Ok well a guys perspective on things is always helpful! Is it ok for girls to call guys first or message them? I met a guy and I want to know if I should call him even though i`ve not heard from him yet?

What do u think!

I want to know how to get my b/f to open up to me more.When he gets mad he holds it in and when he gets drunk it all comes out-everything that has pissed him off for the past month or so and it's horrible cause we get into it pretty bad.Help?

Hey don`t worry about answering mine I have managed to sort the situation out but thanks anyways!

I don't think he's going to answer anyway

He's probably looking at himself in the mirror! :lol:

Ah typical just ask away and maybe I can help you. I`m not exactly an agony aunt but i`d like to help x

I got one for you.....What do you do with a person(me) with jelly for brains and a spine.....Ahh...Er...What spine?...Goes back to her ex beau, even though she(me) feels like she's trapped in the middle of a "jerry springer show" and can't get out....Sorry.... Is that a run on sentence. :)

I want to know how to get my b/f to open up to me more.When he gets mad he holds it in and when he gets drunk it all comes out-everything that has pissed him off for the past month or so and it's horrible cause we get into it pretty bad.Help?

Hmm this is a tough one. I'm not gonna give u a stupid answer like be more sensitivt to his needs or something. Ima tell you straight up. A lot of guys are like this, and it is really difficult to change them. I mean you could try to ask him about his day and stuff, but if he doesn't even respond to that than theres nothing you can do. Just lay it on the table and tell him how you feel. A lot of guys also, they just don't know how to "open up". It's not in their mentality to tell you about their worries, and pains. Remember guys don't think like girls. Some guys just hold in their emotions and when they get drunk, oh man ive seen it too many times. I've seen grown men bawl when they get drunk, I mean i've seen family members fistfight when they drunk. Men are stupid when they are drunk period. But back to the subject of getting him to open up more, try cuddling next to him when hes mad and ask him whats bothering him while snuggling under his arm. Or give him a back massage and ask him about his day while you do it. This will make a guy defenitely open up more.

I have been dating this guy for about 5 months now and he barely ever calls me, he does came and pick me up but only if I ask. Is there a way to get him to come around more, and not have to ask? Is there a way to get him to call without me telling him to.

Please ur a guy what do I do

I like somewhat dated a guy last year, and he told me he wanted things to get more serious, but I was under alot of stress at the time and couldnt commit to a relationship. We remained friends, and some months later randomly hooked up. I found out he had a new girlfriend at the time, and confronted him about it, but not in a threatening way, I just laughed about it. He blamed the entire hook up on me, and I just laughed it off and moved on. Now, like 8 months later, he is still bringing the whole situation with me up to all of our mutal friends, and refuses to give me any of my stuff back. It's really annoying and I have no idea why a guy would do this so long after the fact?

Maybe he is a busy person ? This is what you do, every time you end the conversation make it seem like your busy and you have to get somewhere, or someone is coming over or something. Make it seem like you have a lot of things to do. I know it sounds stupid, but it works every time. If he really likes you and he knows that you could just forget about him that easily , it will drive him crazy and he will be obsessed with you. Well maybe not all that, but he will defenitely call you a lot more and plan things if he knows that you could go anywhere anytime and not care if hes around or not.

I like somewhat dated a guy last year, and he told me he wanted things to get more serious, but I was under alot of stress at the time and couldnt commit to a relationship. We remained friends, and some months later randomly hooked up. I found out he had a new girlfriend at the time, and confronted him about it, but not in a threatening way, I just laughed about it. He blamed the entire hook up on me, and I just laughed it off and moved on. Now, like 8 months later, he is still bringing the whole situation with me up to all of our mutal friends, and refuses to give me any of my stuff back. It's really annoying and I have no idea why a guy would do this so long after the fact?

So you are telling me to act like I am busy and that I dont mind if he comes or not and to act like him not calling me doesn't bother me and he will do it more because why??? But that is what you are saying right???

As crazy as it sounds that does actually work. If you seem dissinterested, then he responds by trying to get your attention. I don't know, guys respond to no pressure, see you whenever kind of things. When I was with my boyfriend, the best time was when we cooled it off a bit and decided to be 'just friends' for a while. Cooling it off never heated it up so much, the idea of me not being with me solely made him want me more than ever. Crazy but some people want what they can't have.

Thank you I will try but dont want to loose him