my partner and I are to start an cycle of
ivf in 2 months' time. Our infertility is
due to sperm antibodies after a vascectomy
reversal. My sister has turner's syndrome
which causes her to be infertile. She has
had one cycle of ivf already, which was
successful but failed after 7 weeks. She
has been approved for another cycle of
ivf, and has asked me to donate an egg to
her and her husband. She didn't know
about my impending ivf cycle when she
asked, but I told her, and also told her
that I needed time to think about it.
This is my dilemma: I can't help but feel
that if I donated an egg, someone else
would be raising my child. I am also
worried that if I did do it, what would
happen if her ivf was successful and mine
wasn't - I am certain that I would feel
alot of ill-will and resentment. But how
can I deny my sister this oppurtunity? I
feel selfish and torn. It would be great
to hear from women who have donated eggs
especially, but any advice would be
gratefully accepted
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Rosh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2006 Posts: 39 Location: NZ
C'mon Guys! Posted: 03-20-06 17:29pm
I noticed lots of people have looked at
this topic but still no advice! Is it
because this issue is as scary to others
as it is to me?
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God
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Mar 2006 Posts: 61 Location: Heaven
Posted: 03-20-06 22:39pm
It's a difficult one, but ultimately you
have to do what is right for you.
Is there a counsellor attached to your
clinic to whom you can talk? Good luck,
whatever decision you make.
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tara_dickel
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Mar 2006 Posts: 7 Location: New York
Tough One Posted: 04-14-06 06:29am
I have suffered with infertility for years
and after 2 rounds with iui we got
pregnant with twins. I was pondering the
thought of egg donation because I wanted
to help someone else out there. But now
we are trying one more time. I think
untimatly it is your decision. You
should put your self first here if you
want a family. You just don't know this
may be your chance now.
Tara
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Rosh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2006 Posts: 39 Location: NZ
Cheers Posted: 04-23-06 16:03pm
Thanks, tara.
I asked about it at the fert. Clinic, and
it's not possible anyway. They don't do
egg donations from ivf cycles. That took
the decision out of my hands, which was a
relief, but I also feel bad for my sister.
She was really understanding about it
when I told her. Good luck with your own
baby plans!
