:( I probably wouldn't like it. I understand where you're coming from

Its not fair when ur partner would be p!Ssed if u did it so I would confront him and get p!Ssed, I believe 50/50 in a relatioship!! I have a different philosphy on porn but I know what u mean!!

Whats ur philosophy on porn jess?
I don't know I just think it'd hurt my feelings, I don't want my guy getting off from some other naked girl. Even though it's just a video or a picture lol

I doubt there's any emotional attachment, if that helps. It's just a quick wank. Hell, I like porn, but I don't love any of the people in it.

Talk to him about it. If he outright refuses to discuss it, there may be a problem.

I used to get upset when I was younger feeling like I wasn't good enough
but now I will watch it with him. My bf has a lot of dvds but we don't ever watch them and he doesn't watch them alone. I know for a fact because they are at his house and we stay at mine. Anyways I just decided not to get mad but tell him you know and see if he gets embarassed about it. Tell him you don't mind as long as the porn is not replacing you. You said you guys don't really see eachother and sometimes guys just need to "beat off". I wouldn't worry about it. Make a joke out of saying playfully, did you play with yourself today? Pretty soon the forbiden aspect of it might just go away if he knows you are secure enough in your relationship that it doesn't bother you. I realized there are bigger things to worry about that a little harmless porn. As long as he isn't spending a lot of money on it or cheating on you just trust your man otherwise you will have conflict. I know it is easier said than done but good luck.

Sara

Hehe im with srm4021 here porns great as long as you dont do it by yourself kinda like drinking your an alcoholic if ya do it alone!

I would be mad if he lied about porn or if he used it everyday and wasnt really ever in the mood to love me.

I have never quite understood why people get mad at their fella for looking at porn.

I mean it is a 2d image of a woman he can't touch and has little chance of ever meeting let alone having a fling with.

I'd certainly prefer my man to look at porn than to look at some woman on the street as he passes by.

Men quite simply like the shape of a female body - and why not it is cetainly a very attractive thing.
By looking at porn a man can pretend to act a fantasy (all by himself) that he honestly would *not* want to act out in real life and would likely be ashamed of telling anyone that he even fantasised about.

Example man sits at pc looking at a porn page of *naughty naked nikkala* as he jerks off he imagines (idealistically not in realistic terms) that nnn slaps him or pee's on him or some thing you guys don't do in real life.
Once it is over he probably feels ashamed or embarrassed that he even thought about it and he most certainly wouldn't want to really do *that*.

It's a bit like a girl playing with herself on her own and imagining that it is brad pitt or matt damon or some other hot movie star in bed with her - it ain't likely to ever happen and once it is done it is over.

It's a fantasy is all and in a way it is respect to his loved one because he is fantasising over (probably air brushed as well) an image, he is not going out looking for sex or one night stands.

I'd be more worried about a man who didn't look at porn.

Besides, who is the person he comes home to, who does he share his personal space with?

On another note he might not really be looking at lots of porn sites, but a lot of sites for men (gaming, chat, health, etc) actually have pop ups for porn sites and that could well be an explanation as to why there are lots of them in your pc history.

If you choose to ask him about it you must be prepared to trust his answer. Me, personally, i'd just forget about it.

he can only watch porn if im around, not like he watches it but even then and its the same thing for strippers I get to go with him lol!!

Me and porn don't mix. I told my fiance before we even started dating that I don't tolerate it at all. If I ever find anything that points to porn, i'm gone. He is a very understanding person and thinks that porn is pointless. Why would he need porn?? Isn't that what we're for???? Porn is for single men and single women only. Hey this is my opinion, so if it offends anyone, i'm truely sorry.

Having your man watch porn does more than hurt your feelings, it hurts your ego. What am I not good enough for you to get off watching?

I would be extreemely pissed if I were you. Especially if in your situation, he won;t let you do the same. I don't agree with it and I don't believe that 2 wrongs make a right either. He might as well be at the strip club giving his money to some other broad. (which is what porn leads to) then after the strip club, then comes the cheating.

I hope you can work this out with him girl...Just let him know how porn makes you feel.....

Sarah

that bs so what ur going to tell me is if a man goes to a strip club he will end up cheating lol thats caca, first off my mans never cheated on me and trsut me I know this because im the crazy one(who goes to womans strip joints etc.) if you take a mans freedom away what do you think he will do?? He will take off so you have to balance things out, if you dont like ur man watching porn well watch it with him, so what if ur sex life is perfect maybe theres a few tricks u can pick up from porn or kama sutra.

What you guys dont know about me is I was bi before meeting hubby half my friends are guys and I hear things you wouldnt imagaine but then again I understand things cause im a female.........Guys get pissed when u tie them down for no reason(jealousy, and when u just freak) they watch porn its more of a joke to them anyways if ur not giving ur man booty and he needs to jerk off it helps to get him going but they arent thinking about doing it some other woman.........

Okay sorry this stuff really angers me off let loose if you dont like what hes doing tell him how ur feeling (remeber a relationship is supposed to open(communication) if you cant tell ur man how u feel or if he doesnt respect you "then what the f*ck are you doing with him>>"

as for it hurting my ego "never" cause my sex life is awesome im on lack off for another two weeks but besides that everythings supposed to be open!

If I ever ended up in a relationship (which I doubt), i'd still look at porn. It's fun.

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if it doesn't work you may have to go to archive.Org and put in the original address. The domain expired the other day, you see. :(

Look , like I said...Many many many times in my post...This is just .M.Y opinion and if I offended anyone that I was sorry. I understand that more people are comfortable with it than there are people who are uncomfortable. My dad had a serious porn addiction it it wound up with a bad ending. So for me...Porn is something that will eventually be something that causes me hurt.

I never once said that my sex life was perfect but i'm freaky by nature, I really didn't need porn to spice my caca up, ya know?

I don't post on here hoping to piss someone off or trigger an argument, so i'm sorry. I just post what I feel not with intentions to push someone's buttons.

Sarah

Im not a hater, like u im voicing my opinion, sometimes I can rub off as harsh when i'm not trying to be just so u know..........


All I want to say is that if a woman can watch porn the a man should be able too but if you dont then hubby shouldnt but neither person should be tied down cause that f8cks a relationship up!

I hear ya I hear ya....That's why I hate typing...Cuz you can't hear the emotion coming from the other person's voice. It's all good...

I agree with diamdondz...If he watches porn, than you should be allowed that same right by him. It kinda hypocritical of him to watch it and refuse to let you watch it.....

Sarah

Lol..I guess this was a wonderful post..Everyone has their views...Yeah me and him had a talk...He doesnt do it all the time..I have only found it twice..I just told him that he needs to do it when im around instead of behind my back because it kind of hurt my feelings that he couldnt be truthful and do it in front of me...But now we came to an argreement on things...Im just not a person to like porn..Really and truely it makes me gag because the girl look like total trash...But I like seeing everyones opinion on it!!..

Brian watches porn........ What can you do????? Nothing! We watch it together sometimes...... It's something different.

Well that said..You both know about it...My fiance was doing it behind my back...Which upset me..Not that im jealous of the porn...Because seriously to me those girls/guys are nasty ...I just want him to be able to do it in front of me..Because I feel like if he hides that...Then what else does he hide...But considering that me and him have already talked this over...(because I finally said something)..We are alright with the whole deal now...
Im not much of a porn person...Doesnt really turn me on..I didnt ever tell him that I didnt or wouldnt let him watch it...Because seriously thats his business..And if he wants to im not going to stop him..He's a guy and more than most of them watch it..All I can say is I can find much better things to do ..Than watch porn

Lol

i understand your anger...... You felt like you were in the dark about the whole thing..... I would be angry too if I felt like he was trying to keep it concealed!