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Q: Stopping Premature Ejaculation?

asked by: analasco on February 24th, 2006

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So here's the deal. Lately I can't last more than a couple of minutes. I can usually last a lot longer. It is frustrating for me and my girlfriend. I know there are stresses involved - work primarily. When stressed, I just want to climax and relax. I have explained this to my girlfriend. I like going at it more than once, and progressively last longer but she is more into one long "event". (we're working on that.) but even with my schedule, an all night bacchanal just isn't in the cards.

I have tried not thinking about getting off, or pleasing her (too much pressure) or listening to her as she nears climax (that always makes me climax quicker). I was thinking of using a "desensitizer" as a temporary solution.

My question is if anyone has used desensitizers on their penis, if that has worked or are there any side effects. I am also concerned that the desensitizer will rub off in her vagina and basically make it harder for her to climax. Does that happen?

Any advice in solving this age-old problem would be greatly appreciated.

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Marshal3

replied on February 27th, 2006

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Re: Stopping Premature Ejaculation?

analasco wrote:

so here's the deal. Lately I can't last more than a couple of minutes. I can usually last a lot longer. It is frustrating for me and my girlfriend. I know there are stresses involved - work primarily. When stressed, I just want to climax and relax. I have explained this to my girlfriend. I like going at it more than once, and progressively last longer but she is more into one long "event". (we're working on that.) but even with my schedule, an all night bacchanal just isn't in the cards.

I have tried not thinking about getting off, or pleasing her (too much pressure) or listening to her as she nears climax (that always makes me climax quicker). I was thinking of using a "desensitizer" as a temporary solution.

My question is if anyone has used desensitizers on their penis, if that has worked or are there any side effects. I am also concerned that the desensitizer will rub off in her vagina and basically make it harder for her to climax. Does that happen?

Any advice in solving this age-old problem would be greatly appreciated.

dude-
ok, first I recommend you not trying kegel exercises. I did that and it made it 100 times worse. I ejaculate upon penetration now. The first thing you should do is cut out caffeine. You should eat lots of nuts and fruits and vegetables. You need to take a good multivitamin daily which can be found at gnc. Also, it would be good if you stay active. Run or workout at least 30 minutes a day. I promise you all this will help you last longer. You can also take a look at Herbolove.Com. I have tried lastlonger iii supplement on there and it helped me a little. But, it takes alot to help me because I have damaged my pc muscle from over using it. Another thing you can try is when you feel you are about to go.....Just stop, don't move and don't let her move. Stay still for about a minute or so. You can also slowly pull out and massage the base of your penis on both sides, but don't touch your penis. This will calm you. When you feel you can go again, slowly go back to it. I hope this helps.

patch38

replied on February 28th, 2006

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Re: Stopping Premature Ejaculation?

analasco wrote:

i had exactly the same problems as you so please note that this is very common, especially when stress is involved. I agree with the above post that kegel exercises may not be the best, the 1 good thing they do is make you aware of the point of no return - in no way can they stop you from ejaculating though so I would not bother. If you know when you are going to ejaculate, stop. Have a rest, do something else with your girlfriend.

It may be frustrating but it cant be any worse than the event being over before both of you are having fun. I would not advise going at it more than once, the problem will still be there - all that is happening is your pressure and stress levels are dropping. You need to deal with these in order to get your sex life back on track.

Personally, I found that not obsessing about giving my girlfriend orgasms through penetration took a lot of pressure off. As men we seem to be obssessed that this is the only way, which is bs. Enjoy doing other stuff with your girlfriend, try and laugh, joke, have fun, practice stopping and starting during intercourse - if you cant stop and ejacualte then do so. Most girls are flattered that a guy wants them that badly.

But ultimately relax. I know its easier said than done but itsa common problem. You brain its dealing with other problems (stress, etc) and its letting you know through your penis.

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