.

Please don't consider an abortion. My wife and I had a child before we were married. She was 18 and I was 19. At the time we were not sure what to do. Both sets of parents volunteered to take custody of the child until we finished college. Unfortunately, her parents couldn't afford to do that and my mother suffers from multiple sclerosis so it just wouldn't work. We decided that the best option for our child was to find a caring and loving adoptive couple. We went through a process called an open adoption. We chose the couple based on interviews. As part of the adoptive agreement, we receive pictures on a yearly basis and our son will be informed as how to contact us when he turns 18.

I must be honest in saying that the decision was the most difficult either one of us has ever made. But it was also, in my opinion, the most selfless thing we have ever done. We both wanted to keep him, but we weren't prepared to give him the opportunity he deserves. The point to my telling you this is to let you know that there are options much better than abortion. Abortion is the "easy way" out now, but I have never met a woman who had an abortion that does not regret her decision. If you want more information on adoption, please feel free to contact me. If you decide to keep the child, I would be more than happy to lend verbal support. I wish you the best of luck and will pray for you in this difficult time.

-chris

First off I am glad things are doing better for you. I was in the same position as you are 7 years ago. My guy stuck around till my daughter was 2 then we decided to split up. 2 years later I met the man I am married to now and once again got pregnant again the first time we slept together we got married 3 months later and are still together he was just 19 at the time and is a wonderful husband and father. If you guys really work at it you can make it work. Several of my friends are still with their babies fathers and they had children at 16 and 17 too. If you want something bad enough you can make it happen. No ones life is easy.We just make the best of it.You are never alone no matter what. Enjoy life. amber

Hey there. What you are doing is a very brave thing. It is harder to face your oops than to run away from them. You have a right to be very emotional. Lean on your mother for support. She understands the emotional roller coaster you are on, after all she gave birth to you, right? As for your boyfriend, I know that you would rather have him on your side. It sure would be a big help. But know one thing, before you get in a huge fight with him about your relationship. Remember you have a little person growing inside you that needs you to stay clear of stressful situations. Or at least as far away from them as you can. I guess what I am trying to say is take care of you and that baby first, then ask him to take a part in it. If he chooses not to, well honey, that is something that he will soon regret himself. But you need to be healthy mentally and physically. Take care. You might want to talk to your doctor or counciler about joining, or just attending some kind of support group. You wouldn't believe how many people are out there that are in your situation. If oyu need to chat send an email. Good luck.