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Q: Still No Orgasms

asked by: EmmaLemma on February 27th, 2006

New User

Hi everyone. This is my first time here and i'm hoping that I can get some help, i'm desperate. I'm 20 and i've been having sex for about 3 years with my one and only partner. Like many other women have stated in past threads, I can't orgasm. I've read through all relevant posts on this board but nothing has worked yet. I've tried seriously relaxing, numerous positions, creams, vibrators, toys, breathing... Etc etc. It seems like i've tried it all. My boyfriend is wonderful in bed and he is very accommodating for what I need to feel. Still, nothing. I can get seemingly close, my legs will shake and all that jazz but I can't get beyond that level. I've been stuck at that stage for over half an hour and I can't bring myself to climax. I'm familiar with my body and I do masturbate but I can't achieve orgasm even when i'm going solo (even though it can feel really really good). I've tried it over and over and over... And just recently it's begun to really agitate me. My boyfriend takes it personally which doesn't help the matter. I've come to tears after great sex because I can't orgasm... It's starting to ruin my love life. If anyone can give me serious advice i'd greatly appreciate it!

Replies(4)

penelope67

replied on February 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Ok, this is going to sound weird, but I am going to tell you my surefire way of having an orgasm. First word-foreplay-lots of it. Then after he enters you if you are really turned on, you will want to touch yourself-do it. If you arent really turned on wait till you are turned on enough to work for that orgasm. After you are really turned on tighten your vaginal muscles, and hold your breath-i think you will notice this feels amazing. Obviously let your breath out when you dont want to hold it anymore, but holding your breath and closing your eyes and imagining something arousing and tightening your muscles is the easiest way to move up to the next plateau. Keep massaging your clit and find the spot on your clit that feels the best (the very most sensitive part), and do not stray your fingers from that spot. Keep alternating of holding your breath for as long as you can and in many times in a row as you can. Then you will feel that shaky feeling and you will know that the orgasm is coming-just keep doing what your doing and let it go-dont be scared or weary-just try your damndest, and if this all doesnt work for you-i have no idea what the heck would.

penelope67

replied on February 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Hey some other guy in the other no orgasm thread said there is a supplement called sentia that you can take and it worked for his wife. And to add to above, dont think to hard about trying to have an orgasm and try not to get distracted, just be in the moment, otherwise it wont happen. I must sound like an orgasm machine or something, but there are nights when I cant get there either.

engelrosa

replied on March 1st, 2006

New User

I have a similar problem I cant orgasm with my partner, in the year we have been together I have managed twice, I can do it when going solo but not with him around. Im like you I seem to get close and cant get over the edge. Unfortunatly iv not found anything that works short of laying on your tummy with a vibrator on your clit while he makes love to you, thats all I can do to get a result, if he is using the vibrator though I cant cum... Weird.

tinkerbellnm

replied on March 4th, 2006

New User

I Had the Same Problem, Here Is a Sure Fire Way to Help

The best thing for you to do is to get your partner to use his hands, when your legs start to shake the tense every muscle you have in your body. When you feel like you really are going to come but usually dont tense your body again, especially you buttock and your legs, point your toes and tense hunny, just tense. That is how I started to cum for the first time being the age of 19. I am was very embarrassed but my partner reassured me and helped me through. You just have to have patience. You can masturbate on your stomach but dont just move your hand, move your body (or your bum preferably) from side to side fast, after a while tense your legs then release, tense then release. Then one last go and tense but dont stop tensing. I am sure this will work. Sorry if it doesnt but it always worked for me. Once you have cum once then keep practising and listen to your body. A woman cums mostly in her head so think really good thoughts and dont be negative, also think about where his hands are or think of something that really turns you on when you are trying. Have fun and dont give up, keep trying babes.

Natasha

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