Ok so here it is.
I had this boyfriend, he was a psycho,
sexually assaulted me with a knife,
strangled me, etc... I just don't want to
go into the whole story but you can get
the picture... It was bad.
So fine.
So I had anxiety for a long time after
that - we broke up and he left.
The problem is that I changed my whole
life to avoid him and any reminders of
him. We live in different cities, so
that's ok,
but we have many of the same friends,
through school, that still stay in touch.
I lost contact with all of those people
because of this (didn't want to talk to
anyone, infact I moved cities and moved
somewhere very rural where I could be by
myself most of the time.
So then one day I got this e-mail from
this guy, part of the mutual friend group
from school, and now we have hung out once
and we are going to again this weekend.
But - here is the problem.
He knows psycho ex. I want to explain to
new guy that I don't want to have ex know
where I am or anything about me. I
didn't say why, though.
The guy was kiind of insulted - he thinks
I am ashamed of him or something.
Oh. Also new guy told me about an
alleged sexual assault that took place
that occurred several years ago involving
my psycho ex. I pressed him for details
but he wouldn't give up many of them,
maybe he doesn't knwo the details.
But....
I really want to know because I am already
scared of psycho ex, what he might do if
he finds out I am seeingthis guy and I
need to know about this story.
I never went to the police but now I am
really woried that that was a mistake.
I don't want to tell new guy the real
story. I don't know.
What should I do???????????
Weird thing is. I had crazy anxiety when
this all first happened, and
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 03-23-06 06:35am
The fact that the guy was insulted is
probably a good indication that he's not
that mature. Your choices aren't just
between the psycho and this guy....There's
a whole world out there.
....Do you want to take a chance? And
maybe stir up this mess again?
