I Feel Angry And Irritable All the Time. Posted: 02-28-06 22:44pm
I am constantly angry and irritable all
the time. I was taking wellbutrin and I
can't say that I saw any difference in my
feelings. These feelings are taking over
my life and effecting all of my
relationships. I want to feel happy and
actually smile sometime in my life,
instead of losing my temper over the
smallest things. Exercising only
temporarily helped my situation. Does
anyone have any suggestions? I feel like
such a b*tch all the time. I hate
feeling this way, I can't take it anymore.
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inhere
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Portugal
Posted: 03-01-06 17:18pm
Hi davi! :d
have you tried going to a psychologist or
assertiveness / emotional intelligence
workshops?
Do you associate your angry state with any
recent situation? Something that can make
you understand why you're feeling that
way?
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-02-06 20:23pm
Maybe u should try cognitive behavioural
therapy or cbt because it helps feelings
like this:
what do you enjoy doing more then anything
in the world?>
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davi3165
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Missouri
Posted: 03-03-06 16:06pm
I tried going to a psychologist when I was
younger but I remember she always made me
more upset. I think that's why I haven't
tried one recently. I also don't have
health insurance so that doesn't help the
situation. I can't say that I associate
my anger with any certain situation. It
seems that everything makes me mad.
Little things that I should let go. I
find myself picking on my boyfriend. He
says that I have been so sensitive lately.
But there actually was one situation
with him that has been really bothering me
now that I think of it. He had been
watching porn on the computer like 2 times
a day. He would clear the history so I
couldn't see it. I would ask him if he
was watching it and he would lie straight
to my face and say that he wasn't. I
knew that he was watching it. He had
forgot to delete the cookies, so the proof
was right there. It's so sad that he
knew, that I knew, that he was lying.
But he still wouldn't fess up. It
doesn't bother me that he watches porn...
What man doesn't? But the whole thing
that has made me feel so bad is the fact
that he just kept lying to me about it.
I do congratulate him though. He hasn't
watched the porn for 3 days. Which I
think is a good thing considering the fact
he used to watch it twice daily. I think
this situation has seriously affected my
self esteem and my trust. I really think
a psychologist would help me but I just
don't have the money for it right now.
My low-self esteem and depression are
taking over my life. I can't even begin
to think of an activity that I enjoy doing
more than anything in the world. I can't
even think of an activity that I am
actually good at.
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inhere
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Portugal
Posted: 03-03-06 16:24pm
davi3165
wrote:
I can't say that I
associate my anger with any certain
situation. It seems that everything
makes me mad. Little things that I
should let go. I find myself picking on
my boyfriend.
But the whole thing that has made me feel
so bad is the fact that he just kept lying
to me about it. I do congratulate him
though. He hasn't watched the porn for 3
days. Which I think is a good thing
considering the fact he used to watch it
twice daily. I think this situation has
seriously affected my self esteem and my
trust. I really think a psychologist
would help me but I just don't have the
money for it right now. My low-self
esteem and depression are taking over my
life. I can't even begin to think of an
activity that I enjoy doing more than
anything in the world. I can't even
think of an activity that I am actually
good at.
hello again **
sorry for the questionnaire-type reply
that i've been giving you... But are you
aware of the specific time when you
started feeling angry and irritated for
the first time ever?
Or have you always been like that?
There's one thing I read about and
actually started doing when I was arguying
with my mom (she absolutelly drives me
away out myself!), I don't know if you
heard about it, its simply to turn your
back to the other person and start
counting, if that doesn't help, leave the
place and come back later ... When I
started doing this I had to count till 20
until I could actually become more calm,
but it really helped...
Another thing was starting to write a
journal, where I shared my anger and pain
with the paper... It really calmed me
down... Do you like to write? It has an
additional benefit... Some years from now
you'll get to know exactly what happened
during these times, you won't forget
important things from your life...
What do you think?**
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davi3165
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Missouri
Posted: 03-03-06 16:38pm
Hmm a specific time? I remember starting
to feel angry all the time when I was in
9th grade. My mom had remarried. I
started slacking off in school and doing
drugs. I don't know if I would associate
the anger with my mom remarrying. My
father commited suicide when I was 7 and I
was actually glad she was getting
remarried. But then for some odd reason,
I started to despise him. That's when all
of the trouble began, with the bad grades
and drugs. I finally started caring about
school after my mother died. People
always tell me that they can't believe
that I am not crazy. It's so funny
because the more I think about it, the
more I think I am crazy. I have developed
an over eating disorder as well as this
major depression disorder. I will try to
count when I get upset. I just get so
upset so fast. I'm not very good at
writing, but it is an idea that I will
keep in consideration. Thank you for your
ideas. I appreciate them so much.
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edplisner
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 30
Posted: 03-06-06 14:19pm
My advice to you would be trying a
prescription medication such as effexor or
cymbalta, they have proven to be very
effective in even the most severe of
cases. Also, ask your doctor about a
lithium suplement, as you will learn
through basic research taht lithium serves
to balance mood. Finalls, you may seek
herbal remedies containing 5-htp, the
active chemical group in the mood exciting
neurotransmitter serotonin.
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chrishaney
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Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Posts: 5
Re: I Feel Angry And Irritable All the Time. Posted: 03-09-06 16:53pm
davi3165
wrote:
i am constantly angry and
irritable all the time...Does anyone have
any
suggestions?
well... It doesn't hurt to look at it
from a spiritual perspective. Do you go
to church or feel comfort from
spirituallity?
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edplisner
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Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 30
Re: I Feel Angry And Irritable All the Time. Posted: 03-09-06 18:30pm
chrishaney
wrote:
davi3165
wrote:
i am constantly angry and
irritable all the time...Does anyone have
any
suggestions?
well... It doesn't hurt to look at it
from a spiritual perspective. Do you go
to church or feel comfort from
spirituallity?
though many patients do seek spiritual
counseling, consulting a physician should
be a top priority.
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chrishaney
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Posts: 5
Re: I Feel Angry And Irritable All the Time. Posted: 03-09-06 18:43pm
edplisner
wrote:
though many patients do seek spiritual
counseling, consulting a physician should
be a top
priority.
most definately!
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edplisner
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 30
Posted: 03-09-06 22:03pm
I hope this advice has helped you, keep us
updated!
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inhere
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Portugal
Posted: 03-10-06 13:54pm
davi3165
wrote:
I remember starting to
feel angry all the time when I was in 9th
grade. My mom had remarried. I started
slacking off in school and doing drugs.
My father commited suicide when I was 7
and I was actually glad she was getting
remarried. But then for some odd reason,
I started to despise him. That's when
all of the trouble began, with the bad
grades and drugs. I finally started
caring about school after my mother died.
.
i think these events in your life are
definettely important to understand why
you feel the way you do.
The fact that your father commited suicide
is a very important one - it's a very
traumatic event, speccially when you are 7
years old...When you just don't have the
ability to understand why did your father
do that...
Maybe in your child's inconscient mind you
thought that your father killed himself
cause your mom wasn't a good wife,perhaps?
Maybe it was her fault ? That could
explain why you got yourself so angry when
she started another relationship with
another man, maybe in a inconscient way
you thought "how the hell can you do that,
when my father killed himself because of
you?You must remain his wife for ever..."
?? I'm saying this also because when a
person kills him/herself, the people that
knew him/her (speccially their own
children...) have the tendency to idealize
that person and to blame other peoples
behaviours that could, in their mind, have
been the cause of the suicide.
Also there may be a genetic influence to
your development of depression, since your
father was probably depressed too.
davi3165
wrote:
I have developed an over
eating disorder as well as this major
depression disorder. I will try to count
when I get upset. I just get so upset so
fast. I'm not very good at writing, but
it is an idea that I will keep in
consideration. Thank you for your ideas.
I appreciate them so
much.
maybe your use of drugs and skipping
school were the instruments you could
afford to use in order to "let go" off the
feelings of non-understanding why your
mother started loving another man, as well
of some way of telling your mother about
what you feel...
The same for eating disorders... They are
said to fill up our " empy holes", as well
as giving us the feeling thatwe are in
control ... Of ourselves, and therefore
the whole world around us...
I hope you can try to make that
counting,it helped me a lot, its difficult
at first, but remember, man are made of
habits, and in the beginning , every new
thing is difficult cause we're not
acostumed to it, but then, it may actually
be something very natural to do, at least
that happenned to me...
You're welcome...
:d ***
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chrishaney
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 03-10-06 19:12pm
Quote:
the same for eating disorders... They
are said to fill up our " empy holes", as
well as giving us the feeling thatwe are
in control ... Of ourselves, and
therefore the whole world around us...
have you ever looking into a higher
meaning in life like religion? It fills
the mentioned 'empty holes' in alot of
people.
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disneyfanz
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Joined: 28 Aug 2007 Posts: 1 Location: UT
Angry All the Time Posted: 08-28-07 15:24pm
I don't know if anyone will see this,
since the last post was 02/2006
I don't know why I'm feeling this way
irritable. I am on antidepressants
Effexor and Lamictal. I have tried many
of them trying to find one that works. I
am divorced and have 2 boys 7 and 9. I
love them dearly but I am finding I am
very short tempered with them and really
don't want to do anything with anybody. I
don't enjoy anything anymore, I have
gained quite a bit of weight since my
divorce and I am just seriously unhappy
and mad all the time.
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Queenbeejr
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Sep 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Florida
Dear Dizneyfanz Posted: 09-04-07 22:07pm
I know it can be a difficult time when you
have kids and are going through a divorce.
My best friend is doing it now. She has
her ups and downs , and also her outburts
of emotions, which sometimes is anger.
Most of the time it is directed towards
me. Which is okay I guess because she
needs to vent. However, I talked her into
seeing a doctor and a counselor which has
seemed to help. He gave her some medicine
to help deal with the stress. It is not a
weakness. You are going through a lot.
But, so are your kids. You just have to
walk away when you feel angry. They need
you now more than ever. You are going to
be their rock. Try to go to the doctor and
try to explain how you are feeling. He
will help you. Its not a pill that will
knock you out or anything..just a little
something to get you where you were again.
Hope this helps. I am here if you need
someone to talk to.
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zpsmith
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Joined: 15 Oct 2007 Posts: 1
Past the Point of Anger Posted: 10-15-07 19:34pm
i used to be angry all the time when i was
a younger kid. Little things would upset
me. But now ive been this way for so long
im past the point of anger. Im into
depression and my mood is very unstable.
i cant focus on anything. I feel like my
body just wants to shut down and stop
functioning. Does anyone have any advice?
i see a therapist once a week, and am
taking depakote, wellbutrin, and ativan.
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kobiashimarux
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Joined: 20 Jan 2008 Posts: 1
angry solutions Posted: 01-20-08 17:24pm
I get like this from time to time too. I
am not religious (that and the whole
concept make me angry!!) but i do meditate
which i finds shuts off my brain enough so
I can feel calm again. best wishes. Kobi.
