Hi hazel82
you know I have a similar problem... My husband gets really frustrated with me sometimes. I have only started to suffer from anxiety this past 6 months or so and I have been with him for years (since high school). He says its just in my head. I wish I could make him understand that while it is probably 'just in my head' it doesn' t mean that I can just make it go away. I think they get angry because they don't understand what we are going through. It seems so irrational to people who don't have it. I think it is hard for them and stresses them out just like it does us. I can imagine it is very hard to see someone suffer from anxiety whom you are very close to. I finally realized that he is just frustrated and doesn't know what to do to help. I told him that all I want him to do when I start feeling anxious is just to try and help calm me down... And it really works for us now. He just lays down with me and cuddles me,etc. Until I feel better. Cuz for awhile I would get anxious, he would would react in anger and it would make everything way worse. I would really try to communicate with him about it. Explain that you just need his support. Do you have anxiety over something specific? Like for me, I am anxious about my health. Everytime something wierd would happen with my body, it would make me worry about something serious and usually send me into an attack. Hope this helps... Let me know what you think. Talk to you later..

~mk

I was starting to think that maybe he gets angry with me because ha doesnt understand!! I have tried to explain to him what its like for me and that him getting angry with me makes it 10 times worse...Its like he doesnt want to aknowlage that there is something wrong with me! I have had anxiety since I was about 6! And now almost 24! It took me a long time to work out what it was! I have been through alot with it! I had a hard time at school! I have developed agraphobia too! Its so frustrating for me! I just wish I could wake up normal! Its not always a specific thing that triggers them off so its difficult to know when they will occur!

It can be all sorts of things! It started off as shyness then progressed...Now I just exist instead of live! :cry:

Hey hazel:

what is your agoraphobia like? Are you afraid to go out and do stuff? O have a different kind of agoraphobia that I wonder if anyone else experiences, maybe you do. Ever since I have had anxiety I am afraid to be by myself. My husband is my #1 safe person.... As long as he is around, I feel entirely less anxious than if he wasn't. I don't mind as long as other people are around as well, like my family or my friends. I think that I am afraid that something is going to happen to me (with my health most likely) and that I will be completely alone when it happens and no one will be there to help me. It sounds ridiculous at my age, but I am still afraid. The crazy thing is that I used to be the most independent of people. I loved when I had the house to myself....Now a complete 180. What the heck happened to me? I am doing way better now though. It feels liket there has been 10,000 pounds lifted off of my chest. I actually printed something off of the internet that explained in detail what anxiety is, etc. For my husband to read. It actually helped a lot for him to understand that it really is a real thing that people stuggle with and not something that I was just making up. He has been more compassionate ever since. Talk to you later. Have a good one. :)

I feel like I am affraid to go out and do stuff some days! But not always! Im not sure why though, I think maybe its to do with having an anxiety attack in public? I was thinking of printing some stuff off too! Sounds like a good idea!