Is the Sperm Suppost to Fall Out?

Even though it feels like alot comes out there is plenty left in, they swim very fast. Have you tired keeping you hips elevated on pillows after sex?

Yea, we've tried that. But it seems like everytime I get up (even if I lay there for a hour...Lol) it falls out. Maybe I do really have a problem with me. I know the sperm swims fast but I always try to make myself believe its something little like that. So how long would you say to lay before trying to get up. Oh and also I just looked at a website that was suppost to help me figure out when im ovulating and its on my birthday (march 11th) so how long before and how much should we try? I know alot of questions but you guys help out so much. Thanks alot for the advice. Baby dust to everyone...... Love bree!

Well you can lay there as long as you want but when you get up it's going to come back out no matter what. What goes in must come out. It's not like your body absorbs the semen. I used to lay there for about 20 minutes to a half hour. And based on your dates i'd say start having sex on the 9th and do it through the 12th. Some people say to do it every other day because doing it every day reduces the sperm count but I did it every day and i'm now pregnant. So it's up to you how often you want to go at it. Good luck!

Can u share ur success story with us?

Bree, I experience the same thing. It seems like every time my husband and I ttc his sperm flows right back out.... Even if I lay there all night, when I get up in the morning to pee, its in the toilet! My mom said that its not actually the sperm itself that is flowing out... She said that what's coming out of me is "semen" which is what carries the sperm through ejaculation, and that you can't actually "see" the sperm (they are microscopic, about 1/200 of an inch... She said that when the semen is ejaculated, after a time frame of about 10-15 minutes, the sperm and the semen have separated and the sperm are already on their way to the falopian tubes! Go figure!

Megums1211, you mom has it down. The sperm and the semen do seperate, somewhat. Seman is so thick and slimy to help it stay in there a little better and to give the guys something to swim through. Almost like a lubracant. However, not everyone that "came" for the party makes it through the bouncer at the door. Some of the sperms don't make it through the cervix or starts swimming in the wrong direction. (down and out). That is why there are so many of the little buggers. Of the ones that make it past the cervix, some get lost in the uterous and don't find the tubes before they expire. So, the strongest little guys are the ones that make it to the finish line. There is absolutely no way to keep it from coming out of you after sex. Not moving for 20 minutes or so helps point them in the right direction. However, after they make it past the cervix, they are on their way and laying down doesn't help anymore. I have found that placing a towel under you after sex to catch what may slip out helps keep the bed/couch/table or what ever you were laying on at the time a little cleaner and allows you to use it to make it to the bathroom so you don't end up with a lot on the carpet on the way. My doctor told me that sex everyday may lower the sperm count a little, but not enough to matter. It actually helps to have an active sex life. The more often you have sex, the more often your man produces more sperm and the little guys are more healty. It only takes one really strong one to make it all the way. Also, alcohol can mutate the sperm and bend their little tails. So, men are not supposed to have more than one or two beers a day at the most if they are trying to conceive. Alcohol doesn't make it impossible to get pregnant, as many drunk college kids will tell you, but it doesn't help the odds. Sorry about the novel I just wrote here.

Hi I actually just posted the same story on myself. I know how you feel I dont want any kids right at the moment so it is not a problem but what I i try to later will I be able to. My bf cum never stays inside of me no matter how long I lay there so that is not the answer, I think that some of it makes it in but the rest falls out(pours out in my case) well I wanted to let you know you are not alone on this one and if you find a way to keep it in help me please.

You don't need to "keep it in". The semen is like the protective coating for the sperm. When the semen is released inside your body the sperm seperates and starts swimming towards the goal. The semen will leak out no matter how long you lay there and whatever position you lay in. There's nowhere for it to go inside you so eventually it has to come out. Prop your hips up or lay on a pillow if you want to keep it inside you longer.

And to toocrunkfaya05 - if you don't want kids now i'm hoping you're relying on a form of birth control. Just because things leak out does not mean you're not going to get pregnant. It just takes time.

I figured it was suppost to fall out eventually but the fact that im not preggy yet I blame everything. My mom went to wal-mart today and bought me prenatal vitamins because someone told her it wouldn't hurt for me to already have all those vitamins in me. It's sad when family wants you to have a baby just as much as you do. Well thanks again you guys....

Good luck bree! Prenatal vitmains are a good thing they say to take 3 months before ttc.