I need some help, I have a big problem. I am a married man and have been for 10 years. For the last 3-4 years I have been falling farther and farther out of love for her. We are still very good friends but I dont feel like I am in love with her any more. Ok, now what I need your help with. I met some one else. This person is so great I have been seeing her for about 5 months now and I really feel like I am in love with her. She makes me feel like im a kid again. I really see this woman in every thoght I have about me futare. I have 30 of my life I will need to leave behind to be with her and of all the material things to leave, I could care less, my only concern is hurting my wife and leaving her by herself. Please help me and give me some advice. Thank you.
You should have communicated a long time ago with your wife before you just went out and fell in love with another woman! You've broken the trust in your marriage and it could also effect the relationship that you're in with the other woman, if that's the route you choose to go.
There are several things that ya'll could have done to reconcile this marriage and it seems to me like you didn't even give that a chance. Of course, i'm not there and I don't know what all you've done or not done. You need to tell your wife about your infidelity and truly have a heart to heart talk. You also need to really decide what you want out of life and where you see yourself in 10 years. Listen to your heart and be true to yourself! This relationship you're in with your mistress is new, so of course it's gonna make you feel young and refreshed because it's different from the same ol' same ol'.
Communicate with your wife and figure out what both of ya'll really want. Someone's gonna get hurt ... It's a part of life. You have to deal with it. Good luck!