I'm just looking for everyone's general opinion on how to deal with a relationship once trust has been violated...
Can you get past it?
Can you ever trust them again?
Are there any steps that can be taken to gain trust back?
This is something i'm sorta dealing with right now...My relationship is more than 2 years old...He cheated during the beginning stages, during what I call the "just seeing each other" time... But he slept with someone else and it's taken a long time to move on. He's more than made up for it...But the trust factor is still an issue when he's out with friends or at the bar...
I'm just wondering where everyone stands on this topic??
How long did you know about him cheating before you carried on with the relationship? You've been with him for two years, I would think it would be in the past if you already decided to move on with the relationship. I think trust is a major issue in relationships. If you don't have it, then it isn't a healthy one.
Well what happened was, he slept with someone else about 2 months after we started seeing each other...And then I found out about 2 months after that. He confessed and everything but said we weren't officially dating, and even thought I knew we weren't "official" (then), I still figured he'd have enough respect not to hook-up with somebody else. But then he spent the next few months trying to make it up to me and it's been like a year and a half since then.
I feel pretty confident that I can trust him again... I've already told him it's not a 100%, but it's more and more everyday.
If you believe that you weren't really seeing each other, like friends with benefits.... Then I think you should trust him, and feel confident in your relationship, unless he has given you a reason to think or feel other wise.
Exactly... That's what it was... Friends with benefits. But I had just assumed that since I wasn't in a rush to get with anyone else, then he wouldn't either, but ya know how guys are..
But anyway, a few of my friends still have a problem with me getting so serious with him... Of course they're the ones who've never met him, but they think that if he did it once, regardless of the fact that we weren't dating, then he'll do it again...
I mean, even my parents love him and they know the whole situation...
It's just so tough. I still get worried sometimes because everytime I start to assume I can fully trust him again, I tell myself that i'm being naive.