Hi davi! :d

have you tried going to a psychologist or assertiveness / emotional intelligence workshops?

Do you associate your angry state with any recent situation? Something that can make you understand why you're feeling that way?

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Maybe u should try cognitive behavioural therapy or cbt because it helps feelings like this:

what do you enjoy doing more then anything in the world?>

I tried going to a psychologist when I was younger but I remember she always made me more upset. I think that's why I haven't tried one recently. I also don't have health insurance so that doesn't help the situation. I can't say that I associate my anger with any certain situation. It seems that everything makes me mad. Little things that I should let go. I find myself picking on my boyfriend. He says that I have been so sensitive lately. But there actually was one situation with him that has been really bothering me now that I think of it. He had been watching porn on the computer like 2 times a day. He would clear the history so I couldn't see it. I would ask him if he was watching it and he would lie straight to my face and say that he wasn't. I knew that he was watching it. He had forgot to delete the cookies, so the proof was right there. It's so sad that he knew, that I knew, that he was lying. But he still wouldn't fess up. It doesn't bother me that he watches porn... What man doesn't? But the whole thing that has made me feel so bad is the fact that he just kept lying to me about it. I do congratulate him though. He hasn't watched the porn for 3 days. Which I think is a good thing considering the fact he used to watch it twice daily. I think this situation has seriously affected my self esteem and my trust. I really think a psychologist would help me but I just don't have the money for it right now. My low-self esteem and depression are taking over my life. I can't even begin to think of an activity that I enjoy doing more than anything in the world. I can't even think of an activity that I am actually good at.

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sorry for the questionnaire-type reply that i've been giving you... But are you aware of the specific time when you started feeling angry and irritated for the first time ever?
Or have you always been like that?

There's one thing I read about and actually started doing when I was arguying with my mom (she absolutelly drives me away out myself!), I don't know if you heard about it, its simply to turn your back to the other person and start counting, if that doesn't help, leave the place and come back later ... When I started doing this I had to count till 20 until I could actually become more calm, but it really helped...

Another thing was starting to write a journal, where I shared my anger and pain with the paper... It really calmed me down... Do you like to write? It has an additional benefit... Some years from now you'll get to know exactly what happened during these times, you won't forget important things from your life...

What do you think?**

Hmm a specific time? I remember starting to feel angry all the time when I was in 9th grade. My mom had remarried. I started slacking off in school and doing drugs. I don't know if I would associate the anger with my mom remarrying. My father commited suicide when I was 7 and I was actually glad she was getting remarried. But then for some odd reason, I started to despise him. That's when all of the trouble began, with the bad grades and drugs. I finally started caring about school after my mother died. People always tell me that they can't believe that I am not crazy. It's so funny because the more I think about it, the more I think I am crazy. I have developed an over eating disorder as well as this major depression disorder. I will try to count when I get upset. I just get so upset so fast. I'm not very good at writing, but it is an idea that I will keep in consideration. Thank you for your ideas. I appreciate them so much.

My advice to you would be trying a prescription medication such as effexor or cymbalta, they have proven to be very effective in even the most severe of cases. Also, ask your doctor about a lithium suplement, as you will learn through basic research taht lithium serves to balance mood. Finalls, you may seek herbal remedies containing 5-htp, the active chemical group in the mood exciting neurotransmitter serotonin.

well... It doesn't hurt to look at it from a spiritual perspective. Do you go to church or feel comfort from spirituallity?

though many patients do seek spiritual counseling, consulting a physician should be a top priority.

most definately!

I hope this advice has helped you, keep us updated!

i think these events in your life are definettely important to understand why you feel the way you do.

The fact that your father commited suicide is a very important one - it's a very traumatic event, speccially when you are 7 years old...When you just don't have the ability to understand why did your father do that...

Maybe in your child's inconscient mind you thought that your father killed himself cause your mom wasn't a good wife,perhaps? Maybe it was her fault ? That could explain why you got yourself so angry when she started another relationship with another man, maybe in a inconscient way you thought "how the hell can you do that, when my father killed himself because of you?You must remain his wife for ever..." ?? I'm saying this also because when a person kills him/herself, the people that knew him/her (speccially their own children...) have the tendency to idealize that person and to blame other peoples behaviours that could, in their mind, have been the cause of the suicide.

Also there may be a genetic influence to your development of depression, since your father was probably depressed too.



maybe your use of drugs and skipping school were the instruments you could afford to use in order to "let go" off the feelings of non-understanding why your mother started loving another man, as well of some way of telling your mother about what you feel...

The same for eating disorders... They are said to fill up our " empy holes", as well as giving us the feeling thatwe are in control ... Of ourselves, and therefore the whole world around us...

I hope you can try to make that counting,it helped me a lot, its difficult at first, but remember, man are made of habits, and in the beginning , every new thing is difficult cause we're not acostumed to it, but then, it may actually be something very natural to do, at least that happenned to me...

You're welcome...
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have you ever looking into a higher meaning in life like religion? It fills the mentioned 'empty holes' in alot of people.

I don't know if anyone will see this, since the last post was 02/2006
I don't know why I'm feeling this way irritable. I am on antidepressants Effexor and Lamictal. I have tried many of them trying to find one that works. I am divorced and have 2 boys 7 and 9. I love them dearly but I am finding I am very short tempered with them and really don't want to do anything with anybody. I don't enjoy anything anymore, I have gained quite a bit of weight since my divorce and I am just seriously unhappy and mad all the time.

I know it can be a difficult time when you have kids and are going through a divorce. My best friend is doing it now. She has her ups and downs , and also her outburts of emotions, which sometimes is anger. Most of the time it is directed towards me. Which is okay I guess because she needs to vent. However, I talked her into seeing a doctor and a counselor which has seemed to help. He gave her some medicine to help deal with the stress. It is not a weakness. You are going through a lot. But, so are your kids. You just have to walk away when you feel angry. They need you now more than ever. You are going to be their rock. Try to go to the doctor and try to explain how you are feeling. He will help you. Its not a pill that will knock you out or anything..just a little something to get you where you were again. Hope this helps. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

i used to be angry all the time when i was a younger kid. Little things would upset me. But now ive been this way for so long im past the point of anger. Im into depression and my mood is very unstable. i cant focus on anything. I feel like my body just wants to shut down and stop functioning. Does anyone have any advice? i see a therapist once a week, and am taking depakote, wellbutrin, and ativan.

I get like this from time to time too. I am not religious (that and the whole concept make me angry!!) but i do meditate which i finds shuts off my brain enough so I can feel calm again. best wishes. Kobi.

religion is the answer for weak and stupid people - try to meditate, control yourself, and avoid self indulgence. It is only a project if you let it be one....

my boyfriend is feeling irritable all the time. not angry really butt the smallest things irritate and annoy him, things like bad drivers, people at work, life in general. he says he feels like he is constantly irritated all the time. His work is working him alot and we never see eachother as i work 7am to 3pm and he works 2pm to 10 pm. Whenever someone calls in sick he gets called in to take there place and he wont say no because we just barely get by anyways. he says he doesnt feel like he is making enough to do what he wants and he isnt going anywhere in life. he says that this has been building for a year or more and he doesnt know what to do. he has broken up with me saying he doesnt want it to end badly. and he needs to figure out what is going on.
Does anyone have any ideas??
I have been looking into low testosterone and things like that but i dont know if i should share the information i have found with him i dont want him to think i am trying to fix him.

I went to a good doctor in Santa Monica,CA who gave me Lexapro & Zolof. I was fortunate that one worked well for me.

After my insurance stopped, I kept buying it online at ValuePharmaceuticals.com which based in New Zealand.
As long as the products are not generic, their Lexapro was as good as the doctor's samples. But Lexapro causes weight gain. So, 2 years gained weight, now after stopping, I manage 2 years of loosing weight. Better taking the medication than never.

ValuePharmaceuticals had given great service.
Even though I went to church with good friends, I had chemical imbalance that need to be solved physically.