Husband Is Bipolar I Really Need Advise..... Posted: 03-18-06 21:29pm
My husband has always been suspected to be
bipolar before he and I were married,
about 3 weeks ago he went into a hypomanic
episode and was diagnosed with bipolar.
He was put on med and didnt do anything
he has been saying that he doesnt remember
certain things lately. Is this typical?
Thursday he went into one of his rampages
and left the house at 5 didnt return all
night finally around noon on friday he
returned and I admitted him into the
hosputal that evening. He said that when
he left he just drove and ended up in
another state.
I dont know what to do we fight all the
time we are on the verge of a divorse,
have only been married 10 months, I can
not talk to him with out him saying that I
am attacking him or him blowing up into a
destructive state, what do I do, I hate
walking on egg shells and so do all the
children, he says he wants to change but
will it ever, I want to help him but yet
can not voice my opinion and to be honest
I domt want to have to deal with the
suspecion of him leaving for a day again
with no calls thinking he could be with
someone else... Anyone else have to deal
with this and could you give me insight
on how you handle this.. Thanks
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debbieru
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Mar 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 03-20-06 22:33pm
My husband of over 20 years was diganosed
2 years ago. If I had it to do over I
would not. It has been a hard and
painful life. I have 5 children one of
which is also bipolar. When the ill
partner is willing to get help and
complies with the doctors then maybe stick
it out but if not don't bother. Only the
ill can choose to get help but either way
you also live with the results. If you
do not have children then really look at
how he is doing before ever considering it
also remember it is hereditary and are you
willing to subject a child to both living
with a bp father and possibly having it
themselves. If I thought my bp suicidal
son could take it I am not sure I would
put up with it any more.
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RameshV
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: India
Posted: 03-22-06 07:18am
Not rememembering certain things is
typical of people with bipolar disorder.
Please also note that whatever he is doing
like fighting with you or leaving home
without any information are due to his
illness. He is not what he is doing right
now.
Bipolar disorder can be treated
effectively and people can lead productive
lives. Once he comes out of this episode
and knows what the problem is and fully
follows the doctors advise - he can
recover.
Anyway , since you have admitted him into
a hospital , you need not worry about him
running away. Get him out of there only
when docs say so. Help him to follow
mediacation advise and recover.
Love & affection helps him a lot. It
is definitely a demanding task. But
try.
No need to think of having children etc
now and worry on that. It is too early.
