Overcoming a Safety Mechanism From Enjoying Sex Posted: 02-27-06 12:01pm
I am having real problems enjoying sex,
its not new I have always had this problem
but the people iv been with tend to be a
one night stand or general shag partner
and so I fake it and abit of fun. I know
that I need to do something about it if I
am to ever fully enjoy sex, there is
obviously underlieing priniples which have
affected why I dont particularly enjoy
intercourse, there is something that stops
me and freaks me out about getting to
close to coming and no matter how much I
want to something inside me cuts off.
Theres someone I realy like at the moment
and I am worried I am going to lose them
if things dont change and I dont sort this
out for myself for now and the future.
How do you oversome a safety mechanism
which was set because of something that
happenned years ago, and stops you getting
to close to anyone...? Help
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dannyboygirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Ayyye Girl Posted: 02-27-06 12:17pm
Its good that you have that safety net up
but you only get 1 life to live. Im not
saying have sex with him but explore your
options. Girl we all use to do that at
one point fake like its good just to have
someone hold you at night or just to get
close. Follow your instincts when you
meet the right guy he will work really
hard to break that safety net and if no
one else is really trying to break it
leave it up. And no more one night stands
mami because they do come back to haunt
you sometimes especially when you find
someone you're happy with. Some people
get that when they are raped or molested.
Take your time honey don't rush sex you
want to make love its so much better
trust. I feel like this just date and
kiss and maybe 2nd base. If he respects
you he won't want to do it til your ready
no rushing cuz then its back to faking it
again. You want someone who adores the
ground you walk on and wants nothing but
the best. You deserve respect and when
you get that and you trust that he is not
using you for sex your net will go down..
Its just your body's way of protecting
itself from being harmed. Good luck
sweets your beautiful remember that always
:d
