Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
Im 19 And Im In Love With a Guy Whose 20 Years My Senior!!! Posted: 03-10-06 17:08pm
Is there anything wrong with that? I
never really had a father figure, it's
always been my mom and siblings in my
life. I am the oldest of 4 children and
I am in love with a beautiful man whose is
20 years my senior. I don't know exactly
how to tell my mom because they are
practically the same age. I have always
been attracted to guys older than me, but
never this old. We have been dating for
8 months now and he has already proposed
to me. I love him with all of my heart,
he treats me like a queen, he always know
to right things to say and do when i'm
sad. He always has the best advice about
everything. I just don't know how to
tell my family. My mom is going to kill
me when she finds out.
Any advice from people who are dating
older or younger partners?
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Canada
Posted: 03-11-06 16:19pm
Well my parents have issues with me and my
older boyfriend but as long as you keep a
mature attitude about it all it should be
okay. You're 19 so you are an adult, it
is your choice, you shouldn't keep it
secret from them though if you're engaged.
You're in love, there's nothing wrong
with that, just explain that you are aware
of the age difference but if it doesn't
affect your relationship or make it seem
weird, then it shouldnt affect you and
your mothers relationship. Just make sure
you live your life, not just by how he
wants you to.
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Carifairy
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Joined: 12 Nov 2005 Posts: 2610 Location: Charlotte n.c.
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Posted: 03-11-06 16:26pm
I am 23.Will be 24 in july my finace whom
I am marrying in september is will be 42
in may..
His family loves me, and accepts me as
part of the family. When I met him i'll
admit, he looks 30.. Looks great, I had
no idea he would have been 40 when we
met.. But it does not bother me. You
have to do what's right for you in life,
and know that some people will just not
approve.
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engelrosa
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: uk
Posted: 03-11-06 19:06pm
My fiance is 47 and im 19 so don't worry
about it. I love him for who he is and
his age doesnt bother me, my parents like
him and my friends accept it so go for it.
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numba1eyceygurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
Thanx Eveybody Posted: 03-11-06 19:31pm
Thank u everybody who posted a reply. I
don't feel as alone anymore because u guys
are going through the same thing. I just
don't know how to tell my mom. I love him
with all of my heart and I want my family
to get to know him and love him as well
because he is a really great guy and he
always has my best interest at heart. I
just want things to be okay after the
truth comes out.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 03-11-06 20:39pm
Your mother will not kill you, she might
be a little surprised at 1st, a lot of
younger women go with older men nowadays
and visa versa, as long as you and he are
happy that is all that matters, if you
were 16, I might say something(jailbait)
.
The best to you and yours!
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numba1eyceygurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
Thank U Sandyallen Posted: 03-11-06 23:21pm
All of this feedback is giving me the
courage to tell her. Thanx u guys
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cdykstra
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5 Location: oregon
How Old Is Too Old Posted: 03-12-06 23:12pm
The age difference might not be an issue
now, but believe me it will become very
evident in a physical way before long.
Sexually, you are in tune right now, but
give him 10 years, you'll be wishing you
had someone your own age. Really think
about this.
Good luck.
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girly2006
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 66
Posted: 03-12-06 23:46pm
My cousin married a 55 year old about 10
years ago he was 30 then, he never had a
mother figure his mother beat him, you
probably feel like he did, needing a
father figure. But you will regret it a
few years, she cannot go out anymore, he
takes care of her, and they almost never
have sex. Like the person above me said,
just think about it before you fully
commit!
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numba1eyceygurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
This Is Really Helping Posted: 03-13-06 21:36pm
I thank everybody who has responded and u
guys are giving me a lot things to think
about. I do think a lot about the sex
issue. He is 39 now and in about 10-15
years he probably will not be as
interested in sex as I will be. I will
think a lot about this relationship and
how this can affect my life in the future.
Keep em coming u guys!!!
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cdykstra
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5 Location: oregon
Posted: 03-14-06 10:44am
Sweetie take it from someome who is
married to someone who is older, albiet
not as much older as your guy is to you,
it a big issue right now. A very good
friend of mine is married to an attorney,
he is 52, she is 32. When they got
married 7 years ago, everything was great,
especially their love life, in fact it was
spectacular, now he can't keep up with
her, so she is now sleeping with our spin
instructor. I'm not saying this is your
fate also, but it happens more often than
not. Really think about this decision.
I wish you much happiness regardless of
your decision.
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 03-14-06 21:43pm
Its simple...Do what makes you happy...I
have always learned that you cant go by
other peoples experiences...Because yours
might be totally different...If this guy
makes you happy then why not...You have
one life to live and I would go for
it...If you didnt then you might look back
and wonder "what if"...And thats something
you dont want...It might be the best thing
you have ever done in your life...Dont let
the chance pass you by..This guy might
blow you off your feet...Because you seem
very happy with him...
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cdykstra
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 5 Location: oregon
Posted: 03-14-06 22:31pm
Jillian is right. If it feels good, if it
feels right, go for it. In twenty-five
years send us a postcard of your fabulous
25th anniversary cruise to the south
pacific. My daughter is also 19, all I
wish for her is happiness. I wish the
same for you and your guy!
