You could've told them no, that you didn't want the abortion. A close friend of mine's mother forced her to have an abortion. When they called her name and brought her to the back, she told them that she really didn't want to and they legally couldn't do it. I don't know how it is in your state but that's how it is in new orleans. No matter how old you are, it's your body and risks come with abortions. Her mom was pissed and tried to fight it, but the clinic could do nothing. I'm soory that you had to go through that...

As far as who you should be with, you need to decide who is better for you. Not who you like the most right now, ya know? If you feel a stronger connection to the man you were preggy for, than be with him. Have you parents met either of them? If not, it would be wise to introduce them formally. Like mom, this is "so and so", "so and so" this is my mom. It'll seem strange, but it'll wind up working out for the best.

I really hope that next time you take more consideration for yourself and for your body. Being preggy is nice, but only if you're able to afford it and appreciate it.(not saying that you didn't) just think about how your family will take it and use better judgment!!

I wish you the best of luck with your decision and situation and hope you're happy with whatever you choose!!

Sarah

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You are asking some major life changing questions. I know a little about what you are going through, because while I had an abortion a little over a year ago and understand the social pressures and emotions that come with it, I was able to make that decision for myself. You're mother was completely out of her jurisdiction to force you to have an abortion. I am pro-choice 100%, and you weren't given that choice. I know your mother thought she was doing what's best for you, but one day she will be the one to carry that burden, not you. Thinking about the "what-if's" about the pregnancy are not healthy for you because it is done. What you can do, is learn from your mother's behavior and vow to be a more supportive mother when the right time finally comes for you be one. You are oh so young and have much to look forward to!

As for the boyfriend and exboyfriend: if you're this torn over it, my suggestion is that you probably need some time to be single and use that time to make some good friendships. You need support right now and boyfriends, god bless them, are not always the most understanding at the age of 16 (hence, the one breaking your heart while you were about to undergo an emotional overload and life-changing event). This struggle between which to choose will never end if you pick one over the other because you'll still be battling the same questions about which is better for you. If they love you, they'll understand. Counseling is another really great option for you. Supportive friends, personal time, and counseling. These struggles will only make you a stronger, more understanding person in the long run. I wish you the best of luck and all my support!