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Q: 19 Years Old And Having Sexual Problems
asked by: boogiedancer on March 3rd, 2006
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Hi!
First of all i'm taking drugs for my acne(roaccutan and some facial gel), which I don't think interfere at all with my problem.
I recently tried having sex for the first time with my 16 year old (not virgin) gf, and when it came down to penetration, I lost completely my erection! When we are making out (kissing and touching) on public places, I get really hard for a long time, and that is why I don't understand my problem...Even when we were in bed making out and touching her everywhere I was excited, but then lost it when it came down to the real deal.
She didn't do me oral sex(as I didn't do to her also), she didn't let me touch/see her vagina and she didn't take her bra also(although she let me touch her boobs). I'm planning to talk with my grandmother who is a psychiatric doctor and knows a lot about medicine and I trust her a lot and have no problems with this...Should I take viagra for the first times until I get really comfortable? Thanks
oh and I can't say I have a stressful life, I smoke some joints and drink rarely. My gf was very sweet with me and said that sex isn't important to her and she likes me a lot even if I can't have sex with her, and she told me she would wait for as long as I need.
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w0rldd0minat0r
replied on March 3rd, 2006
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Your lucky! No idea what it could maybe viagra is a good idea

too young to give really gd advice tell me how it all works out

gl
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LookAhead
replied on March 4th, 2006
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Hey boogiedancer, i'm 19 too. I got the same excitement issue with my girlfriend. Every time we have tried sex I lose it right as I reach to put on a condom. So at this point i'm soft and got a condom on...Awesome! And then once I get it back again and we start, my premature ejaculation kicks in right on cue. I dont get it at all...
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fiona05
replied on March 5th, 2006
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Well first of all, i'd like to stress that I am totally sensitive and understanding to anyone with erection difficulties. But I don't think this is the issue here.

This girl won't let you take off her bra. She won't let you see her genetals, nevermind touch them. What makes you think she's the slightest bit prepared to sleep with you? She obviously has intimacy/confidence issues going on. Don't you think you ought to sort these issues out with her before you try to sh*g her senseless?
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caes
replied on March 5th, 2006
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Viagra isnt really an option here because viagra wont give u an erection if your anxious.. Its used to correct physical problem not psychological.
To get your manhood working u need nervous stimulation from the brain then it needs to fill up with blood etc. Anxiety switches off that nervous stimulation of the penis... Viagra targets the filling up wth blood part..

You need to talk to your partner about it.. Let her know its anxiety and that you will get over it but let her know u have to have some time to figure it out. And it only really takes time...
You have to get really comfortable with her... If shes all closed off (not taking off bra, or letting u see her etc) thats not great.. U want a girlfriend who you really trust and who trusts you. Thats the best scenario for getting over this problem.
I went through this problem and I got through it by being so comfortable and open with my partner. We wud go to bed to have fun not expecting sex.. Just fooling around.. Me giving her oral sex, massaging etc.. Eventually itll happen and u will wonder what all the fuss was about.
Good luck
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