It sounds like you having a really tough time. I would suggest sitting down and talking to your wife about this. Because basically unless she changes her attitude you will never get better. Sex is not about being bad or good, seeing to her then seeing to him - its meant to be a joint expression of love. How can it be that when your wife undermines your confidence.

Perhaps going to see a relationship/sexual therapist would help matters. I really tink you need to speak to your wife. Do you actually talk about pe? I understand she must be frustrated also but its nobody's fault. And she has a big a part to play in your recovery as you do.

Some of the practical methods I would recommend are stop start method which is pretty self explanatory. Also try kegel excercises. Having suffered with pe myself the major thing I noticed was I was not able to tell when the point of no return was, it felt ineveitable that I would cum. You need to work out where that point is again. Try masturbating to the point, and then stopping. Each time you stop your body will relaise its limits. Ask your wife to stimulate you to the point, then stop, then start again when the feeling has subsided.

Hope this helps


patch

Hey man dont feel bad I suffered from it when I was depressed.
Patch has great advice I do recomend kegels and masturbation
pretty soon she will be saying enough already!
I cant come anymore!
Have her work trough this with you try to make it romantic not a job
try mutual masturbation (you will also find out what she really like this way too)
remember you make love with your whole bodies and minds try to take it to that level.
Take your time and talk to her and try not to be depressed or feel like less than a man your confidence will come back and so will your drive .
The ole clam hammer will be back in buisness.
Remember allot of this is about confidence it all starts in your brain.
I hope I helped and good luck
brako

Thanks alot for replaying to my post.

I will try to talk to this weekend and see if she's willing to help me go throu this. I been masturbating and trying what you guys mention the start and stop. I notice it's helping a little bit, I read that in the book I bough online. They have some good exercises, like I mentioned before, I was following the book and it was working, but my self steme went down again. When I saw the progress I made I noticed that everything was mentally, but now I want to see that progress and it's kind of hard if I don't get the support I need from my wife.


Another thing is that I been asking her if I can buy viagra or something similar that can help me stay erect for a longer period. But she doesn't want that at all. Sometimes I buy them without telling her and everything works fine, just that I don't like the way I feel the next day. Those pills I was drinking have a side effect, I kind of feel like heart burn and nausias.


Sometimes I wish she can be more open to sex, what I mean by that is that she doesn't like to go for the second one, and I know that if we go for the second one I can function better. She just gets mad and thats it, then I start thinking bad things which I noticed it makes me worse. I was planning to break up with her and try a new relationship but I have 7 years with her and a 5 years old daughter. I don't think that's the right decicion to make right? What i'm really affraid is to go to someone else and have the same problems.

Is anyone else going thru the same problems as me. I feel so good after finding this forum, I don't like telling people my problem but this forum is helping take my anger and my worryness out.


Brako when you said you can come anymore what exactly you mean? What did you do that help you fix the problem?

Did you took any pills while curring your self?


I think if she agree for me to take at least something to help me last longer, I might get used to the feelign of lasting longer and I will cure my self. Does that makes any sense?


I promise that if I cure my self with the help of you guys, I will write the process and try to help other people that are going thru this horrible situation. I will post the book I bought online for $65, it might help any of you with the same problem.

i am 23 and i am indian. i can understand ur problem. the thing is that u need is a treatment not pills because this is ur body and u want something natural that works for u for all of ur life not those pills. ther are many indian Homeopathic Practitioners in usa. i had this problem to and i had this treatment too and it am much better now trust me.
in usa there are many peole who suffer from this problem. about every 3\10 male is affected from this. and thera are not many things that medicine has done to overcome from this problem. so in indian cultures this hemopathic stuff was introduced many centuries ago. this is the link open it and u will see and u can recover from it.
good luck mate.

You should really ask your wife to be more patient with you, sounds like it's tough to have an open conversation with her. In such cases communication, openess and trust really help a lot.

My PE had been shockingly bad for years and I didn't know what to do because it was getting worse and worse.

It came to the point where premature ejaculation happened almost all the time which made me feel even more embarrassed and fed up. At one point i even stopped having sex because it put me off so much.

I've been searching for a cure for my ejaculation problems for quite a few years now and I've finally found a remedy that completely cured me in just a few weeks.

Hi I'm 28 & iv suffered from really bad premature ejaculation for many years, in the past i could get hard soon after & start up again but now it doesn't wont to get hard again this is very depressing, iv tried all the things on the net to slow things down but they don't seem to work for me. could you tell me what completely cured yourself?

I was so put off sex that i stayed single for 2 1/2 years because of this problem!!

Iv now found a very nice girl & we've been together nearly a year but & its a big but.... iv still got the problem & she doesn't like it 1 bit she says there's only 1 person to blame & she doesn't mean herself, so i decided to go & see my GP the other day told him everything, he's put me on Paroxetine which is a "PE" drug proven to slow down ejaculation, i just hope it works for me!! if not I'm going to see a specialist! i will let you all no the results.

The only thing is my g,friend doesn't no its getting me down & she doesn't no iv been to see my GP about this! should i tell her I'm loosing interest in sex because of my medical condition & tell her iv been to the docs for help or will she think I'm a looser for going to see my doc for help about my problem??