I have friends who are girls and I will always be the shoulder to cry on, guy to help with uni work, guy to chat to etc but never more than friends.
|hi there! Go to a gym. It is a great way to work on the body and to meet people aand to get out of the lul you are in and you sleep better too.
|instead of thiking that she will look at u in disgust, think of what would happen if you became friends or more and that should motivate u.|
|yeah i'm pretty much in the same situation. I'm also 19, turning 20 a couple of months before you and i'm in my 2nd year at uni.
Also never been out with a girl, never been asked and never asked anyone.
I have all the usual problems that are talked about on this forum, no confidence, no self belief or self esteem, and i'm also quite short and fairly average looking (at best) which doesn't help the matter. Also don't drink or go to clubs and all that, so perhaps I am perceived as incredibly dull, although I am pretty active in sports, with soccer and tennis being the mains ones I play for teams/clubs but i'll play anything else given the chance. Have actually played soccer at a reasonably high level (national tournament sort of stuff) and I can hold my own at tennis so i'm not hopeless at physical activities.
I suppose my main problem is my confidence/self esteem (or lack of). I can't see any reason why any girl would ever like me at all over other guys, and I can't see that I have anything to offer them. So then when theres someone I like, and there always is someone, I will never do anything about it.
I guess I also always fall into the unattractive "nice guy" category, in that I have friends who are girls and I will always be the shoulder to cry on, guy to help with uni work, guy to chat to etc but never more than friends.
All these thoughts are starting to control my mind tbh, I can't think of anything else. Never used to worry about this stuff, but then you can't help it when you see all your friends getting girls all over the place, your parents constantly asking when you will bring one home, my 16 year old brother all of sudden has a girlfriend who is over at our house all the time, and lately I am feeling even more like a loser than ever. But I know having a girlfriend isn't the be all and end all of life, if I had one all my problems wouldn't magically disappear, I just need to learn to believe that and somehow learn to be happy as I am. So anyone got any advice for learning to like yourself and be happy as you are? Thats what I really need to learn to do this year. Perhaps if we can achieve this state, we will be able to improve all aspects of our life.
Glad I have found this forum and that there are others who feel exactly the same way.(not saying I am glad others feel this way, just that its good to know i'm not the only one)
-i play videogames
-i like anime (rurouni kenshin is my fav! <3)
-im skinny, ripped and vainy ( I heard somewhere that girls dont like vainy guys, but sorry I cant help it)
-umm what else? I have acne
-i dont go to clubs, I dont drink
-i cant dance
-i bite my nails
-im not popular
-im unapproachable (i think)
(i'll update if I think of more.. Lol)
|I am 28 yrs old and still today I never had a gf or kissed a girl yet..The way things are going for me, it just seems like to me that I am going to be single forever, I don't want think that way but just seems like it to me.|