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Q: Im Srry I Just Had to Tell Everyone!...and I Have a Q?

asked by: Angel_Who_Crys on March 12th, 2006

Experienced User

A few nights ago my bf proposed to me at the mall.

Lol I know kinda stupid place to do it, and I almost killed him for doing it were there is a change of lots of people...Ugh I almost pasted out, and he hoped I would scream.

Anyways im 17 and he is 24. I am just over 30weks pregnant, and we have been told 2 times that its a girl.

With in the past few days its kinda hit me that maybe im trying to grow up to fast, like there is something in life im missing.

Maybe it could be that I have alot of friends 20 and up with kids and all they do is act like they are 2 years old and want to sit on their butts and let welfare take care of them.

Im so afrade thats what I will be a nothing, im ment I want more then anything to go back to school and oneday have my dream job. But im starting to think I really cant do it. I guess im leting people get to me.

So here is my question did anyone else feel like they were just growing up to fast and that they were missing something in life?

((dont get me wrong I am vary happy, but these just that little part of me that says I messed up.))

Replies(3)

Sarah1978

replied on March 12th, 2006

Experienced User

Wow - congratulations :-)
there is no rule that says you can't go back to school and do everything you ever wanted with a baby and a hubby, sure it may be hard but life is ment to be an adventurre! And you will probably try even harder so you don't end up like some of your friends. I got married at 19 and am now patiently waiting for the arrival of our first child and I sometimes thought I was doing things to fast and missing out on alot but it has been the opposite for me. Being married is great and I wouldn't trade that for anything, my hubby means more to me than anything else.
But if you have any doubts about how you feel or what you want then you need to sort out what you want and what to do about it you have the rest of your life ahead of you.
Good luck!!!

Angel_Who_Crys

replied on March 12th, 2006

Experienced User

sarah1978 wrote:

wow - congratulations :-)
there is no rule that says you can't go back to school and do everything you ever wanted with a baby and a hubby, sure it may be hard but life is ment to be an adventurre! And you will probably try even harder so you don't end up like some of your friends. I got married at 19 and am now patiently waiting for the arrival of our first child and I sometimes thought I was doing things to fast and missing out on alot but it has been the opposite for me. Being married is great and I wouldn't trade that for anything, my hubby means more to me than anything else.
But if you have any doubts about how you feel or what you want then you need to sort out what you want and what to do about it you have the rest of your life ahead of you.

Good luck!!!

its not the hole geting marrid thing its more having a baby and being marred, I know its what I wont, I guess im more worryed about a few years from now, when im older.

tsweitzer

replied on March 12th, 2006

Experienced User

Hi..I think what you need to do is give yourself time...You and your boyfriend can be engaged for years before you ever have to set a date..What you are feeling is kind of what the sex ed teacher told you in high school about sex...If you don't feel ready then wait..Nothing says you have to be married when you have a baby, and besides bringing a baby into the world is a huge stress factor in even happily married couples..Wait and see how you both adjust to the new baby first before making any huge decisions. If he makes you happy..Great, but you are only 17 and have a lot to look forward too..And to even learn yet..So sort through what you want first before trying to please him and trying to make yourself a married woman=) good luck=)

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