I Need a Lot of Help Please!!! Posted: 03-21-06 00:43am
please
respond seriously this is a very serious
topic. This is not a joke no matter what
some may think. This is the sad
unfortunate truth.
just to be forewarned, this is going to be
a lengthy story. But if you're looking
for the jist of it, my sister is pregnant
and i'm the father.
About 2 months ago, my 16 year old little
sister and me (a 18 year old male) went to
a high school party together. When we got
to the party, we realized it was not what
we were expecting. Someone brought in a
keg and a lot of the people there were
drunk and there were drugs being passed
around. Eventually a few of our friends
came up to us with some meth and, thanks
to peer pressure, both of us tried it a
couple of times.
Near the end of the party both of us were
very high and everything. Luckily, the
one smart thing we did that day was to get
a sober friend to bring us home so that we
didn't hurt ourselves on the way home.
Neither me nor my sister really remember
the events that happened after we got
home, but the next morning we woke up
cuddling with each other's naked body.
Needless to say, both of us were pretty
worried about it. For the next few days
neither of us looked directly into each
other's eyes because we were afraid of
what happened.
We decided to not dwell on it for
forever, and we both hoped that we didn't
do anything together that night. For a
while both our minds were at ease and we
were able to talk and look at each other
again without fear. However after a month
and a half went by, my sister told me that
she hasn't had her period yet.
A few days ago my sister and I went to
the free clinic together to find out if
she is pregnant and they said that she is
definately pregnant. As of now, only my
sister, anyone who reads this, the clinic,
and I know about the pregnancy.
I really need help with what to do about
this situation. My parents are very serious pro-life
people and we do not know how to tell them
about the pregnancy.
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shuett
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Posted: 03-21-06 01:33am
Hi there
first - are you 100% sure that she is
pregnant with your baby? Could she have
been with someone else on that night or
another time?
If you are biological sister/brother I
think you need to seek medical
attention/counselling immediately. There
are tests they can perform to check for
abnormalities etc.
Best of luck,
sandy
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humanerror23
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Posted: 03-21-06 01:42am
Yes I am sure it is mine. Before me, she
was a virgin, and she hasn't slept with
anyone since. Also can you all help me
with ideas on how to break the news to our
folks?
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shuett
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Posted: 03-21-06 01:47am
I don't think there is an easy way to do
that. I think they will be devestated.
Imo you need to go to a counsellor - and
tell them with the counsellor present. I
think your whole family is going to need
some help to get through this.
Sorry :(
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humanerror23
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Posted: 03-21-06 01:51am
Do u think if we maybe lied about who the
kid was it would make it easier? I know
its not the best thing but it would help
get through the part of telling them my
sister is pregnant.
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shuett
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Posted: 03-21-06 02:09am
You haven't said if she is your biological
sister, but i'm assuming she is.
I think its a possibility that you may
have a child with severe defects. I
think you need to be responsible and think
of that first. As for lying about who
the father is to your parents, I think it
will catch up with you eventually.
Everything comes out in the wash sooner or
later.
I know of a family where a baby was born
to a half brother/sister - same father,
different mother (they didn't know at the
time but thats a whole other story). The
little boy they had is perfect, but they
were told by doctors that the defects
might show in his children when he's an
adult.
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Carrie-Lucie
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Posted: 03-21-06 02:31am
There are so many people who are gonna go
whoa! And most of them need not know
(don't lie just don't tell them)...
However I think your parents need to know
at least so they understand that you are
both going through some major thing.
Have you decided what you are going to do
about the pregnancy? Is abortion an
option? If it is then maybe this would be
the best way forward - just an idea, but
there are so many things which could
happen birth defects wise... Also people
will find out and it is a very unusual
circumstance.
As well as thinking of yourselves think of
the child, some birth defects can be fatal
or very nasty also think about telling
him/her about their parentage later on, as
you would have to.
Hope this helped... Good luck.
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humanerror23
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Posted: 03-21-06 02:57am
Yes she is my biological sister.I don't
know if abortionw ould evenb e an option
because as I stated earlier "our parents
are very pro-life" they think that every
soul deserves a chance. About the lieing
of the father. I wasn't going to keep it
fromt hem forever, just until they got
over the whole "she's pregnant!?!?" phase
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-21-06 05:54am
I doubt it'll have three heads or
anything. It's just that if you have any
genetically inherited diseases in the
family, the chances of the kid having
and/or carrying them is larger.
The whole taboo thing is actually harder
to deal with. I don't think having a
counsellor present will help in telling
your parents. They're gonna kill you-
could even prosecute you, if they're that
way inclined. What sort of people are
they? How do you think they'll react?
I might get jumped on for this, but are
there any confidential abortion clinics in
your area, where your sister could go
without your parents knowing?
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mum???
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Posted: 03-21-06 08:29am
Hi there,listen as I do not believe in
abortion I do not think its the right
thing to do...Whatever you and your sister
has done,the baby doesnt know a thing
about it.I think the best thing to do is
to not tell yopur parents that you are the
father...If they prosecute (which they
could do)you would probably end up in
jail,just be the loving big brother who
stands next to his little sister through
thick and thin...Be there for them both
without making things look dodgy.Whats
happened has happened and there is no
turning back.
I have actualy heard of this situation
before and they just got through
it...There parents and family never found
out.You have a big responsbility now and
i'm sure everythings going to be alright.
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-21-06 08:50am
How the hell can everything be all right?
He knocked up his sister. That sort of
thing isn't something you can just brush
off and never think of again.
I wouldn't want to carry my brother's baby
after a drunken meth-fuelled one night
stand. I know it's not the baby's fault,
but seriously, would you?
Go on, if you've got a brother, think of
him. If you don't, think of your father
(cause that happens too). Now imagine you
both got stoned and had wild monkey sex.
Together. Now imagine he got you
pregnant. If you're not feeling absolute
horror, you're not doing it right.
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Jennie25
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Posted: 03-21-06 09:03am
rodge
wrote:
go on, if you've got a brother, think of
him. If you don't, think of your father
(cause that happens too). Now imagine
you both got stoned and had wild monkey
sex. Together. Now imagine he got you
pregnant. If you're not feeling absolute
horror, you're not doing it
right.
lmao! I'm not even going to try to think
of that...*shudder* lol but I do agree
with you, I wouldn't want to have their
baby. Like someone asked earlier, are
there any abortion clinics you can go to
without ur parents knowing...Even if they
are pro-life, its up to u two what to
do...And if I was ur parents and very
prochoice.The moment I foundout my
daughter was preg. With my sons baby---i
would bend my rules for them. Incest
children are more likely to have
defects..And its just plain wrong..
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mum???
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Posted: 03-21-06 09:55am
Lol roge...Sorry I made you think badly
but I am only trying to help...The poor
kid needs some reasurance and like I said
whats done is done and the clock will not
be turned bk (unfortuanetly)...Yes thanks
to u I cant get the image of me and my
brother at it like rabbits out of my head
now and feel very green.But this guy needs
some serious help...Maybe you should talk
about abortion even though I am strongly
against it...Every woman has that right.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 03-21-06 11:25am
Wow first off dont do drugs!!
As for the pregnancy its her choice if
she would like to keep it or not!! Here
is where things get sticky you need to
tell the dr (its not a myth there could be
serious problems with the child) and
because she is younger it could play up on
her life as well resultling in a medical
termination.
I dont know how your dealing with this,
another thing they can do which may bring
you some hope is amnio(centis) or
something like that anyways they can do a
paternity test before the baby is even
born . I used to be a heavy drug user
when I was a teen but I remebered who I
kissed(messed etc) sorry to be blunt but
anyways I would double check cause meth
doesnt usually f8ck you up that bad unless
they spiked it with other drugs.
I hope everything turns out okay just
becarful (even if it did happen(you had
sex without b/c) anyways im gonna stop
rambling you are really going to need to
talk to someone and a dr has to keep
everything private make an appt pronto so
tests etc can get done quicker etc!!
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AshBoBash
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Re Posted: 03-21-06 11:47am
Ok that must of been some serious dank you
guys smoked and you must of drank straight
gasoline or something
i've been drunk and high before but always
managed to keep myself out of my brothers
bed
i know someone asked this and I know you
think the baby is yours but are you sure?
If your sister would sleep with her own
brother when shes drunk I think its safe
to assume she'd sleep with pretty much
anyone. Thats just nasty.
If your parentshave morals about being
pro-life then i'm sure they have morals
against premartial sex and incest just
imagine how they are going to react when
they find out your sister is not only
pregnant but by you
that is wrong, I can't imagine both of you
being so messed up out of your gourds that
neither one of you could even slightly
realize what was going on and stop it from
going further
i mean give me a break.
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-21-06 11:58am
I never thought it would be normal to see
a thirteen-year-old talking about her
experiences while stoned. And yet,
against the rest of the thread...
A lot of people have a 'god, what did I do
last night?' moment. It's just not that
often that the answer is 'screwed my
sister'.
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humanerror23
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Posted: 03-21-06 12:11pm
I positive that the kid is mine. My
sister is normally a very good kid, I mean
she is an honor student and very high
ranked in her class. I don't know if I
would be able to keep this a secret for so
long. When we went to this party we never
wanted anything bad to happen. We just
tried the drugs because we were interested
in what it was like. Both of us had heard
before that they can really mess up your
life but I never imagined like this! I'm
going to go to jail for this and it is all
my fault because i'm the one who brought
my sister to the party. I do not know of
any abortion clinics near here plus if my
parents ever found she had an abortion, my
sister would be disowned and I don't want
her life to be completely ruin forever.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 03-21-06 12:56pm
Well yo, I think if she was such a "good"
person, that she would've turned the meth
away....Along with the beer and whatever
else yall consumed. Like ya girl said,
i've been tore up before but come on!!
Yall should've thought about that(ruining
each others lives) before yall started
making out...I think I would've had a huge
reality check as soon as our lips
touched!! Yikes!!
Good luck and I hope everything works out
for the best...And I really hope that this
isn't real...Maybe i'm dreaming!!
Sarah
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Rodge
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Posted: 03-21-06 12:58pm
I got the impression thought wasn't much
involved in this. It's like in films- you
take the drugs, and then it's all swirly
bright colours and the .Happy .Tree
.Friends theme tune until you wake up
spooned with your sister. Dun dun duhhh!
:p
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diamondsz
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Posted: 03-21-06 13:56pm
rodge
wrote:
i got the impression thought
wasn't much involved in this. It's like
in films- you take the drugs, and then
it's all swirly bright colours and the
.Happy .Tree .Friends theme tune until you
wake up spooned with your sister. Dun
dun duhhh!
:p
i dont take anything anymore but usually
the first time you do meth its a high for
awhile and then u get sick(kinda like
hangover) but you know whats going around
but at the same time its surreal! I was
lil caca when I was a teen!
