I am 45 and never suffered with ed in my life. But I am going away with a new partner for the very first time this weekend. A friend of mine said in a joke 'bet you won't get it up' ever since then it has been playing on my mind and I cannot get an erection. I know this is phycological. Any suggestions please-urgently
I think you've got yourself worked up and its all psychological.
If you worry that you won't be able to perform, the stress from the worry makes it so you can't perform.
Take a deep breath, I am sure that if things don't go "perfectly" as you'd like when you are with your lady friend it won't be the end of the world. Give her lots of affection and foreplay and let things happen naturally. It will be alright. She and you will have a nice time together regardless of your performance so quit worrying about it and maybe when the time comes everything will be great.