Ok the first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and chill out - my parents are deeply religious, no sex before marriage kind of religious and they were great when I told them about being pregnant with my son.

Have you told the baby's father? You probably know this - but it is illegal for a guy to have sex when the girl is under 16 years of age.

Is there anyone you trust about anyone else you know? An aunt, sister... Etc? Who could help you work out the best way to tell your parents. Whetever you decide to do you need to tell your parents (depending on your location you may need their consent for an abortion if that's the route you want to go down.) also even if you don't then you will definitely need thier support. I wouldn't reccoment telling .A.N.Y of your mates no matter how much you trust them as nearly always word will get out and if your not ready to deal with it then it can be more stress. Also parents have a natural knack of picking up word off the street, lol.

Yes 14 is very young to be having a kid, I am 16 and I have a son. If you want to talk them pm me. Also another good person to talk to would be asbobash - she is 13 and pregnant and quite frankly inspiring. Not meaning to sound harsh but you did get yourself into this situ and now you have to get out of it. Ultimately there are two lives which will be affected.

Good luck I hope it all goes well - carrie.

Wow you're in a tough situation... And if I wer you i'd get an abortion... You're only 14 and whether youd like to admit it, legally the father 'raped' you. Now if you feel you're ready to have this baby, then I say have it, also therees adoption... Oh and since u live in the staes, im pretty sure most of ur country doesnt need parental consent for abortion...

what was your brothers friend thinking. Make sure you dont get romantically attached to that boy because your underaged and theres obviously some screws missing

You need adult help sweetie.
Tell your mom, yes she will be mad to start with but tell her you need her help and you don't know what to do.
Mom's are great at coming around and dealing with almost any situation.
If you ignore this it will not go away, you can not pretend nothing is happening. You need proper medical care for your sake and the child.
Please go speak to your mom.

I agree with everything that's been said. Tell you mom or dad or whoever takes care of you .R.I.G.H.T .N.O.W!!! Really, the sooner you tell them, the more time you have to figure out exactly what needs to be done. I definetly recommend that you don't do what I did. I waited for so long to tell my parents that I ended up being 6 months pregnant before I finally told them. By then, it was really too late to do much of anything about it. So no matter how you think they'll react, you must tell them now. If you think they will react with violence, bring someone with you who can help you escape. Either way... Do it now. You'll be much better off in the end.

Pm me if you need to, okay? I have a new baby now, so i'm not online much, but i'll try to check once or twice a day to see if you need me.

~.Ella

Thanks for listening to me. I haven't told anybody but my best friend...And she won't tell anybody. I haven't told brian....I feel like such a dork! I know I have to do something but i'm sooo afraid....My parents are going to be so mad. I don't know what I want to do....I don't think I could have an abortion. There is a planned parenthood clinic....Should I go there?

Katie r.

You should go there for support and care if you arent considering abortion but eventually your gunna have to tell your parents

Oh, sweetie, I know you think things are horrid right now, but that's because you're probably feeling alone. Like everyone else said, you need to tell your parents. Yeah, they're probably going to be angry and you're probably going to get lectured, but they'll calm down and probably end up being the best support you could ever have.

Are you close to your brother at all? Maybe you could talk to him and see if he'll come home to be with you while you tell your parents. I agree also that brian needs to know, but I don't think he's as important as your family right now. You don't know how he's going to react or if he'll be immature or whatever, and you need to have your family in your corner before dealing with him.

Good luck and let us know how things go. I'll be thinking about you!

The planned parenthood clinic will help you a lot yes, but the first thing they are gonna say is who have you told and they will do exactly what we are doing and get you to tell your parents... You .W.I.L.L need their support in whatever you decide. Someone mentioned violence - have they ever been violent towards you?

Chill out 1st then sit down wit ur parents and tell them but dont get an abortion its not the babys fault and the baby didnt hurt nebody

I'd just like to say that no-body here has the right to tell you to get an abortion or not.

An abortion is an extremely difficult time for a girl no matter how old they are or how much support they have.

It is an extremely personal choice and should be a choice you choose for yourself not because someone tells you to.

You do need to to tell your parents, everyones parents react differently to each sitiuation, if they do get mad they wont stay mad long but if you dont tell them then both you and the baby are suffering. I have two children and honestly I would rather my daughter approached me if she got pregnant and I would help her but I would probally be mad because she is throwing her life to responisiblity when she should stil be having fun!

As for stat rape I dont agree with it you both agreed(consented) to having sex if you guys were here it would have been legal as long as your older than 14.

Wow your brothers friend is going to get into some trouble
i dont think there are any states in america where the legal age of consent is under 16 so even if you tell everyone you agreed I think he can still get in trouble
i'm 13 and pregnant with a baby girl but my babys dad is 15 and i'll be 14 in april which is before the baby will be born
i think you need to call somewhere like planned parenthood and ask advice on what to do in that situation and talk to some people who know the facts in your state about that stuff

Wait, you didn't take a pregnancy test to confirm that you are, right? Definitely go out and buy one to make sure you really are.

She's already posted a bunch more times and been to the doc...Shes 100% pregnant