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sweetpea5272
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Dec 2003
Posts: 3
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This Sucks!
Posted: 12-31-03 20:42pm
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Well I just recently started having sex
with this boy that i've liked for 2 years
and hes the first guy I have ever slept
with and i'm his third. Hes 2 years older
then me i'm 16 and my mother hates him and
i've snuck out twice to see him and stayed
with him overnight and now my mother says
I can't see him anymore but hes the first
guy I have ever really loved he says he
doesn't want a relationship with me but I
don't care because I love being with him
so I don't know what to do. He tells me
he loves me and he tried to apologize to
my mother but she wouldn't listen and he
hasn't called me or anything in about a
week so I don't know what to do!
....Also I was with him and his friends
that I have never met before and when we
got up to leave I kinda just fell and so
now he thinks I have like an eating
disorder or something and that I passed
out but I really don't so I don't know
what to do about that either......Since we
live about an hour away from eachother it
makes everything a million times more
difficult and I don't know if he just gave
up on me or if he is just using
me..... 
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Neva Whittaker
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Dec 2003
Posts: 169
Location: FLORIDA
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Posted: 01-01-04 18:39pm
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Please leave that fool alone all your
sacrafice is in vain your mother knows
what she is talking about and if he is
real man he would not have let you to
decieve your mom take it from me a man
does not want a woman who doesnt respect
her elders and I am not judging you but
you will learn to love another trust me
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honeycoco
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003
Posts: 375
Location: georgia
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Posted: 01-02-04 10:43am
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I agree totally with neva you feel like
right now you have to be with this person
because he was the first person you were
with but I say get out why you can and use
this as a learning experience.
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TX_momy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004
Posts: 120
Location: TX
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Listen to Your Mother
Posted: 01-05-04 21:26pm
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He is a fool ... And it will probally
take you a while to see that because you
think you are in "love". But I think
because he is 1 hour away should make this
easyer.... You know what? If you leave
hem alone and he will come back because he
said he loves you than you know for sure,
belive me ...  I was there
before....
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sexkittin
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2004
Posts: 3
Location: Frederick
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I Was There
Posted: 01-05-04 21:33pm
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Dont worrie I was there I had a boyfriend
and my mother hated him and told me not to
see him ever wile I was living in here
house and the only reason she did not like
him was because he was black. We snuck
around with him for six or seven months
and one day I told here that I love this
man and no matter what I will be with him
and 2 years later we are still togeather
and if that guy dont love you I promas
you'll find someone better that will love
you not use you. No girl needs that drama
in there life so hang in there.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4921
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 01-06-04 14:42pm
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Hey I thnk you should leave him. He is
not as special as he seems if hes not
talking to you at the moment and you are
his third, plus you are long distance. He
could easily be doing other things and
enjoying his life while you sit and wait
for him. Dont sit around and wait. You
might think you are in love with him but
just wait it out. Your time of love will
come. And mothers do know best if they
dont like him. I go by my moms likes in
men, because nothing should come first
between a parental relationship. I was
dating a guy my mom hated and I kept
saying I was in love and snuck to see him
too. And then when I did, it was dumb. I
was waiting for the night to end! My
feelings just disapeard. And im sure the
same will for you. There are plenty of
fish out there and youll know the right
one when he comes. The kind of guy that
sweeps you off your feet, and loves your
mom too! Youll fall out of it and later
on realize "why did I even bother with
him!" just stick with your mom because she
really has her reasons!
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 01-06-04 15:24pm
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Why should she leave him? Because her
mom doesn't approve? That shouldn't be
the case. If you feel you shouldn't be
with him, then leave him, but if he lights
up your day, then I say what the heck.
Me and my hubby weren't allowd to see each
other either. Even during my pregnancy,
I would get grounded. But we fought
through it. Just do me a favor. Ask
him if he really loves you, and if he does
y he's not willing to be in a
relationship. If it is cuz he is thrown
off by you mother...Tell him that if what
you have is true he'd be willing to put up
with it. And anyway he's putting up with
it to have sex with you, make sure that 's
not the only reason you are together.
Mike (my hubby) and I have been together
for 5 1/2 yrs...If it's meant to be it
will work out.
Jennifer 
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katedog84
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2003
Posts: 8
Location: iowa
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Sometimes the Truth Hurts
Posted: 01-24-04 22:39pm
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Well what im gonna say your not gonna
wanna hear, but your mom is right. I know
thats hard to believe being 19 nd all I
can understand where your coming from. As
much as you love this guy, your mom loves
you more. Hard to believe huh? Well its
true. Guys come and go threw out your
life. One of the main resons your
attracted to him is because he was your
first, and you will never forget him. But
that doesnt mean hes gonna be there
forever. Some guys use girls thats just
the way it is in life and it sucks.
Eventually in time you will get over him
but for now take the time and make things
up wiht your mom. Odds are if you talk
toher about this truthfully she will
somewhat understand. Your mom will always
be there remeber that.
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Re: This Sucks!
Posted: 01-29-04 10:50am
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[quote="sweetpea5272"]well I just recently
started having sex with this boy that i've
liked for 2 years
you haven't replied~~how has it been?
Have you talked to your mom?
Does she not like him becuse of the
distrust? Or is there more reason's?
Yes sometimes parents have intuition's
and sometimes they don't want their kids
growing up and for a parent
that starts the letting go phase when heir
chld starts dateing and most of the time
as parents it's too hard on them.
Let us know how you are.
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sweetpea5272
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Dec 2003
Posts: 3
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Posted: 02-03-04 17:10pm
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Hey....Well I told him how I felt a few
days ago and how I wanted to be with him
and how much I feel about him and he
doesn't even seem to care so I havn't been
talking to him lately and I miss him so
much and i'm trying so hard to get over
him but like all I do is think about him
and it feels like i'm never going to be
able to....
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003
Posts: 3717
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Posted: 02-18-04 01:57am
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He was your first love honey it will be
super hard to get over, but at least you
know the truth. It seemed shady anyway
that he told you he did not want a
relationship with you, but at the same
time told you he loved you? Come on, he
is playing you. I hate to say that, but
you deserve better. As for the mother
thing, follow your heart. The truth is
if your mother is a good mother (which I
am sure she is) then she may be right.
But parents usually only see one side of
things. She may not like him for
completely valid reasons, but you are both
still young. People do change especially
when they are young. You two are just
living and learning and she is just trying
to protect you. Now, I would not sneak
around because it is disrespectful to your
mother and it will only get you in more
trouble and he is not worth that. I hope
you are doing well!
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ciao77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Feb 2004
Posts: 77
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Posted: 02-18-04 03:09am
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Love is blind, it's as simple as that.
When you fall in love with someone, it's
seems unimaginable that they may be less
than perfet. Even if it's tatooed on his
head that he's an immature jerk, sometimes
it's hard to read the signs. Cupid's
arrow has left a huge side effect...The
inability to reason. And believe me, it's
only natural. If you had a friend in the
same situation as you, you'd tell her that
there are plenty of fish in the sea. You
should realize that falling for the first
catch is a bad idea most of the time.
Most guys aren't prince charming, it's a
rather unrealistic ideal that a lot of
girls believe in. Sure, everyone has
flaws....But when those flaws are out to
hurt you, you have to back off. This guy
is not worth it. You've got to move on
and one day you'll meet someone who can
really treat you right and who you can
take home to your mother someday. He
won't be a saint, but he won't be a jerk
either. 
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