I will say, having been divorced now for 5 months, that seems like it will be easier to "work things out" in a marriage, than to start over.

You may have shut that door by having an affair. Consider this, if you will cheat on your wife, will your mistress ever be able to fully trust you?

Also, quilt is a main cause of unhappiness, or lack of inner peace, so if you stay with you wife without telling her, will you ever be happy? And if you do tell her, can she ever trust you?

Sorry to be so negative, but just want to keep it real for you.

Advice:..............Tell wife, see what happens............If she is willing to work on it...........You have a good woman..........And that is worth keeping.

If she can not forgive you.............Good luck........My advice.

In affairs. The newness will wear and if it's truly love if she's in a relationship it that much harder, i'm dealing now. Leaving a marriage is harder than you think. I didn't have the guts myself.

I wish you the best!

You should have communicated a long time ago with your wife before you just went out and fell in love with another woman! You've broken the trust in your marriage and it could also effect the relationship that you're in with the other woman, if that's the route you choose to go.

There are several things that ya'll could have done to reconcile this marriage and it seems to me like you didn't even give that a chance. Of course, i'm not there and I don't know what all you've done or not done. You need to tell your wife about your infidelity and truly have a heart to heart talk. You also need to really decide what you want out of life and where you see yourself in 10 years. Listen to your heart and be true to yourself! This relationship you're in with your mistress is new, so of course it's gonna make you feel young and refreshed because it's different from the same ol' same ol'.

Communicate with your wife and figure out what both of ya'll really want. Someone's gonna get hurt ... It's a part of life. You have to deal with it. Good luck!