If you want a baby get ready for lots of pain :p


i don't know what to tell you really, if you already have your minds made up. Do you both have jobs? And cars? And have the money to actually support it? You may, I don't know you, but think hard about what you wanna do. As for the weight I have no idea if that could be a problem, but good luck with whatever you decide. :)

I dont currently have a job my boyfriend dose tho and no we dont have cars yet

Before you get pregnant, ask yourself these questions:

do I have a car to get to my doctor's appointments?
How will I afford the thousands of dollars it takes to have a child?
Am I self sufficent?
Do I live independently from my parents?

If you've answered "no" to any of these questions, then you really aren't ready to have a child.

Personally (this is just me) I think you should get at least a job first. I'd want a job before I tried getting pregnant just so you'd know you'd have money in the future, it's good that he has one though. But how are you planning on getting to doctors appointments and things? I think you could do it, I know a lot of 17 year old moms, and even younger that are doing it, but they also have a job and a car and a house and are at least somewhat stable first. Just something to think about :)

I have to agre with star to be

kids arent cheap and although it may seem like a dream to you once u have them(even though u love them) ur life can become somewhat of a nightmare, lack of sleep, issues with bf, financial problems etc. Alot of people dont know what there getting into when they have kids I have two(babies) and im still learning stuff everyday its like a reality check to keep me standing on my feet.

In addition to stars questions here are some more surreal things to ask urself
do you have patience??
Can you afford life insurance for the baby(its cost over 12000$ for a funeral/burial)
can you go a day/two without a shower and feeling like a walking zombie??
Do you have your own place??
Do you have enough money to provide basic necessities to your child
~diapers& wipes~clothes~crib~food etc
can you deal with a sick child(crying almost all the time)
babies are beautiful but if ur not prepared for them ur going to burn out pretty fast, somepeopl adjust pretty damn quick unlike me but it defiantly isnt easy I hope u make the right choice I truly do!!

Yes I can deal with all those things I seriousily can with the money issue im not sure about yet but my parents have alot of money I no its tight 2 say that but they will suport me utill I can get a job I am gonna get one very soon so I can make some money untill I have the baby and also my boyfriend has a good job

The on thing you cant do is provide moral to ur child, how are you going to teach ur child indepedance when u cant even be independant I know im snappy but what are u doing?? Get a job before u get pregnant, get ur education and then ttc thats the smart way to do it do you really want ur child to grow up and tell ppl his moms a retard like come on..

Im 22 I own a van, I have a house, im buying a car I have life insuarnce for my whole family as well as resp(education plans for my kids) and im going back to work next month cause I like living well and spoiling my kids!! Both my kids are sick and I bet if you were in my shoes you would be freaking cause im at wits end and im trying to unwind and I getpissed when I see someone trying to have a kid without thinking about their kid first....

Yeah, not getting rude but you do need to have a job and stuffed planned out first.


You can't depend on your parents if you want a baby

then your parents are ready. Not you. I don't agree with anyone still depending on the support of thier parents to get pregnant on purpose behind thier parents backs. Why don't you ask your parents if you can ttc and see what they say. Cos yur still living under thier roof and thier money is still paying yours and thier bills. So having a baby wouldnt be just a decision on your own. When trying to get pregnant on purpose I think it should be something thats agreed on by all the people that it would directly effect.
I know I know im still living with my parents. But theres no way in hell I was trying to get pregnant purposely. If I could take it back and not get pregnant I would. Dont get me wrong I already love this baby but I wish she would of come along when I was out on my own so it'd be a more stable life for her an me both.

Ash there's a difference between a unplanned pregnancy and living with ur parents(kinda out of ur control) and ttc living with ur parents anyways ill leave it at that but u know we luv ya lol!

I have one thing to say and it's about your boyfried, just b/c he wants a baby and everything does not mean that he wont leave u. Not saying that he will. But he's young. Me n my boyfriend want a baby young, so that's what we got, soon to be I think I was maybe seven months when he left me, not fun being depressed and pregnant. Though he did come back within a week it doesn't mean all of them will, my cousin and what was her soon to be husband wanted a baby after he found out he left her and has nothing to do wit her or the baby. And please let me add it's not easy I don't regret it but I wish I would have waited. Just really think about this more before u rush into anything. As someone else said babies are expensive and one job isn't going to support the baby,you and himself, just really think about it

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you really need to go and talk to your parent's then.

You're claiming that you're mature and ready for a baby but you don't even have a job, I doubt are graduated highschool, aren't living with your partner (from the sounds of it) and plan to use your parent's money to survive and pay for your baby.

None of that is mature or responsible. And those are two things that are a requirement for a baby, no way around it.

If you're mature enough for a baby, you should have no problems being mature enough to approach your parents and tell them that you're having one. Especially if you plan to use their money to pay for the baby. You should tell them that too. Just so that they're prepared, you know.

But let me just say this.....How would you feel if your friend somehow forced you to pay for everything for them for a few years? Without asking or letting you know ahead of time? You'd be pretty ticked huh? Your parents don't want to support another child, or else they would have one themselves.

Have some damn patience.

yah thats what I was trying to say, living with your parents and an unplanned pregnancy happens is one thing. But living with your parents and getting pregnant on purpose behind thier backs is sneaky and a imature decision. I still live with my parents and I see firsthand how it affects parents. My pregnancy was very unplanned. I would never do it on purpose while still living at home.