Hi ,i'm new here and I was wondering if you can help me with a question I have .I need a 'grownup's point of view.I'm 16 and just found out that i'm pregnant i'm afraid to tell my mom because I just really feel like she would not understand me at all.On top of that i'm not sure whether it's a good thing to keep the baby or have an abortion. I really feel like keeping it but i'm not sure can you please help me.
i was 16 when I had my first baby, and when my mum found out she was kind of shocked, maybe even a bit upset about the whole thing, but eventually she was actually quite excited about it. It's hard to tell how your parents are going to react with something like this, but it is always much easier if you can get their support. I'll be blantantly honest with you, it is incredibly hard raising a child at 16. Probably the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but it is very rewarding aswell.
Abortion is your choice, but there are soooooooooo many families out there who would love to have a baby, and just physically can't. I have lost 3 of my own due to various medical reasons, but we still want to keep trying. A baby is a blessing, and if you aren't ready for this baby, you should look in to adoption agencies. You can choose a family who can provide the kind of love and financial support for your baby that you would've wanted for him or her. There are also open adoptions so that if you want your baby to be able to eventually contact you when they're older, your information is available to them.
As far as your mom goes, she will probably be upset. You are young, and obviously not totally ready for a baby if you are having doubts. However, this baby is also her grandchild. She will probably be upset at first, but as time progresses and you start to grow and feel your baby kick, she will undoubtedly become excited. Once you tell her, then go from there. What's the worst she can do? Yell at you? Talk to her. Tell her your plans, share your fears...Moms can be incredibly comforting in times like these! Then once that's past, you can move on and start planning your life for you and your little baby.
also, no matter what you decide to do, please, in the future, use protection. At least a condom! Not even just a condom, use the pill as well, if you don't want any more babies just yet.
goodluck and please, keep me updated. I will be here for you if you ever need to talk, just message me!
Hey enana! I am eighteen and just found out I am pregnant a few weeks ago. I'm still in school and everything so my parents were pretty upset when I told them. They know that I will be a good mother so it eases their worrying a little. I know that, for me, it was the absolute hardest thing i've ever had to do, but once I told them it took a big load off my back. It is gonna be hard, i'm not gonna lie to you, but after the shock passes your parents should be just as accepting as mine. I thought that my parents would be the worst to tell something like this to but it wasn't that bad. My dad, believe it or not, is taking it the best out of anybody. I think that you should definetely think twice before having an abortion because once you do it its done and you cant take it back. I know a lot of people who have had abortions and regret it for the rest of their lives. I think that you being mature enough to seek help makes you a very resposible person. I hope evrything goes ok with the folks and that you take my advice into consideration! I will keep you in my prayers!
Good luck and god bless!
First of all you must tell your mom. I dont know how strong your relationship is with your mother but if you respect your mother's feelings you would tell her. When I first found out I was pregnant I was scared to tell my mother and I was 19 years old so I can understand if you are afraid. Just know that that's what mothers are there for. If you cant trust her who can you trust. Just be prepared because this will really shock her. Ask her opinon about the abortion because she has to be there because you are a minor. Just trust you good judgement and do the right thing okay. If you need to talk just reply to the message. latoya
Well this is a really hard decision, I might not be a grown up I am only about to be 20 yrs old, but abortion is such a horrible word, think about the future, my sil had an abortion 5 yrs ago and till this day she regrets ever doing it, like someone said earlier,there are so many couples that are trying to have kids but cant and if you really dont want to keep the baby that could be another choice. I got preggers when I was 16 too, and I was very happy, but also scared, now all I can say is that having this baby has been the most precious gift or blessing god could have ever given me and I would die if anything were to ever happen to her! My mom did get a little upset and not to say my dad almost had a heart attack but that just lasted a few days or maybe a couple of weeks but they couldnt do anything about it anymore what done is done and thats it, so now let me tell you they love her more than they love me! they get mad and upset at me when I dont come over to visit them just cause they miss the baby so much! I think that you should tell your parents and see what happens, catch them when they are in a good mood and hopefully they dont take it that bad, sooner or later they will eventually get over it and you'll see they will fall in love with the baby as soon as they see him or her for the first time!!
~*~*~*best of luck to you and hope you make the best decision for yourself and for the little angel inside of you*~*~*~*
My step mom got preggers when she was 15, had my step sister at 16 and her parents (who were extremelly strict) were so upset with her. In the end they supported her and helped out so much. If your parents aren't willing to help you out and they don't change their minds you should definately consider adoption. Also, don't let anyone bully you into anything.
I was 21 when I had my daughter and I was also scared to tell my parents, at first my dad didnt want to know, he didnt dissown me or anything, he just didnt want to hear the word baby or hear about pregnancy, but then when I was about 6 months he came round to idea bought me things ready for baby even offered to take me to hospital when I went into labour, as scary as it feels for u, your parents will come around to what ever decision you make, and remember there reaction may be down to the fact they are realising there little girl has grown up, they will be fine parents support you through everything, un written rules of parenting
Hi my heart goes out to you and I wish I culd hug you and tell you the day that that baby is born will be unbelievable you will wonder what you did
before!1! And I hope your mom will love you and open her heart.
As for abortion the rest that replied answered it best "no" so many would love the baby therer's a reason for you being pregnant don't give it up!!
I will be thinking of you!! God bless
Tell your mom yes she is proably going to be upset but not forever I was 15 when I found out I was pregant my mom was there when the doc came in and said I was pregant we both cried my biggest fear was how to tell my father he did not say award to me for weeks but now my son is his life and to even think abortion is silly a few weeks after finding out I was pregant I was in a car accident I broke my back and the doctors was not even sure if my baby was going to make it through the night will he did so then they were not sure if he would make trough the pregancy and if he did something maybe wrong with him the day did come for me to give birth and I was so scared and he came into this world alive and healthy and to this day I say he is my miracle in more than one way he was the one who taught me about life he kept me fighting for his and my life and I will thank him for that every day and we did this alone (no father) together and know my fiance who is in school to be a phycian will be adopting him when we are married this year so yeah thing are going to be scary hard and mom and dads are going to be upset but things will work out just stay in school so you can take care of you and your baby but it is a life one god has given you a piece of heaven so love it enjoy it cherish it fight for it its a life
Hey enana, i'm going through the same thing and I am only 14 about to be 15. Thank you so much for asking this question because I was even afraid to talk about it in here. So you really helped me a lot too. I'd love for us to talk so pm me if you want to. Again, thank you so much. And good luck with your desicion.
I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first son, and believe me!, I know hat you're going through. My parents were very strict, and immediately told me to have an abortion when I told them. They made the appoinment for me and everything. When I went to the clinic, I was given a lot of time to think about it because it was practically an all morning process. I saw girls crying about it, but then some were laughing and talking about the party they were going to later on that night, and it all just made me sick! I didn't want to have an abortion, but was doing it to please my family.
Long story short - I left that clinic. When I got home, I sat down with my family, told them how much I loved them, and very politely yet firmly told them that there was going to be a new edition. I kept my baby. Once my family saw how committed I was to keeping my child, they quickly warmed to the idea, and even threw me the most wonderful baby shower imagineable! :p
i'm not saying that things will or won't be the same for you, but I am saying that whatever decision you make has to be your own and no one else's because ultimately you'll be the one who has to live with it. Talk to your mother, and be truthful about the way you feel. Adoption is always an option, but abortion is permanent and irreversible. I think you'll be surprised because parents really are a lot more understanding than we think they are. Good luck in whatever you choose to do!
Here's what you have to consider: it's easy for you to see abortion as an easy fix right now because you've never had a baby to understand the love it generates inside of you. But it is not an easy solution. It is not a solution at all. It will bring you far more pain than you realize. Yes, it's scary to tell your mom, at first she might freak out. But I think it would hurt her to think her little girl couldn't tell her this.
Just talk to her. I'm a mom and I know how much we love our babies. :d