Are u a confident person? I become introverted too and have anxiety in social situations

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gavin

Nah I don't consider myself an overly confident person... But that's usually because I can never think of anything to say... Which doesn't really help the confidence... So I don't say much... Which doesn't help the confidence... So I don't say much...

It's a vicious cycle

Maybe you just haven't found anything to laugh about over the past couple of years?

Doing drugs and going to college, I would think your head would be full between the two of those things. And then to look at the world around us these days, if you follow the news, the war, bad things happening to innocent, good people right here in the us... And then worrying about grades, getting caught with an illegal substance, etc etc.

My brain is spinning just thinking about it!

Personally I think that you have to be able to laugh at your own short comings and feel good about yourself before you can find humor in other things. Also you have to start enjoying the little things and not be looking for something big to trigger a laugh. You have to allow yourself to laugh at life in general at times.

But I don't think you've lost your sense of humor, you've just misplaced it.

I am doing drugs and I am at college at the moment I have cut down smoking weed cos I was halucinating and finding myself just thinking and not being social. I have low confidence when I was a kid I found that doing drama classes enabled me to become more confident and be able to use my voice more because I used to hate speaking because I thought I had nothing interesting to say! Thats so not true it doesnt have to be interesting to talk and the more you talk and develop relationships you can then talk about other stuff. Im not really too sure how to help cos im in the same situation so I will be following this closely but drama classes does help and your never to old to join one if I had the $ at the moment I would

Wow dominator, that sounds like me to a t.
I just quit smoking, don't think I have anything interesting to say... Don't usually have anything to say... I took drama for a while, but that didn't help cuz I couldn't ever think of anything to do during improv =/

its gd to hear from some 1 whos sounds to be goin though i simalar thing lol im not meanin am happy ur not findin anythin funny.but i think im the same i was diagnosied with depression round about last april and i dont think i ve properly laphed for almost a year aswell i think i can even sometimes tell when things r funny but i dont properly lagh i think i fake laph aswell u get pretty gd at it did u.it sound s like a heap of shite wat where speakin bout but it is true.im even getin better now and i still dont think ive properly laphed yet.cheers mate for postin that i dont ever put a comment on these things but i thought that was helpful

Im in the same situation..Im in college, and all I do here is work hard during the week to do mediocre in class and get hammered on the weekend with my friends.
I had a great sense of humor a few weeks ago coming back of spring break, I had an awesome time, opened up to people i normally dont and it carried over to the next two weeks or so. But its gone now, I force laughter and small talk, try to be clever and have fun, but its not the same at all.
I dont think its depression were feeling, but maybe stress and a disconnection between friends, which leads to not talking as much and turns into a vicious cycle.
-Im stressed for school and am constantly doing work during the week, or eating or watching tv.
-During the week I barely talk to anyone in my frat except closer friends, and even then they ask where have you been?
-On the weekends I usually drink with friends outside the frat, I get hammered and have a great time.
-I relax when I drink, and gain confidence so I laugh at myself and others and its lighthearted and usually everyone has a great time...but sometimes i think im a little dependent on that, I want it to carry over to sober me! atleast I know its still there.

Im pretty po'ed I cant laugh as easily as I could, or make jokes and laugh with others, it makes me angry I cant enjoy life like i used to or even make others laugh.
I think alot of it has to do with stress and a possible dependency on alcohol use.
I also think that to laugh you have to connect with something on a personal level, which ties in to connecting with friends.

A few things Im going to try and have heard worked for this:
-watch alot of comedy, find out how others look at life and twist it to make it funny, watch comedy central before bed
-when you wake up force a laugh and try to keep laughing until its genuine, this relieves stress and helps you smile again so its not as tough the rest of the day
-for stress go to the gym and try to make it regular, or try whatever theres alot about minimizing stress on the internet

Just right now I remembered all of this since last time I lost my sense of humor haha, give it a shot I hope it helps

And thanks! This really helped for me, so you helped someone today

Hey, just recently i realized that ive been going through the same things as alot of yall. Im 15 and a sophomore in high school, and i seem to have social anxiety at times. Its also been difficult for me to strike up a conversation, and i havent really laughed as much as i used to.
I started to smoke weed the summer i entered high school, and was doing it for about a year. I used to have so much fun with friends, high or not. But afterawhile i started to get paranoid when i smoked weed instead of feeling mellow and happy. Like i used to think people were talking behind my back and i felt like everything i said was stupid. Im pretty sure ever since that started to happen to me, it started to affect me even when i was sober, i wasnt paranoid but it was just hard for me to talk sometimes. Its like i turned into a shallow person. I dont smoke anywhere near as much as i used to, but i will admit, i do it sometimes still. Its hard to stay 100% off of it since almost everyone in high school likes to do it. Anyways, i really just want to become the person i used to be. Im not depressed or anything, but its just like somethings holding me back. I have some stress at home too, my brother is an alcoholic and still lives with me and my parents even though hes 22 and should be moved out by now in my opinion. Ive been like 3 fights with him while he was drunk, and i also just dont enjoy being at my house when hes there drinking. Which is everyday. Maybe im just stressed out, i dont know. If anybody has any advice for me, please reply. Thanks