I'm 36 and have been dating a 50 yr old separated (3 yrs) man for 6 mos. Things moved very quickly when we met. Ue. He told me his situation on the 2nd date. He started telling me he was falling in love and loved me within the first 2 months. He had dated a 28 yr old 2 years before me (while he was still living with the wife) then dated a 50 yr old for about a year. Then didn't date for 1 year before he met me. He said all parties knew it wouldn't be a permanent thing and he was just having fun. He says his feelings for me are much deeper. I asked him about a month ago when he talks about having a new life partner if he ever thinks of me. He said "of course! It's only natural to think of the person you're with! But I can't make any promises right now." I got very quiet. "i'm not saying i'm going to go out and screw every woman I see after i'm divorced (this has been something i've mentioned as a concern) but i'm going to be very picky and ask a lot of questions like i've been doing with you. I don't want to make another mistake." I was rather shocked to hear this and a few weeks later said I wasn't comfortable getting more involved with him if he was just going to possibly dump me or want to start dating after his divorce gets finalized.


He said he didn't mean anything negative by it and is interested in seeing where our realtionship leads. I told him I need time to sort my feelings out and left for a business trip overseas for a week. He called and left a voicemail everyday on my cell phone even though he knew I wouldn't be accessing it. He also said he had printed out and framed pictures of me and put them next to his 16 year old son's and had talked to all his friends about me and told them all he loves me.

When I got back I didn't take his calls right away. He finally left a message asking if I didn't want to talk to him to just please let him know. I called him and he could tell I was upset and said "do I need to stop printing out pics of you and looking at flights to new mexico?" (we had talked about taking a vacation in a couple weeks). I told him it was still bothering me what he had said.


He told me I mean a lot to him and i'm the only person he's intersted in dating right now. I asked what I do exactly mean to him. He said I am a confidant and I give him something to look forward to every week. When we first started dating I was concerned that he wasn't getting divorced and only talking about it. But after an unpleasant encounter with the wife the 2nd month (she tried to bust in on us at his apartment and got arrested) and supposedly because of me... He finally has gotten the divorce going.