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bawa
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Location: india
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Regarding Painful Sexual Experiences
Posted: 03-15-06 00:00am
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My wife is very short and small and petite
about 5 feet 3 inches and im about 6 feet
3 inches and about 86 kilos
the problem is we r havign too much
difficulty in sexual contact as she is
finding me too large (erection size 9.5
inches)fer her inside wen we hav sex I can
barely move much so as to ensure its not
discomfort only when she ius very very wet
it is ok otw she has areally hard time and
laos it makes me not feel good cos this is
suppsoed to be ebnjoyed anyoen with any
help plz write in
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tasha82
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Posted: 03-15-06 00:15am
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The best thing you can do is get her very
aroused before you have sex. The vagina
expands when a woman is aroused, and the
cervix lifts up, so it creates more room
and makes it much more comfortable. You
can also try different positions to see if
there's one that doesn't hurt as much.
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bawa
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Size Issue
Posted: 03-15-06 01:36am
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| tasha82
wrote: | | the best thing you can do is
get her very aroused before you have sex.
The vagina expands when a woman is
aroused, and the cervix lifts up, so it
creates more room and makes it much more
comfortable. You can also try different
positions to see if there's one that
doesn't hurt as
much. |
yes tasha thanksa so much but weve been
tryin lots of things all the time to move
ahead with this problem. At best my penis
comfortable can go only half way inside
here and is not arousing enuff fer me to
have sex this way since any more insertion
causes pain and also im not circumsied so
its pull back the foreskin too much even
fer me
very aroused hahaa!! Is funny cos she
has mayb two orgams atelats from me giving
her head before we reach penetration sex.
Trying positions on top behind sideways
all leads to almost the same story. There
is no scope of size change in the vagina
or wat ever?? Thanks so mush fer writing
in cheers!!!
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sandy78
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Location: Cali.
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Posted: 03-15-06 01:40am
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Try a lubricant. I understand that your
wife is small however there are some
things that yo can do nothing about.
Best advice woould be to use a lube so at
least it's as fun as it can be.
Personal choice for a good lube would be
ready lube. You can google for it, I
dont want to get in trouble for posting
links. Lol
i wish you the best of luck! ;)
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bawa
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Size Issue
Posted: 03-15-06 01:46am
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| sandy78
wrote: | try a lubricant. I
understand that your wife is small however
there are some things that yo can do
nothing about. Best advice woould be to
use a lube so at least it's as fun as it
can be.
Personal choice for a good lube would be
ready lube. You can google for it, I
dont want to get in trouble for posting
links. Lol
i wish you the best of luck!
;) |
u said ready lube isa good one to use..
Its basicallly a gel which we need to
apply before we start intercourse is it?
Yes cos we are into each other but she
feels gulity sumtiems sayignt hat she
cannot satisfy me completely cos sure it
takes a long tiem since if we only have
intercourse it lasts very long and she
feels she is not able to satisfy me even
tho we spoke and have no issues over it
since we both know we need to work on this
together so yes as u said lets hoep it
gets better.. Unleesss otw we wud move to
renamind oursleves mr and mrs oral ahaa!!
Thanks mate!!
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Morning_Glory
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Posted: 03-15-06 11:16am
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Ky jelly is a good personal lubricant if
your not familar with whats out there.
You can get ky jelly at any of the drug
stores, walmart, etc.
As for your wife's discomfort. Have you
tried having her on top and letting her
control how far , how fast, etc you enter
her?
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bawa
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Posted: 03-15-06 13:37pm
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| morning_glory
wrote: | ky jelly is a good personal
lubricant if your not familar with whats
out there. You can get ky jelly at any
of the drug stores, walmart, etc.
As for your wife's discomfort. Have you
tried having her on top and letting her
control how far , how fast, etc you enter
her? |
hi there
yes we have been tryin many jelly also ky
jelly and is help sure but we still havea
problem which I guess is ours to deal and
live with fer now that deeper entry is not
possible yes on top seems to eb the best
bet but again due to her size being small
she cannot sread her legs and be on top
fer long alsoas its tiring and yet again
the entry is still the problem yes sure is
better fer her mostly wen she is on top or
sideways yes cos these ways she can
control the enterance btter. Fast
entrance is never our way since I also
love to give her oral pleasure and also
with fingers cos this is easier on her so
yes is wen she is only very wet after
maybe 2 orgasms.. Thanks fer the tip
anyway
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wannababy25
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Location: Near Ottawa, ON
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Posted: 03-16-06 12:30pm
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What you should find out is if she ever
had pain with anyone else? It could be
that she has endometriosis. It's where
endometrium tissue grows in places that it
shouldn't and can make intercourse very
painful. It can also make her periods
very, very painful. Thing is...If it were
your penis length causing the problem...It
would only hurt when almost all the way
in. Look up endometriosis and talk to her
about it. I also recommend that she speak
to a doctor. Sex should never be a
painful experience.
Hope this helps.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 03-16-06 12:41pm
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First off have to say something I hate
saying this but my mom is 5'1 and my dad
is 6'3 and they have 6 kids so height has
nothing to do with it.
Sometimes woman need different types of
stimulation while having sex, some of us
cant just get off with just penetration or
it takes forever. Have you tried playing
with her nipples or stimulating her clit
when having sex. Down here we have a
radio show called sex with sue it awesome
and she give really good sex advice and my
friend is taking a course for sex
therapist lol!! Anyways heres a link http://www.Talksexwi
thsue.Com/sexindex.Html communication
is also a big part make sure u know what
she wants some woman dont voice their
opinions and suffer !
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bawa
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Posted: 03-16-06 15:17pm
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| wannababy25
wrote: | what you should find out is
if she ever had pain with anyone else?
It could be that she has endometriosis.
It's where endometrium tissue grows in
places that it shouldn't and can make
intercourse very painful. It can also
make her periods very, very painful.
Thing is...If it were your penis length
causing the problem...It would only hurt
when almost all the way in. Look up
endometriosis and talk to her about it.
I also recommend that she speak to a
doctor. Sex should never be a painful
experience.
Hope this
helps. |
hi thanks fe rur response. Yes she has
had sex with three ppl prior to em and the
longest she says must have been 5 to 5.5
inches so she told em first tiem we had
sex wow wats this I dotn think I can take
it in
yes with smaller size she didnot have any
pain
mayeb I undertsand I thrust too much and
stince im also thick we just ahve to find
our way to wats most comfortable fer us
as far as the endometriossis u ssaid she
will check with her doctor assona s
possible about his alsoe talka lot and
hopefully will find the way put of this to
become a pleasurable exprience
thnaks anyway wannababy!!!
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wannababy25
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Posted: 03-16-06 15:20pm
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No problem! I hope you guys can figure
this one out. The doc should be able to
give you some advice. :)
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bawa
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Location: india
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Posted: 03-16-06 15:27pm
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| diamondsz
wrote: | first off have to say
something I hate saying this but my mom is
5'1 and my dad is 6'3 and they have 6 kids
so height has nothing to do with it.
Sometimes woman need different types of
stimulation while having sex, some of us
cant just get off with just penetration or
it takes forever. Have you tried
playing with her nipples or stimulating
her clit when having sex. Down here we
have a radio show called sex with sue it
awesome and she give really good sex
advice and my friend is taking a course
for sex therapist lol!! Anyways heres a
link http://www.Talksexwi
thsue.Com/sexindex.Html communication
is also a big part make sure u know what
she wants some woman dont voice their
opinions and suffer
! |
yes the general sex life level is very
good diamondsz with full stimulation
being achieved by my wife in other forms
of sex except mostly in penetration. Ys I
jus need more inputs and hope one of them
works fer us.The problem heer is mainly me
im ot gttignt he satisfaction of total sex
since penetration is a painful act we try
and stop is she hurt too much. Lost of
oral sex bothways so slowly steadily well
geta round this
in the meanwhile when ur frind finishes
his/hert course at the channle u wa
ssaying mayb some tips from them
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bawa
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Posted: 03-16-06 15:33pm
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| wannababy25
wrote: | | no problem! I hope you
guys can figure this one out. The doc
should be able to give you some advice.
:) |
to eb honest fer the firt tiem in a while
we actualy had a long sesion of
penetration sex with loads of oralsex to
begin with but if she orgasms too much
with oral she gets dries and small after
but yesterdayw e used a lot of the gel
recommended by others and it helped alot.
We were both happy as it wa smy first
penetration orgams ina while so mayeb itsa
lucky sign to post on this forum its
already helping and as far as the doc is
concerned well jus have ti make sure we
get it out ofhim: the best advice..
Ciaoo..
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sandy78
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Posted: 03-16-06 23:26pm
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| morning_glory
wrote: | ky jelly is a good personal
lubricant if your not familar with whats
out there. You can get ky jelly at any
of the drug stores, walmart, etc.
As for your wife's discomfort. Have you
tried having her on top and letting her
control how far , how fast, etc you enter
her? |
you are correct in that ky jelly is
availible at drugstores etc., however, if
you are a health conscious person and you
want a lube without all those harsh
chemicals then I would go with ready lube.
Ready lube is paraben free, propylene
glycol free and is petroleum free.
There are a lot of lubes on the market
now, it pays to shop around and not just
pick something off the shelf because it's
been around for years.
Btw, i'm sure you havetried it before in
your search to end this problem, but do
try to have her be on top and let her do
the work until she is comfortible with
things.
I think things will get better over
time.
Best wishes!
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