Every since I started having sex (3 months ago) its been uncomfortable to penetrate no matter how turned on I am. I have no problems with being lubricated enough, I think its my hymen. Is it possible for the hymen to get in the way even though I have sex every week? I've heard before it is completely broke but just strectched out.
I'm wondering if mine is a little messed up.
I'm not really stressed about this- just looking for some support!
No I wouldn't worry. Sometimes it depends on position. Try being on top so you can control it to see if it'll lessen the pain. Also if he is completely in it can hurt no matter how big he is...I don't know why, it's just from experience.
I wouldn't worry about not being normal, it took me almost a year before it stopped hurting.
I don't think it's the hymen causing you pain... If you only recently started having sex with anyone that of course it's gonna hurt for awhile, depending on the amount of times you have sex (the more often you have it, the less it will tend to hurt).
I had the same problem after I first started having sex and what I did was I started using larger-size tampons for awhile... And it worked. I used them every day for a week before I tried having sex again and believe it or not, the next time I did, it only hurt during the second he was first inside me and then it stopped.
On top is too much pain. I can't even start on top.
I've been having sex for 3 months now and half the time the pentration still feels like i'm just losing my virginity.
But thanks for the advice, it will probably go away with time.
If you are tense and expecting pain then you will be more likely to tense up more, so it will hurt more. Try breathing exercises to relax you and try exploring your lady bits on your own, so you have total control. Also, try using additional lubricant and if that doesn't help might be worth seeing a Dr.
I have been having sex for three years with the same guy and on top is so painful and so is doggy style, i've almost cried during sex. More often then not the noise i'm making is of uncomfortableness than pleasure. Is it a fine line between please and pain or should I really be seeing a doctor. After three years you would think I would be naturally relaxed but even drunk it still hurts, so i'm thinking it may be more physically a problem. I have been to a doctor and she did some swabs, I have no infection and eveything looked alright but can something be unseen and still be wrong? I would really like to have pleasurable sex, not even an orgasm just with no uncomfortability. I just thought it was normal to have to slightly uncomfortable. I'm losing interest in it because it's not that great but I still have urges.
Sh5nton I feel your pain!!!
I could care less about orgasms at this point.
I wish I didn't have to constantly move around to find a part where theres no pain.
I have recently found that having sex sitting up is helpful and more pleasurable.
This may sound strange too but last time I had sex I didn't go pee right before like I usually do and there was less pain. (i don't its related but i'm trying anything!)
unfornately for me, there are few positions that offer no pain, he has to be angled right and at the right depth (which usually isn't deep enough for him :(
Aww. Reading this makes me sad. I am relived I am not the only one who experiences this stuff!
I ahve been to my gyn countless numbers of times because of this pain during penetration unless in missonary but also if he is deep.
I have only had sex with my 1 boyfriend and he hadn't had sex for a long time before me and him..I dont think I have chylmidia cuz my paps come back okay anbd the docs say I dont have infection.
But I have lost all interest in any sexual activity and I tense up and back off and make excuses
as well as cry sometimes due to frustration,fear,pain and fights caused by this pain.
Could it be the fact my cervix is tilted?
Or could it be a yi I didn't notice?? Or any type of infection???
I hate this in the dark type of info im left @ so please respond
Yeah it's pretty damn frustrating. It's easy to say don't get discouraged but after three years of average uncomfortable sex i'm starting to not be bothered at all. I'm 20 and these are supposed to be the best years of my life. Aaarrg! On the side hurts a little less, him right behind you with your legs squeezed together. Let me know if you get any answers.